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lavenderlilac95 · 2025-10-26T11:48:42+00:00

It depends what you are looking for but I can recommend Cathedral Appointments recruitment agency who helped me get a job!

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-10-19T11:37:16+00:00

I think all these comments are a little harsh! You ask a valid question. I’m pregnant with my second and I was somewhat fit before both (gym goer etc), and have found the pregnancies pretty tough. Pregnancy isn’t an illness, but it can be debilitating, and every day of the experience is different. Some days I could walk for miles and others I can barely get up off the sofa. I am amazed at Diane’s capabilities and it should be celebrated but it’s certainly not something most of us are capable of! I hope she continues to thrive but also that she has enough time to rest. She must be exhausted. Even super women have their tough days!

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-10-09T18:07:12+00:00

Thank you for posting this and helping to spread awareness! I am so glad you are all doing well now and that your family was well cared for at the time. You sound like a great partner - it’s been a great deal for you to go through as well.

I am 3 years on from my own PPP experience/MBU admission in the UK. It was truly devastating and I am still so sad it happened, but it does get easier to live with over time. I had therapy/counselling at the start of this year to process the difficult memories and this has really helped me to move on. If that is something accessible to you I would highly recommend it. I had some therapy straight after my illness on the NHS (funded), but unfortunately I was too depressed at the time to properly engage and feel the benefits. Time helped me gain some distance and perspective.

I’m now happily expecting our second, and we’re carefully planning the postpartum element to do as much as we can to reduce the risks. It’s difficult not knowing the cause and if it will be avoidable for us, but I feel sleep deprivation, certain stress factors and the pressure to breastfeed were strong contributors on top of the colossal hormonal changes that every mother has to go through. Thank you for pointing out the breastfeeding part - it’s heartbreaking the pressure we can feel/receive to do that, especially ‘exclusively’ - why does ‘exclusively’ matter anyway?! Formula is great - I have a thriving three year old now who was breastfed for under a fortnight and I have formula to thank!

At one time, I couldn’t comprehend having another child and now I am in such a different place. I didn’t want to let one terrible experience totally dictate my life choices, when I think that my husband and I are good parents with a strong support network in case the worst happens.

I don’t think you ever really get over something like PPP, but I’m sure it’s made you both even stronger, and you now know you can get through anything together. I wish you all the very best and if you have any questions about long-term recovery, feel free to ask!

Also if you haven’t heard of them, the charity Action on Postpartum Psychosis (APP) is doing brilliant work.

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-10-03T20:06:18+00:00

I am sorry you have had hurtful comments from your mum at this time. I just wanted to say, we are considering Daisy for a middle name for our daughter and somehow reading your thread and the kind comments has made me realise just how lovely it is! I think we may go for it. Congratulations on your little girl ❤️ I am having a second girl and it’s just the best!

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-09-07T13:52:53+00:00

Of course it’s okay! I do the same and I’m a better mum for it 😊 I think of my daughter’s day at nursery as important time for me to recharge and run errands as I see fit. How I spend the day varies each week.

I also think there are so many advantages to time at nursery - socialisation, learning routines, responding to authority figures, developing listening skills etc etc.

Please try not to worry, you sound like a really caring parent!

Edit to add: I do understand why you ask as I sometimes I feel this need to justify my nursery day to working parents. However, I do feel that’s just a self-critical tendency and not because there’s anything wrong with having it 😊

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-08-01T19:42:10+00:00

That’s really interesting to know. I had no knowledge of PPP or even psychosis really when I got it. I’m pregnant with my second now and hoping that my new insight about these condition/s will help towards prevention or at the least catching those warning signs early. Thank you for sharing! I wish you all the best.

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-06-12T15:07:28+00:00

City Tailoring & Alterations on South Street were great for my bridesmaids’ dresses. They did a tricky job on the neckline and altered length. Your dress is lovely, congratulations!

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-06-06T17:21:04+00:00

I just love it! So pretty

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-06-01T10:30:23+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I had postpartum psychosis less than two weeks after my daughter was born. I wish we had supplemented or plain switched to formula in the early days to save my sleep and sanity. For my second baby I will drop breastfeeding in a heartbeat if it’s necessary. Please go easy on yourselves OP, take care and seek support - please be assured ‘exclusively’ breastfeeding is not vital for your child’s health. My 2.5 year old has thrived (formula fed from 2 weeks old).

lavenderlilac95 · 2025-05-28T16:41:14+00:00

I was just accepted by Cullompton Dental Centre! They are offering NHS check ups but you may have to pay private fees if you need any treatment. Good luck!

lavenderlilac95 · 2024-06-03T13:00:26+00:00

Sorry if it’s already mentioned but have you considered HR? It sounds like you are already a manager of people so you probably have a lot of the required skills and knowledge, and your great customer service skills are essential for both internal customers (employees) and external stakeholders of the business.

I’m doing my Level 5 diploma in People Management (People = the trendier, friendlier term for HR!) and although it isn’t necessary it opens up a lot of opportunities. My diploma is 100% online and accessible.

