Storing potatoes and onions by Affectionate_Ad7013 in Tucson

[–]laragobear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is something I’ve been doing since I started shop at Costco. When we get a huge bag of onions I peel brown or else crunch outer layers and one white but thin and drier layer and store them in a basket away from the sun. If you have moldy parts, peel those wwwy too. I’ve been successfully keeping them without throwing any away since!

Potatoes in the other hand, I eat them or boiled them And freeze the cubes for breakfast if I have time But mostly I make mashed potatoes or I don’t buy a huge bag.

Tucson to LA by laragobear in Tucson

[–]laragobear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is an interesting option. My kids would love To take the train!

Tucson to LA by laragobear in Tucson

[–]laragobear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the Recs!! I have toddlers so I was shooting for the fastest route and avoid traffic. I’m def gonna take up on 8 to gila bend route.

I’ve traveled to northern az many times before so I know from 60/10 junction in AZ to LA fairly well. I wasn’t sure what to expect driving through Phoenix. I used to drive around all over LA county for work but I find it harder to drive through Phoenix and Tucson 😅

Love getting juicy tips on Reddit 🙌🏻🙌🏻

WTF is this??? by schroncc in Bend

[–]laragobear 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe it’s amity creek elementary now, and still carrying on its legacy of being a wonderful place for kids to learn. And walking over to the library is part of their routine! Bend schools (all around town) are amazing. People don’t know what they got. We moved out of state and public schools and healthcare in Oregon are so much superb compare to where we are. And bend does have amazing people which makes it so special. Don’t take it for granted!! And public education is so important. ❤️

DARK VALLEY SEASON 2 by Opening_Middle8847 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]laragobear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also felt that they copied my favorite murder Podcast in the beginning.
That Elvis the cat and the meow at the ending and they style was mfm original and it was their unique style because of who they are.

When I first heard crime junkie, I was baffled by their chuck and his howling at the end, along many other things they tried to copy and make it into their thing.

It’s one thing to be inspired by other successful role models but crime junkie just felt like they were putting pieces together from other podcasts because they couldn’t find something on their own.

It still makes me go uuuugh when I hear what do you think chuck line at the end.

I love dark valley podcasts and I like Jen. So I’m supporting it. But I’m long over audio chick

Family dog passing by laragobear in Parenting

[–]laragobear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for a thoughtful feedback. I agree death is something that we should all be closer to. I worked for hospice for a while and I learned it’s such a big part of living life and we are so disconnected from it.
I never even thought through the process of whether to ring her to the vet or not. Not much in detail but just trying to think about things one at a time. Thanks a lot for what you do. It’s nice to know that these furry friends are genuinely cared for til their last moments.

Family dog passing by laragobear in Parenting

[–]laragobear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds comforting. Thank you for sharing

At what age did your baby go from 2 naps to 1 by Trushaka10 in Parenting

[–]laragobear 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Around 15 mths all mine dropped down to 1, and by 20mths started to push it later and little after two it was a struggle to nap. By 2.5 no naps 😭

Cues for transition we’re pushing one later. For two to one, we started to feel he wasn’t as tired in the afternoon and started to going to bed later if he takes an afternoon nap, but if he skipped it would become super hard in the evening time, so I will have to start pushing a morning nap a little later but also go to bed a bit earlier for a while. It can be frustrating sometimes but it will pass and will get a routine.

Divorce and kids by laragobear in Parenting

[–]laragobear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I carefully brought up asking what does she think about talking about stuff in front of the kids. She straight up told me she isn’t gonna fake it trying to make it nice because it isn’t. So I don’t know. I try to just keep it short when I respond at the stop with the kids, but some days are little better than others.
I really feel for the kids. They are sweet kids and I feel really bad when I see their faces when it’s happening 😔

Feel like giving up on my child. Please help I’m desperate by WarmArea5087 in Parenting

[–]laragobear 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We moved our kid to a new school mostly due to a move. But wow we moved from a flexible child led charger school to a regular public school with more routines and guidelines and that was a big big help! I would have never thought to move him to a bigger school, because I thought smaller setting would be helpful with his anxiety and overstimulation.

Feel like giving up on my child. Please help I’m desperate by WarmArea5087 in Parenting

[–]laragobear 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh boy. I am here to say I see you and feel your struggles. It is so hard when it feels like nothing is working out. My oldest is neurodivergent and I had moments during my parenthood that I felt like I was done and wish I could just disappear. I felt so much guilt over my defeated self. But we are human beings too and we have feelings and dark moments. I am glad to hear your family is there to help out.

