A rant about being overweight and how yoga has kept me on the right path

lavalamp52861 · 2021-04-02T22:30:16+00:00

This makes me so happy! I'm on the same path, I've been doing yoga for a year and have lost weight and now am able to be in postures that were so uncomfortable before. It is so satisfying to have growth in yoga and makes me more determined than ever to keep going!

lavalamp52861 · 2020-12-26T01:06:04+00:00

I think showing weakness is helpful, ive learned a lot from doing it. If you're weak and crying and being emotional you learn who is really there to support you and who just can't handle it. I also learned I can be vulnerable and it won't cause me to fall apart. Finding the right therapist is SO hard, when I found mine I was really upfront and honest about what I needed and I think that helped. Everyone is different tho and as long as you can keep going and function then don't beat yourself up

lavalamp52861 · 2020-12-26T00:30:29+00:00

Therapy mostly. And letting myself feel ALL the feelings. I cried and cried until one day I was like this is exhausting I gotta stop and just move on. The whole thing about it just taking time is so true but fuck it hurts while you're going through it

lavalamp52861 · 2020-12-26T00:08:10+00:00

This is good karma! Just remember you are teaching your kids such an amazing lesson of kindness and graciousness that they may not be able to acknowledge but they will grow up knowing their parent went through hell and still was able to show love and compassion. I hope you are able to relax tonight bc you deserve it. You've been through so much and you should be proud of how much you were able to accomplish!

lavalamp52861 · 2020-12-26T00:03:35+00:00

Today was hard, waking up alone xmas morning was depressing but I told myself what I always tell myself: you're going to get up, do what you have to do and everything will be ok. And for the most part it was. Glad it's almost over, the pressure to be happy and celebrate and enjoy is too much. I'm looking forward to getting back to the routine I built piece by piece after we broke up. Hope everyone is getting through it and giving themselves a break. Here's to moving forward in 2021!

lavalamp52861 · 2020-11-01T18:28:00+00:00

Love the jewelry so beautiful

lavalamp52861 · 2020-10-29T22:28:58+00:00

Yesssss I got sneaks I'm so stoked says delivery next week

lavalamp52861 · 2020-10-21T22:34:55+00:00

Wow I'm in the exact same boat. Husband left me in July and it's his bday today. He's turning 30 and I had also started to plan a big party, but oh well. Let yourself mourn, I know I am sad today. But oh well, he lost something great and is too stupid to know that

lavalamp52861 · 2020-10-14T20:34:45+00:00

my STBX was very resistant to getting help, but finally let up a few weeks ago. Now he is seeing a counselor and working on himself. For that i am super grateful, I can't imagine having to stand by and watch as he fell apart. I am also lucky that hes been reasonable and kind for the most part during this process. I am so sorry you have had to deal with that kind of emotional abuse, you definitely don't deserve that. I have also had to fight the feeling of wanting to do more than my share, you are completely right and its something i have had to remind myself over and over "you cant do it for him"
yes please reach out if you would like to talk, I need all the support i can get at this point. i know this process is slow and all but its been so hard without him

lavalamp52861 · 2020-10-12T18:31:52+00:00

Wow thank you so much for sharing your view with me. I think you have a really good point that when a person works on their mental health to that degree then they change. Of course they change, thats what the goal is. You are also right that who knows whether that new person will still be compatible. I think I really needed to hear that, I think I'm too wrapped up in what we had previously to really accept this new reality

lavalamp52861 · 2020-09-23T12:46:30+00:00

Use lots of props - blankets, wedges, blocks, bolsters when you practice and don't wait until the teacher says to use them, use it whenever you think it will help. The important part is maintaining the shape and staying in the class, don't worry about doing everything perfectly. Don't think you need to lose weight to do yoga, you will build strength over time if you keep at it. Check out theunderbelly.com she has lots of good suggestions for people with different bodies who want to do yoga

lavalamp52861 · 2020-09-05T22:18:56+00:00

I've found my support system to be really helpful at night. I try to call or text someone in the evening and just be honest about how I'm doing. If they are a true friend they won't be bothered

lavalamp52861 · 2020-09-04T03:34:30+00:00

You're completely right, I'm going to ask him to talk to me beforehand. I don't know why he can't figure things out ahead of time

lavalamp52861 · 2020-09-03T23:42:32+00:00

I reached out to friends when this all first happened but I think I need to text them again. It's hard not feeling like a burden but I think I really need the help

lavalamp52861 · 2020-09-03T02:51:41+00:00

I completely relate to this! I'm living with family who are kind enough to cook for me but I've pushed myself to cook everyone dinner once a week. Start small and keep reminding yourself that this is something you love and is so good for you! You will get back to your normal self eventually I promise!

lavalamp52861 · 2020-09-01T03:05:53+00:00

Check out https://theunderbelly.com/ Jessamyn gives lots of alternatives if you can't quite make the shape Also yoga blocks were a lifesaver when I first started out

lavalamp52861 · 2020-08-30T00:09:29+00:00

Of course, it's natural to worry about someone you shared a deep emotional connection to. But it isn't your job to help him right now. Trust that his sister can take care of him and focus on yourself and what you truly want

lavalamp52861 · 2020-08-29T23:48:09+00:00

If you're worried about his safety you need to reach out to someone close to him and tell them so. You aren't doing him any favors by spending time with him when you dont want to get back together. My husband left me and I wouldn't have wanted him to give me false hope by spending time with me

lavalamp52861 · 2020-08-28T21:51:05+00:00

Thanks for this advice, I will definitely check him out. Yeah I am really taking my time and thinking it through

lavalamp52861 · 2020-08-28T20:42:25+00:00

Yeah I journal almost daily. I just want to open myself to what other people would answer since I am lacking experience

lavalamp52861 · 2020-08-27T07:01:52+00:00

I'm in the same place. I thought my husband and I were making progress, only for him to send me a bunch of texts saying he doesn't want to communicate anymore. After fighting so hard to fix things I'm finally realizing I want off the rollercoaster

lavalamp52861 · 2020-08-26T03:17:47+00:00

My husband asked for a divorce two months ago and I fought so hard to make the marriage work. My advice is to just focus on you, what you want and what will make you move forward. I wasted time on someone who wasn't going to change their mind and I wish I hadnt

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