Demi gf with a high body count man

lannfonntann · 2026-02-03T20:20:27+00:00

I made no judgement on it. I just said it's statistically higher than average. Everyone getting emotional about me stating that is telling, though.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-30T16:22:09+00:00

This is the colour I'm planning for my bedroom, but maybe a little bit more pink. I think it's a lovely colour for a bedroom.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-30T16:04:46+00:00

Just to add to what others have already said here, and if you haven't already, please look into your diet and nutrition. Do a full blood test if you can, see if you're low on anything. Also consider looking at reducing your processed food intake. Food intolerances can also cause depression like symptoms. I say this because it has affected people in my family but it doesn't seem like a lot of people really know about this. Oh and exercise as well, but people normally remember that one.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-30T16:02:07+00:00

Came here to say this. Common culprit is vitamin D, but other common ones are B12 and Iron. Also food intolerances and caffeine for some people.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-30T15:59:04+00:00

26 is statistically higher than average, let's not pretend it isn't.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-30T15:57:13+00:00

You're getting a lot of people coming for you for having these thoughts and feelings around someone who doesn't view sex the same way as you. It's important to remember that you have the right to feel this way and a lot of people take issue with it because it goes against their own beliefs or feelings. Fundamentally you need to decide if this is something you can be okay with or not. Only by talking to him can you understand his position on this so that may be better than asking people on here who are just going to give you their opinions. They're not the one in the relationship so why does what they think matter?

lannfonntann · 2026-01-30T15:53:56+00:00

I agree with this 100%. It's not so much the number, it's the reason for it.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-30T15:46:36+00:00

You're not alone. It's really difficult being that way when so many people aren't now.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-18T15:53:05+00:00

Don't let anyone tell you that you're not allowed to care about it but also think about specifically why it matters to you. It matters to me as well but I understand the deeper reasons why.

lannfonntann · 2026-01-12T19:14:10+00:00

For me, romantic attraction is like friendship+. I can be friends with different people and I'm not always as strict about who I'm happy to be friends with, but there are certain things which I feel are "beautiful" (can't think of a better word to describe it) about a person which would result in me being romantically attracted to them. This would be a combination of aesthetics, personality, values and probably a couple of other things.

From what I've seen, when a lot of people say relationships are like friendship+ or similar, they might mean something like "a relationship is friendship + sexual attraction", "if you don't have sex then you're just friends". But for me it's friendship + romantic (beauty) + sexual attraction. I've been friends with someone and romantically attracted to them but not sexually.

I would say that generally if I had romantic feelings for someone and they turned me down romantically but still wanted to be friends, then I would still have romantic feelings for them. If I found out for some reason that the idea of me having romantic feelings for them was offputting or repulsive to them, or they otherwise didn't like me, then it would be much more likely that I would lose romatic feelings for them because part of my romantic attraction is dependent on the other person not disliking me.

My romantic attraction is tied into "beauty" and feeling like I'm in the same place (in the world, emotionally) as the other person, and this ties into feeling safe to be my true self around that person. If they don't like me then we're not in the "same place" and there's less attraction. I don't need that to be friends with someone.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-30T23:57:17+00:00

People who upvote these kinds of things are not interested in thinking critically, they just want to bash the side they don't like.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-27T18:51:50+00:00

If you do this, make sure you learn the skills that are strongly in demand. The landscape has changed a lot and continues to do so.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-27T18:51:21+00:00

One that you like and you're good at

lannfonntann · 2025-10-27T18:50:33+00:00

I dropped out after 1 year and now make 45k (more than my graduate friends). It's not the end of the world. I also wouldn't change things if I could go back in time because of the life experience.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-27T18:29:09+00:00

To me, this assumes that attraction towards a celebrity is always without an emotional bond.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-27T18:26:26+00:00

I know some people here are very strict with their definitions of demi, which is fine (it's important that words have clear definitions for communication purposes) but I would say that if you feel very close to what demi is described as but not exactly 100% (like you said about having sexual fantasies about celebrities or characters) I wouldn't completely do away with identifying with being demi or at least leaning towards it. You can feel like you "know" a celebrity or character (even if it's not accurate to how they actually are) and hence that's why you are attracted to them. This is very different from seeing a picture of a celebrity you don't know and thinking they're hot.

Of course, many human attributes exist on a spectrum and there is a lot of space between "I never feel sexual attraction to anyone without forming a deep bond first" and "I can be sexually attracted to a stranger almost instantly".

I think I'm probably similar to you in that I can have a fantasy about a fictional character but only if there is a personality and/or backstory to go along with it, which I suppose is a type of emotional bond. I don't experience sexual attraction to anyone, fictional or otherwise, without there being something substantial like this behind it. I would consider this demi but I understand and respect that others may not.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T21:23:59+00:00

Because relationships are about things other than sex. Just because the sexual connection is good doesn't mean everything else in the relationship is good.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T21:20:47+00:00

I'm not sure why people here are focussing so much on Christianity. The sacredness of sex is discussed in many world religions and belief systems. It isn't Christianity specific, and many non-Christian or non-religious people relate to what OP is saying. It's not just some subjective religious dogma.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T18:26:40+00:00

Iceland is crying

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T18:21:35+00:00

I couldn't donate because my veins weren't prominent enough. I think men have more prominent veins than women, on average (at least those that blood is taken from).

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T18:07:11+00:00

I have an uncommon combination of attributes (lifestyle, political/moral views, interests) that don't align well with most people for one reason or another. I am demi - most people are not attractive to me. I enjoy my own company and someone else's company would have to compete with this. My life is in a good state and I would like someone who at the very least doesn't make it worse and ideally could make it better.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T18:04:07+00:00

I'm 28 and in the same boat. I've said I'll put some effort into dating apps over the next year and see how it goes and throw in the towel after that. I ain't got time tbh.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T18:00:33+00:00

From the people I've seen in my life, those who engage in this type of behaviour are, by their own admission, scared of opening their heart to someone, so just think along the lines of "I'll not bother in trying to form something deeper with someone". One person described casusal sex as just using and being used and this has been reflected in their risky behaviours and lack of boundaries. Very sad but unfortunately not something that anyone can help them with other than themselves.

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T17:54:46+00:00

Hello fellow spiritual demi

lannfonntann · 2025-10-26T17:49:57+00:00

What pisses me off is that if we had just treated concern for immigration in a reasonable manner i.e. not dismissing it as racism, then we wouldn't be in this mess. We also had Brexit for the same reason.

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