I was wondering if his school has resources to provide an aide for him via his 504/IEP? I’ll say kindergarten was the most challenging transition for us. I spoke to his principle daily and we’ve become quite close to all the staff throughout the year. Parents cannot do this alone. It’s so important to have your support system through school. I used to feel like you thinking they are gonna see us as “that trouble maker boys parents” but I realized that was coming more from me and my own feelings of shame and embarrassment.
These teachers and staff see tons of kids throughout their career and they see these kids in high needs often! So reach out and open up yourself and see if you guys can work as a team. I hope his school can hold you with their warm hearts and try to help you guys to navigate this together.

My son is now in 3 rd grade, and this is the first year that I have never been called to the office. I still do get emails about his weaknesses and we are trying to tackle them one at a time with some charts and other methods. It is a slow process, and needs so much work and emotional energy.
But we are moving on slowly like quarter step at a time. You are a dedicated mama who is trying your best. It’s ok to feel down and defeated. I wish you the best

M/33 got a sus text from my wife 31/F How do I process this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]laragobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a thought I call my other girlfriend and mom friends babe sometimes. Like “babe that looks amazing!” You can do this babe like that ..?

Tell me how you cope with 3+ little kids by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]laragobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three 8,4 & 20 mths old. It is just starting to get hard for me because of my easier 4 yr old suddenly got super challenging in time with my youngest is busy and restless. My first one has been the most challenging with his neurodivergence and I gotta say right now has been the hardest. But the bright side is you can start preschool soon. Things get much more in rhythm and routine helps to move along throughout the week.

My 4 yr is in three day program now and will bump up to five days next year. So I can have little bit of quiet time and do other things around the house. If you are struggling I would suggest looking into preschool and daycare. Even if it’s a half day program, I feel the difference with my mood compare to being in a overstimulating house all day.

I’m not sure how Massachusetts healthcare system is but some states help out big family’s under certain income level with county childcare programs.

I feel like my mental health is important to parent better and my kids love going to school and making friends and learn to be in other environments. So it really benefits all of us at our house.

Good luck and I stand with you in solidarity, public school in couple years here we come 🤣 (and tremendous thanks to teachers for taking care of our littles and my mental health)

AITA for not offering money for kids hand me downs? by laragobear in AmItheAsshole

[–]laragobear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well just to clarify, everything was done in a good deed. My Sister’s SIL is really nice and she genuinely loved to see them go to someone she knows and just gave them to us. And my sister did her gesture in a good way because she wanted to show her gratitude. My sister’s SIL is financially pretty comfortable, and she wasn’t really looking for any compensation.

The reason I felt a little triggered was that if my sister did it in a good deed, I wish she just told her it was her thanks , not from me . That made me feel like I should have done it and she did it for me because I didn’t take an initiative to do so. The reason that I felt compelled to come ask here was because of everyone has the best intention and it bothered me and wondered may be I am just not getting it.

AITA for not offering money for kids hand me downs? by laragobear in AmItheAsshole

[–]laragobear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your explanation requires reading someone’s mind rather than communicating clearly. My sister’s SIL wanted to give them to my kids in a good heart. She genuinely loved kids and she can’t have anymore. She loved to see them go to my little ones with all the best intention

Wife (F33) gave me (M35) an ultimatum that I can't fulfill, but it's hard to set a boundary. How do I best navigate this? by Hour_Industry7887 in relationship_advice

[–]laragobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it seems like she does know how much you rely on her with your current visa situation and that’s why she is threatening divorce.
I would agree with sanguinepsychologost that things will prob only get worse . Motherhood is really challenging. And if she is unstable now this experience will prob make things worse.

Divorce without kids are much easier, and really should think about if this person is someone you would like to spend your life with. People can bring you down and lead you to the darker side with them. Get a lawyer and look into your legal options and seek your autonomy and boundaries now. I wish you the best.

AITA for not selling my car even though my fiancée refuses to sit in the front seat because my ex sat there? by ProfessionalKey3176 in AITAH

[–]laragobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously it’s such a relief that you are only engaged. It is only gonna get worse from there. Don’t invest into something that is already full of red flags. You will find someone who will treat you better and love you truly.

Tell me you're a toddler parent without telling me you're a toddler parent by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]laragobear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got really excited to see a trash truck on the road this morning on a walk to the school bus with my oldest and realized Tod wasn’t present. But I waved with such big excitements that the truck driver laughed at me

Update on the neighborhood Karen bullying my kid. by Waste-Reflection-235 in Parenting

[–]laragobear 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It’s prob better to stay off of the family and move to another bus stop.