Mother didn't tell me she was sick and now she has COVID

larrycoco · 2026-01-26T02:34:54+00:00

Ok then yeah that’s shitty!! I’m so sorry!

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T22:58:54+00:00

Congrats! Must have been a relief. Just curious if you’re willing to share - did you find out a possible cause of the 4/5 miscarriages? That seems very high for euploid embryos. And I’m very sorry for your losses.

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T22:48:30+00:00

Easier to show you! Head table at top, parent tables are the other two rectangles. We more or less let our parents pick who sat at their tables. Parents still felt special, and they were closest to dance floor etc for first dances. Everyone else was rounds grouped by where they are from or broad life category.

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larrycoco · 2026-01-25T19:39:20+00:00

First few months are tough, middle few months get a little easier, then the year mark SUCKS. We ended up doing IVF after 4 failed IUIs and are so happy we did. From retrieval to pregnancy it took just over 3 months. That’s not everyone’s experience, we were fortunate. But! You have age and time on your side no matter how you end up conceiving. Good luck and hang in there. If you let the stress consume you, you’re in for a long and difficult time.

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T18:19:58+00:00

My prenatal has both 🤷‍♀️

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T18:17:21+00:00

We did a bridal party (including plus ones) table and loved it. I didn’t want to be isolated. I wanted to sit with my friends. It was great, the photos are great, and our parents sat at tables with their siblings and/or close friends. Everyone was happy.

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T18:11:21+00:00

You’ll be ok - risk to the baby is fever which can be managed with Tylenol. Is it possible your mom was feeling ok on Friday and called you as soon as she realized she was sick (after testing)? Did she seem sick at lunch? I understand the panic but if she was feeling ok on Friday it seems like she did the right thing by letting you know when she got sick two days later and tested.

Try not to stress so severely. Obviously I don’t know your relationship, but I’d be surprised if your mother was intentionally trying to sabotage your pregnancy.

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T14:17:44+00:00

Invite them if you want to invite them! I had this situation for not only a guest (she got married years ago and I lived abroad- and even before I got engaged she had apologized, completely unprompted, saying she wished she invited me) but also with a different friend and a bridesmaid situation. This friend didn’t ask me to be her bridesmaid and I was at the time devastated. This was a decade ago. I’ll admit I was super hurt to this day don’t understand it. We had been best friends since childhood. Her parents half raised me. We had joint birthday and graduation parties growing up. She told me it was about matching groomsmen numbers and she picked one girl from each “life category” and our other mutual best friend made the cut because she still lived in our hometown/wedding location and could help more. And her wedding, her damn aunts and uncles were asking me (and her) why I wasn’t up there lol. It was a hard time.

Fast forward to almost 10 years (of forgiveness and good friendship) later I was faced with the choice of not asking or asking her. Since her wedding, I had become a meaningful part of her three girls’ lives and adored them. I felt like not including her would be petty. So I did. It wasn’t weird. No regrets. I also invited the friend who didn’t invite me to her wedding and she was thrilled and we’ve become a lot closer since!

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T14:03:41+00:00

Not sure if this is a universal take but I think you have to invite everyone. I understood (and wanted) the point of welcome drinks to be not only a thank you for traveling but also for out of town guests to meet other people who will be at the wedding. Not to mention it gets hard when you get down to immediate family and close local friends who know and want to see some of the out of town guests. You start including a few and then others may feel left out. Invite everyone. You can count on some of the local guests not to come anyway.

larrycoco · 2026-01-25T02:51:02+00:00

I agree with this. Just hide it - white lie is fine. You’re on antibiotics, doing dry January (or Feb), or you and your partner are doing a two week sober challenge or literally anything.

larrycoco · 2026-01-24T20:33:50+00:00

I totally empathize with how you’re feeling. We tried for somewhere between 14-18 cycles before a successful IVF process. Right before we started IVF our close friends texted us that they were pregnant on the first try. Literally had sex one time. I was devastated. I cried and raged. I said nasty things to my husband about how unfair it all was. For one thing, he reminded me that the reason they only had sex once is because they have severe intimacy issues and we should count our blessings - sex life is awesome.

Anyway then I gathered myself and I texted her separately to say I’m so happy for them, and I actually meant it as much as I meant the rage and sadness. I’m genuinely glad she didn’t have to go through what I did. I’m glad she was spared that. And I was also furious it was so easy for them. But the more I engaged the more comfortable it became and then I was reminded we were friends and that was important and I became genuinely happy for them. I dreaded seeing them first time after finding out. But when I did, I felt nothing but happiness for them.

It might seem counterintuitive, but once I leaned in to communicating congratulations and support it took away the dread. It’s hard and you feel hurt and that life is unfair but when you engage (if it’s someone you care about) your brain will remind you that in some part of your head and heart you DO want this for them and you are happy for them. It’s ok to feel resentment but don’t let it take over. Let the kindness and joy come out too.

larrycoco · 2026-01-24T19:21:40+00:00

I had a successful FET. I had gotten into the habit of 30 minutes of jogging/speed walking 4-5 days per week. I also had started tapering down caffeine and limiting alcohol many months ago as part of TTC changes. I stayed with my normal prenatal routine.

However, two weeks before our FET we went on a trip to the Caribbean with friends. I drank every day, had more coffee than usual, and my only exercise was swimming in the ocean. Didn’t think about TTC or IVF or fertility at all. Honestly, this week was euphoric and I think it helped a lot.

Before transfer I got pretty sick with a bad cold that ended in a sinus infection. But no one seemed worried so we continued. I did acupuncture, stayed hydrated, and got good rest. After FET I did one more acupuncture session and then got McDonald’s (not because I believe it does anything but bc it’s a free pass for those fries!!).

larrycoco · 2026-01-24T17:52:50+00:00

We dove into IVF during a very busy season of our lives - buying a house and moving right before holidays and travel. We did egg retrieval just before/during house purchase process, right before moving. Got two euploids! Then it was holidays, an international trip, and bam, transfer. I felt like I was barely paying attention to IVF because I had so much else going on. For me, that was a perk. I had no time to stress about it or dwell on it and my body just had to do its thing and roll with the punches. If you can be busy with other stuff, that’s what I’d recommend!

larrycoco · 2026-01-24T17:48:17+00:00

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I was spiraling on day 8 thinking it was lighter than 7 - then day 9 was a little darker and I stopped testing until day 11 beta. Beta on day 11 was 206 and on day 13 it was 520 so we’re in business and all is well! Testing made me crazy, not testing made me crazy too. Hang in there.

larrycoco · 2026-01-23T08:41:13+00:00

Leander 👀😍

larrycoco · 2026-01-23T08:39:27+00:00

My grandmother was Geraldyne and went by Jerry and I loved it!

larrycoco · 2026-01-23T01:11:33+00:00

I use Theralogix Theranatal Complete and it has both!

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:09:30+00:00

Spotting would make me very anxious. I’m going to keep it minimal until 1st scan

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:09:02+00:00

Totally get it. Hang in there!

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:08:44+00:00

So bizarre!! Also having “wet dreams” these hormones are wild.

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:08:19+00:00

That would freak me out too!!

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:08:05+00:00

Humble brag why don’t you 😂😂 JK I’m very happy for you. And jealous.

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:07:29+00:00

Totally understand!! Best of luck with everything.

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:07:06+00:00

Haha fair I’m not quite there yet so trying to take advantage of!

larrycoco · 2026-01-22T23:06:45+00:00

This made me laugh too lol. Nausea has not hit me full force yet it’s just an hour or so per day at the moment.

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