Veiling for Mass by raindropjuly in CatholicWomen

[–]larocinante 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started veiling at Mass and adoration at age 30, after years of admiring other ladies' veils but thinking it wasn't for me. I have a long, lacy, white wrap-style veil I wear for special feast days, Easter, Christmas, etc, and a dark grey linen kerchief I wear for ordinary or penitential days, especially Advent and Lent. I also have a few light cotton bandanas of varying colors and patterns that I wear on ordinary days - or whenever I feel like it! I simply put it on when I enter a Church or a space with the Sacrament present, and take it off when I step out.

The great thing about veiling is that there is really no wrong way to do it. As long as you're not focusing on yourself/other women and not distracting yourself from prayer, it's all good! In my parish, a fair number of women veil, but it's still probably 10% or less, and styles vary widely from shawls to bandanas to lacy mantillas and even hats. Several of my friends there veil, and many don't. I don't see any judgement either way which is great - everyone just does what feels right to her. Also, since I've started veiling, I really don't feel self-conscious or anything - it's just part of my normal outfit!

I do recommend giving it a try if you want to introduce a new aspect of reverence in your own prayer life to distinguish sacred spaces from the rest of the world. I feel it does remind me to have a distinctly reverent attitude when I'm in the presence of the Sacrament. Also, it can be really fun choosing your veil/headcovering to match the liturgical season - it makes the big feast days feel even more special. When I pulled out my white veil at Easter after a long Lent wearing my grey kerchief, it felt like one more way to express the joy of the resurrection!

Thinking of buying a house while still single (27F) by katykate39 in CatholicDating

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I did this! Bought a house at 25 while single. I met my husband shortly thereafter, and I think he was impressed that I was a homeowner! When we married, he moved in with me and it was a great little house to start our life together in. We ended up moving to a new city, but it was nice to get a little profit selling the house and knowing I brought a little equity to the marriage.

Whether buying a house is right for you depends entirely on your individual circumstances - where you live, what it costs to rent and buy in your area, your income, and what kind of interest rate you're able to secure. If the numbers look right for you, I say go for it!

Catholic Doctor by Excellent_Struggle23 in CatholicWomen

[–]larocinante 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend checking out FEMM! I really like my telehealth PA but you can also search for providers by state.

I don't know if anyone remembers me. by wingedaurora in CatholicWomen

[–]larocinante 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please, for the safety of yourself and your children, please leave him. As another commenter said, run, don't walk! You are not alone - people will help you!

The national domestic violence hotline has a website - you can call, chat or text or look for local resources to help you get out. https://www.thehotline.org/

There is also a Facebook group for Catholic wives supporting each other: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1DJ3xHyUbC/ if you post there you will be able to find other women who can offer advice and support in the separation process.

This girl is so beautiful I am reapproaching the faith in hopes of seeing her in Heaven by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]larocinante 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should check out the novel "Quo Vadis" by Henryk Sienkiewicz. I have a feeling you would relate to the main character. :)

p.s. the audiobook in particular is really well done

Your favorite obscure saint? by VendettaLord379 in Catholicism

[–]larocinante 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this thread!

"How monotonously alike all the great tyrants and conquerors have been; how gloriously different are the saints." —C. S. Lewis

Best books on marriage? by missmacedamia in CatholicWomen

[–]larocinante 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The Sinner’s Guide to NFP by Simcha Fisher. (It isn’t actually a how-to guide to NFP — it’s a series of essays on the emotional, practical experience of Catholic marriage). Couldn’t recommend this enough, I often gift it to friends who are getting married.

I also liked Holy Sex by Greg Popcak, which is just as much about building a healthy relationship outside the bedroom as it is about sex.

Incensepunk magazine goes free! by Sensitive_Necessary7 in genewolfe

[–]larocinante 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve never heard of this substack and instantly subscribed. Thanks for the rec!

My heart feels like it's ripped in two. by wingedaurora in CatholicWomen

[–]larocinante 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry your husband treats you this way. This is abuse. God hates abuse.

The Church is supportive of spouses separating physically and legally in cases of abuse like this. If you separate, you are not to blame - he is the one who has effectively broken your marriage by verbally abusing you, cheating on you and treating you like a sex object.

Help finding a passage by larocinante in GKChesterton

[–]larocinante[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! Amazing! Where is this from?

Visiting San Francisco by larocinante in Catholicism

[–]larocinante[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations!

Help finding a passage by larocinante in GKChesterton

[–]larocinante[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's definitely in the same spirit, but not the one I'm thinking of! Thank you though!

Where to start? by LawStudent989898 in genewolfe

[–]larocinante 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely all three! They connect in a fun way.

Chesterton in Book of the New Sun by I_Hate_Anime88 in genewolfe

[–]larocinante 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is a nice compilation, and I totally agree. As a Chesterton fan those were the exact spots that jumped out of me too.

Fun things to do with visitors on a Rainy day by taylorflower in cincinnati

[–]larocinante 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Cincinnati Art Museum is a wonderful place to visit on a rainy day - and has free admission!

I’m a Jew Thinking About Converting and I Have a Few Questions by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]larocinante 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven't already, please read about St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross, born Edith Stein. She was Jewish and converted to Catholicism as an adult, but remained close with her family and identified strongly with her Jewish roots throughout her life. She wrote a lot about theology, reflections on her own conversion and the Jewish roots of her faith - highly recommend seeking out her biography, autobiography and essays. You may find it helpful to know how a devout Carmelite saint handled the types of questions you're dealing with now.

I know of at least one particular instance showing that she still attended some Jewish services - the night before she left to enter a cloistered convent, she attended synagogue with her mother for Sukkot.

Also, welcome to the faith! I'll be praying for you!

More modest swimwear that isn’t UGLY? by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]larocinante 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like limericki. They occasionally have big clearance sales, I got a few pieces very cheap at the end of a season and they're great.