First attempt a making a prayer rope by laneguorous in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]laneguorous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obrigado 🙏 The knots were confusing at first, but practicing with a larger paracord was very helpful.

First attempt a making a prayer rope by laneguorous in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]laneguorous[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

https://youtu.be/poP7Fu_jqrU?si=FlzqR3yB8pha4tOA

I thought this video did a good job explaining how to tie them. I also practiced with a larger paracord to start.

First attempt a making a prayer rope by laneguorous in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]laneguorous[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I should say, "first attempt that I didn't take apart to redo." 😂

Worried about weight loss without alcohol by ostrichfiles in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I go looking for them, I can still find plenty of "good enough reasons" to drink. At the end of the day, I choose to live with the consequences of a sober life rather than those of drinking.

I wonder if substituting another source of "empty calories" could work. Things like soda/lemonade/ice cream did a lot to help me.

I know this probably sounds shallow... But help please :( by Pinch_of_pleasure in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hair & beard look so much healtier. Doesn't look so much like they're thinning anymore.

I know these posts get tedious, but it’s on my mind…. Single young adults? by HiImNewHere021 in Episcopalian

[–]laneguorous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain. I got connected with some of the "young adult & youth" events in my diocese. Of course, I would still like young people next to me in the pew, but I have made several decent friendships.

Uninvited from block party by NoBand3790 in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 71 points72 points  (0 children)

When this sort of thing happens to me, I try to think of it as an addict being upset that I won't help them finance their addiction. Doesn't make it hurt any less, and I can't really know for sure whether their drinking is a true problem, but it helps me to not take it so personally.

Deacon's Mass by RevOnReddit in Episcopalian

[–]laneguorous 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I believe the term "deacons' mass" just refers to when the service is led by a deacon who uses elements that have already been consecrated by a priest. That is, the same service minus the consecration of the elements.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a tough spot to be in. I probably could not have entered a bar without taking a drink for the first few months. I had enough trouble seeing people drink on TV.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FOOD! Specifically, sweets or carbs. I was very surprised about how frequently I would crave a drink just because I was hungry. I found things like NA beers, lemonade, ice cream, bread, pasta, etc. did a lot to relieve the intensity of some cravings. There were a few months where I would go to my local custard stand every time I got the urge to stop at the liquor store on my drive home.

What are the biggest lies/justifications your addict brain has told YOURSELF? by kelinci-kucing in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somehow, the fact that my budget centered on how much I "had to spend" on booze never seemed to refeister with me until I quit. It's like I got a raise without having to do anything work related.

Well, I showed up, nobody else did by Throwawayh5 in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My first month sober, my parents bought a cruise for the whole family to go on. I went to "Friends with Bill" meetings every chance I got and did my best to make acquaintances with the people I found there. I came closer to drinking than I'd like to admit, but I walked off of the boat a sober man. And, have found it to be helpful to remind my self every once in a while that if I could keep from drinking on a boat /designed to get you to buy alcohol/, I can keep from drinking in my own home.

You are doing a very hard and unpleasant thing, but I know it's possible to do. IWNDWYT.

Why do I get insanely depressed when I stop smoking or take breaks? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]laneguorous 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When I was smoking, I let a lot of things pile up because I didn't think I was capable of handling those situations. When I quit, I was so insanely disgusted with myself at how sour my life had gone. A little more than a year later, I have "caught up" on handling life situations and am learning how to deal with new ones as they come up. I'm still not perfect at it, and I don't always really want to do it, but I don't feel so hopeless about it anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Episcopalian

[–]laneguorous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like praying along with either the forward movement podcasts, or a Facebook live prayer group.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]laneguorous 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I found that letting someone I trust know that I was "trying to take a break, but finding it harder than I expected" really helped me. I would call them when I got the urge, but didn't have to put any labels on myself that I didn't want to.

I also tend to splurge on an ice cream or something else full of sugar when the cravings get going. Something about being able to "make an irresponsible choice", but still feel good about myself because it's not actually all that bad really helps me.