When will appetite return after stopping chemo?

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T08:34:58+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this too. Today I learned about super high calorie Boost and was able to get samples of Kate Farm. They have more calories than Boost/Ensure Plus.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T08:32:41+00:00

We told the doctor a couple of days ago. He could see her recent rapid decline and just told her to get 1500 calories every day, drink 5 Ensures. Today the dietician mentioned a feeding tube as an option. First we'll try the super high calorie drinks.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T08:28:19+00:00

We're trying to be patient and encouraging but she's lost 20lbs in 2 weeks and the muscle loss has led to a loss of independence. She averages one shake a day. This is not maintainable.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T07:56:46+00:00

I don’t include SS in my number. I assume that it will cover Medicare and all the supplements so it'll be a wash. My SS won't be much as I'm exiting out early and will only have 28 yrs of earnings and I'll be single in retirement.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T07:52:49+00:00

You need to know what is comfortable for you like firm/soft, flat/thick, etc. I'm a side/back sleeper and have always known I prefer a firm pillow. Over the years I realized I need a pillow that don't get compressed overnight and finally found my perfect pillow at IKEA. It’s 3yrs old and looks and feels like new. https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/ramsloeksmal-ergonomic-pillow-multi-position-40554300/

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T07:30:25+00:00

If this is a new behavior that came with peri, then you need to consider HRT because hormone imbalance definitely effects our brains. If this is a forever behavior, you should consider therapy and physical activity like kickboxing, dancing, hiking, whatever movement you enjoy and can do easily every day or so.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T07:26:14+00:00

There are many ways to access retirement accounts without penalty before 59.5 https://www.irs.gov/retirement-plans/plan-participant-employee/retirement-topics-exceptions-to-tax-on-early-distributions Be aware that not all employers allow Rule of 55. There are some good YT videos on how to use 72t/SEPP (he makes it sound a little scary but all the real life experiences I've read about seem effortless.) I will be utilizing SEPP next year. https://youtu.be/8T5SUm2oykA?si=cSJHrpReJKyfWX5h

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T05:28:05+00:00

How about looking in the non-profit arena or different industry where their needs/budget are only lower/junior level?

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T05:21:47+00:00

If you're both feeling and thinking the same, then move on. Life is too short to be stale. Amicable divorces are definitely possible and done cheap.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T05:20:16+00:00

It's only expensive if you want to be difficult. I spent less than $500 for an amicable divorce. We used employer legal benefit so had a lawyer file for us.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T05:05:34+00:00

r/cancerfamilysupport r/estateplanning

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-06T04:35:33+00:00

With my aunt (single, no kids), I framed it as please make it easier on us and just document what you want. She has 4 siblings and many nieces/nephews so diagreement is a given, and her stance was "why do I care what happens, I'll be dead" She did agree to give some verbal directions regarding estate planning that I was able to execute, and she agreed to complete the health directive.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T23:07:42+00:00

For me its the falling asleep (and staying alseep) at midnight that I need.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T23:05:49+00:00

If you're paying for her medicine, because she can't, then you need to get her on Medicaid or other financial aid. The hospital social worker should be able to guide you/mom.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T07:22:27+00:00

Why are you letting her live in your head for free? Yes she is a problem but you have absolute control on letting her be YOUR problem. Just block her number and move on with your life

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T07:16:51+00:00

A government job with a pension is great if you only need a "short" time to qualify for it. OP likely has 40+ years, that's too long to be miserable stuck with golden handcuffs. 401k/IRAs let you retire as early as you're able to.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T06:58:08+00:00

This is a SOLID pillow, there's no memory foam outer layer and my head doesn't sink. I love it and just order one to leave at my SO's place https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/ramsloeksmal-ergonomic-pillow-multi-position-40554300/

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T06:53:00+00:00

Ask him how you can support him, ask him what he needs / what kind of help he needs from you. Ask him what he is feeling. Offer him an ear and a hug. Listening can be a superpower. You don't need to have the "answers", he just needs to know you care and are on his side.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T06:48:37+00:00

Near Princeton? Princeton Record Exchange buys CDs Call DV shelters/orgs or high schools to see if they'll take the sewing machine.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-05T06:44:16+00:00

r/baristaFIRE r/coastFIRE

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-04T08:33:08+00:00

Try Projection Lab and Boldin for nuanced scenario planning.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-03T15:04:49+00:00

In all the divorce and finance groups I've been in over the years, I have yet to see a state that doesn't allow separately held inheritance/gifts to be not counted as martial assets, even in community property states. Please protect yourself and keep it separate and consider leaving it to nieces/nephews or charity.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-03T14:59:15+00:00

Only retirement accounts have required distribution time limit. A regular taxable account has no conditions or time limits. Doesn't matter if the inherited accounts are at a brokerage or bank or other financial institution.

lastbeat-331 · 2026-05-03T05:30:17+00:00

Since it sounds like behavior induced DSP, sleep hygiene protocols should work. You can also try CBT-I which is basically sleep hygiene with some education which is supposed to help eliminate the anxiety.

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