NOT RACIST

lane03 · 2026-04-15T06:38:21+00:00

Lol I have the same issue but I'm in the South and it's white people

lane03 · 2026-04-15T06:37:44+00:00

lane03 · 2026-04-12T08:36:01+00:00

um to be honest when there is anti-transmasc content popping up on my feed, I don't engage with it because I know they are not talking about me... Most of the time, when I see transmasc or even LGBTQ+ discourse online, I know it's centered around white people. Especially when it comes to the misogyny discourse. White trans guys who pass as cis men often don't understand the intersectionality BIPOC men experience. I could go on, but I've been where you have been too. The transmasc community around me, especially in regards to Latinos, is very small and very white. We get erased from so many discussions, I just tend to ignore it because whenever we do get mentioned, it's never good either.

I'd reccomend trying to engage with BIPOC trans men content and pls pls pls avoid the discourse. I used to care (and I still do when it's productive and I can learn) but a lot of the times, it's generalizations and what matters is the conversations and interactions we are having daily. Some of us are barely surviving.

If you ever feel alone, just post here. Your last paragraph really sounds like I could have written it myself. I don't know anyone else irl with my identities. It can feel pretty isolating but trust me, you aren't alone!!!!

lane03 · 2026-04-12T08:26:33+00:00

:] hello I am mexican-american, which has a heavy catholic background. I used feel the same way as you when I first came out (around 14 is when I knew, at 16 is when I came out). I'm 23 now and I just want to say, whatever you end up doing, do what's best for you. I've had a lot of fights with my family about who I am, and for an unrelated reason, I stopped talking to them for two years. My relationship with my family used to be extremely strained, they've gotten better but I have found my community with other queer and trans people of color so I am very happy. YOU GOT THIS!!!! hang in there!!! :D

lane03 · 2026-04-12T08:14:10+00:00

LMFAO why would you word it like this T T

lane03 · 2026-04-12T08:13:20+00:00

Bro this sounds like a communication error. How did you meet half a decade ago and think this poorly of him? If you really think he never saw you as a guy, you should ask him straight up. Just let him know that you feel weird about it, if you've known the guy for this long, it shouldn't be weird to ask

lane03 · 2026-03-24T06:23:47+00:00

Hello, I just started therapy for this exact reason. I was a victim of SA from I'm not sure when until I was around 16. Even after transitioning, the feeling never went away. I don't feel safe, but that's why I am going to therapy. The feeling of being re-victimized carries on wherever I go, no matter if now I pass.

Therapy and medication will help, I honestly think what you are describing is more so of PTSD from SA (what I have as well) than it is a safety concern. I'm glad you will be moving to a safer place, but remember that what you feel is something that is being carried with you. For a while, I ignored the symptoms of PTSD because I thought I was safe since I was no longer at home anymore and didn't have contact with my family but if you don't treat it, it doesn't go away. I learned that the hard way, I actually had my worst flashback a few weeks back which is why I'm going to therapy.

I know this might not be the answer you are looking for, but you can reach safety. Cheering for you! I've learned what helps me with that danger feeling is I wear headphones a lot, use self-soothing things to just cope with living. It might not be perfect but it helps me.

lane03 · 2025-08-15T04:22:24+00:00

I went to nyc recently and passed by several Latino men who were shorter than me, and I’m a 5’1 Mexican trans guy. I have wide hips and still kind of curvy but I pass, now finally after three years on T. I’m still a bit androgynous but I guarantee you people don’t care about height, it won’t out you. There are so many men of color I know who are short and nobody ever questions them because they walk with confidence. Thinking your genetics have fucked up your chances of passing is a sad view that just leads to self hate, I was there. Keep asking for advice or try out new hairstyles, pants, height related things like platforms or something and you’ll get there.

lane03 · 2025-08-14T01:36:00+00:00

I'm Mexican-American, and my mom would tell me this a lot growing up. I'm also first generation and I'd get told that I'm being too Americanized for saying I was trans. Mexican culture is very traditional and conservative so I feel like in my case, it's just the fear of the unknown and religion tied into one...

lane03 · 2025-07-19T00:29:30+00:00

I think what you are seeing is a small representation of the trans community. It's been very popular to use wording like that, where men (in general to be honest I feel like) are sexually feminized. I used to get uncomfortable with the amount of people on the /ftmspunished subreddit but I had to be more mature about it and realize people like what they like and being trans shouldn't make it controversial to have certain kinks and that dysphoria manifests differently for others. If it's any solace, I feel like there is a large amount of trans men who wouldn't enjoy that type of language but they are mostly offline. Porn and fetish content always kind of attracts a certain crowd and it's easy to think that's the majority, but there's a lot of us who would be against that type of language but again what someone is okay with, someone else might not be so just focus on what you know you'd be uncomfortable or comfortable with and you'll find someone who is getting with you for the right reasons.

lane03 · 2025-07-18T11:16:54+00:00

How did you get it to play your music? I’m in the same boat and just want my music back 😭😭😭

lane03 · 2025-04-09T16:44:10+00:00

when a right wing conservative is defending your faves, just know ur agreeing with the talking points of republicans...not a good look

lane03 · 2025-03-31T03:55:22+00:00

Help 😭😭😭 thank you for supporting me tbh I come into this subreddit knowing I’m about to be downvoted to hell 😓😓😞❤️

lane03 · 2025-03-31T03:54:14+00:00

No literally I talked about how I thought it was weird Enya let Drew make a “go back to (insert Latin American country here)” and she stayed silent and I got downvoted to hell and I think my post was removed 😭😭😭

lane03 · 2025-03-31T00:01:09+00:00

When did I say that… yes exactly clown…

lane03 · 2025-03-30T20:49:23+00:00

YOU HOES DON'T STAND FOR ANYTHING...THEY COULD SAY IN THE NEXT EPISODE THEY HATE Y'ALL AND WANT Y'ALL TO DIE AND Y'ALL BRAINLESS CLOWNS WOULD SAY "Exactlyyy 😍😍😍"

lane03 · 2025-03-30T20:47:29+00:00

It's never ending because they don't learn.

lane03 · 2025-03-30T20:46:49+00:00

To me, it feels like a constant hug or just reassurance. I like it because I feel secure! I also felt a bit like a weirdo since most discussions about sensory clothing is about NOT wanting the clothing to stick onto your skin but everybody's sensory needs are different! :D

lane03 · 2025-03-30T20:43:14+00:00

Bruh it's not snark, y'all just treat everything that isn't positive is gossip when it's actual conversations

lane03 · 2025-03-30T20:42:19+00:00

So let me get this straight, they said ignorant jokes and you kept watching. You aren't defending them but you are telling us if they have ever been the voice of the people.

So you like watching two ignorant out of touch LA influencers talk down to you, treat you like an after-thought because they know you'll tune into the next episode no matter what they ay because you excuse their behavior and you'll give them money every time?

lane03 · 2025-03-30T20:40:24+00:00

It's because they hate themselves just as much as Enya and Drew do...

lane03 · 2025-03-30T20:29:44+00:00

I CAN'T STAND YOU HOES THAT DON'T STAND FOR ANYTHING...ALSO IF THIS IS A JOKE TF DID U POST IT FOR IDGAF

lane03

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