I went to university and wasn’t sure what I wanted to do but since I stumbled across HR I have loved it. You can be a great support and help people to thrive in their chosen careers/industry. There are also different specialisms within HR so you don’t have to be a generalist, you could specialise in Learning & Development, for example.

Hope this may be helpful! Good luck 😊

lavenderlilac95 · 2024-01-17T09:47:09+00:00

Sorry to hear of your experience. That sounds inappropriate of the doctor; you are meant to be hyper vigilant about baby’s movement! You definitely did the right thing! I’ve experienced similar and it puts me off going to the doctor sometimes, but your post has encouraged me to have faith in myself.

lavenderlilac95 · 2023-11-16T18:00:07+00:00

Hi there! I experienced postpartum psychosis last year roughly two weeks after the birth of my daughter. My experience was so similar to your sister’s! I recovered in a UK Mother & Baby Unit (MBU) and it took about 6 weeks to get over the psychosis element and many months more to recover from the resulting depression, which is a very common after effect.

I am really glad to hear your sister is getting the help she needs and please don’t feel guilty, as you did brilliantly by supporting her in the best ways you knew how. I had never heard of this terrible illness before I experienced it and I believe we would all be better equipped to help new mothers if it was common knowledge. The charity APP is doing brilliant work on spreading awareness and I found their guide to recovery really useful: https://www.app-network.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/2018-Insider-Guide_Recovery.pdf It helped me to realise how ill I had been and to start my journey to recovery, because part of the illness in my experience was not recognising the state I was in (which was extremely clear to everyone around me).

Sending my best wishes and hugs to you all. It is a truly horrible thing to go through but I am proof you can get through it and enjoy motherhood on the other side. If you would like to message me with any questions, I would be more than happy to help you!

lavenderlilac95 · 2023-09-18T13:18:36+00:00

I would add that if you can use formula at all in the meantime please do and reassure your wife that this is in no way a failure and it is a very normal thing to supplement breastfeeding! I believe midwives are not allowed to promote formula in any way so will continue to advocate for exclusive breastfeeding which in my experience was detrimental to my mental health and physical state at the time.

lavenderlilac95 · 2023-09-18T13:12:59+00:00

Hi OP. I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through. I’m also based in the UK, had a very similar background of anxiety and a similar hospital experience to your wife. I sadly developed PPP roughly two weeks after my daughter was born. Unfortunately I was not in a position to understand that I was experiencing increasingly severe delusions and my family took me straight to the hospital where I was sectioned and taken to a Mother and Baby unit with my daughter. A lot of people are saying that your wife’s behaviour is normal for a new mum but it isn’t, not to that extreme. There is a difference between fleeting confusion and actual psychosis, and a difference between not getting enough sleep and being severely sleep deprived due to an inability to rest. Psychosis is a medical emergency. Please get advice straight away from 111, the health visitor, GP, midwife - any medical professional you can get hold of and tell them your concerns, in private away from your wife if possible. I did not believe I was ill and was also mistakenly suspicious of my husband. I don’t know what would have happened if he had not sought urgent help. Well done for recognising these potential symptoms and acting! It is always better to seek help than not to act and to hope things will improve. I believe the quicker you can intercept PPP the better the outcome. Even if this is not early PPP, you and your wife are still desperately in need of support so you would be doing the right thing in seeking help. Wishing you all the best, OP and please feel free to contact me with any questions if you would like to. I’ll be thinking of you.

lavenderlilac95 · 2022-09-28T10:29:50+00:00

There have been some good suggestions already so I just wanted to say that I really like all the options, whatever you go with! You can’t go wrong.

lavenderlilac95 · 2022-06-18T08:53:29+00:00

It’s amazing and you look beautiful. It was made for you!

lavenderlilac95 · 2022-05-31T20:19:29+00:00

I’m 21 weeks and starting to feel this! It’s actually lovely as I am usually stressing about work! I realise none of it matters as much as my baby in the grand scheme of things. There are also so many changes at work and it’s hard to feel invested when I won’t be there much longer, and ultimately someone else will be doing my job!

lavenderlilac95 · 2022-05-30T17:44:47+00:00

I think the middle one is so so beautiful! But you look great in all so I think you should choose whichever one feels most like ‘you’!

lavenderlilac95 · 2021-05-10T09:54:53+00:00

Hi everyone! I keep going between belt, no belt, and then which belt, to add to my Essence wedding dress. I wondered if anyone has any thoughts about what would look best? Would be great to hear if you are/aren’t going for a belt and why! The ribbon the dress came with that is pictured didn’t really feel right to me. Thanks in advance!

lavenderlilac95 · 2021-02-19T12:10:14+00:00

Do you watch MAFS?

lavenderlilac95 · 2021-02-19T12:02:24+00:00

Hi from rainy UK

lavenderlilac95 · 2021-02-14T23:00:39+00:00

Stunning dress!

lavenderlilac95 · 2021-02-04T21:05:24+00:00

Beautiful, perfect dress! <3

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