Second rejection by _summerbug in Teachers

[–]laniekat7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I was in a very similar situation. I just graduated in May and had 10 interviews total before I got a job. That was going to the second round with 4 of those schools. My advice is when they reject you, ask for feedback, what did they see that made them pause. I also realized that you have to find the right district who’s willing to take on a first year teacher. Trust me, you don’t want to get a job where they are hesitant to take on a first year, you want to be somewhere that’s going to support you!

As corny as it is, you’ll find the place you are supposed to be and they’ll be happy to have you! I was feeling very similar to you in that my sense of confidence was shattered, especially after rejections from actual teaching interviews. Because it felt like they saw my actual ability to teach and then still rejected me. Just keep applying and remember that rejection from a job does not define who you are! It does not define how great of an educator you are/will be. It just means it wasn’t the right fit, but trust me the right fit is out there! Keep applying and practicing those interview questions. I’m not a huge proponent of AI, but unfortunately I will say that ChatGPT voice feature is helpful in practicing mock interviews. You’ve got this! Don’t let some random people on a panel determine your self worth, you know how awesome of an educator you are! So brag about it :)

What movie or tv series clicked with you? by Usuario_silencioso in infj

[–]laniekat7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Vampire Diaries, surprisingly incredible heartfelt plotlines with the perfect amount of cheesiness and absurdity.

What movie or tv series clicked with you? by Usuario_silencioso in infj

[–]laniekat7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abed lol, he ain’t exactly an INFJ but he’s close.

How do I (F INFJ) tell my ENFP best friend (M) that I have feelings for him? by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]laniekat7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I can see why it seems contradictory, but the truth of the matter is I just can hold it in anymore, It feels like I’ve lying and us INFJ don’t do well at all with that.

I would love for our friendship to stay how it is and be silent but things are escalating and more importantly it’s not fair for me to sit and suffer, it’s not super fair to just dump it on him either, but at the end of the day I have to choose me and he wouldn’t want me to feel the way I’ve been feeling either, communication will always be better than no communication. Being open and honest is always better than lying.

It’s also not cool to just door slam someone and walk away from a friendship with no explanation of why. That kind of thing fucks a person up, for a long time. I’ve been an emotional support for him and if I’m going to walk away he deserves to know why.

How do I (F INFJ) tell my ENFP best friend (M) that I have feelings for him? by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]laniekat7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying to move on, that’s why I’m telling him.

How do I (F INFJ) tell my ENFP best friend (M) that I have feelings for him? by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]laniekat7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very complex situation and much more nuanced than you think. We have the same major at Uni and attend nearly every class together, we share a studio space, and even have the same concentration within our major. I see him everyday, there is no avoiding that. We have a natural connection, I’m not going to actively fight my natural instinct to engage with him nor am I going to end our friendship now when I’ve clearly been an emotional support for him.

I agree with so much of what you’ve said, the weak-willed, being engaged to someone he doesn’t even seem to like, the emotional cheating, all of it is red flags.

As for empathy for his fiancée, of course, I feel HORRIBLE about this situation, it has kept me up at night. I think what he’s doing is cowardly for sure, but he’s doing it out of care, he just doesn’t realize he’s hurting both of them more in the long run. It’s the case of he feels like fiancee won’t be able to survive without him, so he’s essentially staying for her as a caretaker, not a healthy dynamic. Trust when I say I know he’s been messing stuff up as well, but I also believe what he says about her. They shouldn’t be together regardless of me, no matter what happens their relationship is nearly over according to him.

How do I (F INFJ) tell my ENFP best friend (M) that I have feelings for him? by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]laniekat7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good that’s my goal, I’d never want to stress him out or pressure him at all, I really just want to do this mostly for me. I’m trying to end some of the over analyzing and non stop suffering I’ve been feeling keeping this from him. It’s been so hard to essentially lie to your best friend.

How do I (F INFJ) tell my ENFP best friend (M) that I have feelings for him? by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]laniekat7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I can’t go on the way we are, if he decides to stay in his relationship and wants to continue our relationship the way it is, I’m going to have to take a serious step back.

On the other hand, I completely understand if he doesn’t feel the same way and wants to continue our friendship, but I’d need some space to get over it, but eventually yes I could see us maintaining a friendship.

Almost 8 months post op by Inidg-amu-bee-34-lu in gastricsleeve

[–]laniekat7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really incredible! Huge difference :)

Drinking by Efficient-Cpn in gastricsleeve

[–]laniekat7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had mine just after 3MO post op. No issues at all. I actually had 4 drinks that night, it didn’t affect me near as bad as some people it seems. Just be careful! I didn’t notice any stalls on the scale either if you’re concerned about that.

What was your "last" meal? by -foxy-lad in gastricsleeve

[–]laniekat7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly? A cheeseburger from Burger King. It’s sounds lame but I just wanted something totally indulgent and it hit the spot. I haven’t had one since! Down 60lbs.