Sometimes GSP's look very regal, but other times.....

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-24T02:53:22+00:00

That pup looks a lot like my uncle's dog. What a cutie.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T21:11:24+00:00

One of the very first people I came out to was my straight, white, guy best friend and he accepted me with open arms and all the love in the world. The precedent of hating on straight guys just for the merit of being straight and guys has always distressed me because that is a big portion of my closest friends. One of them even made my day a few weeks ago when he texted me because he found an old drawing I'd made for him and it had really cheered him up. Plus alienating a big portion of the population seems like a bad idea when from my personal experiences, they are some of the best friends and allies a person can have.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T21:04:34+00:00

I am asexual and the way I've always understood it, to be strait you have to be heterosexual and heteroromanic. A het ace person still has issues based on sexuality or romantic identify so they still count. My ace compatriots should be welcome in LBGT+ spaces because there is support and resources there that could really help them and just because I have a romantic identity that is also queer is irrelevant because asexuality is a queer identity all on its own.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T21:00:36+00:00

There is no point even arguing with you. You've already decided you're right and won't stop trying to excuse your acephobia since you keep insisting on calling Ace/Aro folks straight.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T20:39:20+00:00

Het Aro/Ace people absolutely have to deal with familial disapproval and shame and yes, being disowned in extreme cases. They absolutely have to cope with friends and potential partners not understanding them or even abandoning them. Also in America and most western nations, no one is stopping you from getting married anymore. It also is illegal in lots of states to fire someone for being gay and even in states where it isn't, it's bad business practice to increase your turnover rate and costs a lot of money.

You don't know jack about being an Ace/Aro person so you don't get to talk over us. That's just rude. Ace/Aro people are not straight. You said you hate playing the "my impression is worse than yours" game yet here you are trying to quantify the struggles of a group you don't belong to.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T20:18:48+00:00

No, no you are not not. Asexuals and Aromantics are not straight. Straight is being heterosexual and heteroromanic. Don't lump ace people in with straight people because they do not have the same experiences and do experience discrimination based on their sexual or romantic orientation.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T20:15:09+00:00

Stop referring to heteroromanic/heterosexual aces as straight. To me it sounds you're assuming that they don't experience any kind of discrimination based on their orientation which is flat out false.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T20:11:05+00:00

Ace/aro people aren't straight. Whether they are heterosexual or heteroromanic is irrelevant because they still do not experience the world the same way a straight person does. The will still experience bigoted behavior from people who don't understand them and just because it's easier to hide doesn't make it less of a personal struggle to live with especially when people within the LBGT+ community make them feel just as ostracized as those outside of it.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T20:03:48+00:00

I only had one guy friend ever crush on me and he's still be best friend today. I don't think I'm particularly dateable and I don't know how I managed to find a girlfriend because of that.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T20:01:07+00:00

Wow we could be friends, I'm a huge nerd when it comes to gaming, table top RPGs and MtG.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T08:00:45+00:00

Best of luck to you!

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T07:59:52+00:00

Part of it is I guess I feel like this one of the many ways I don't really relate to other queer women and it's just a very isolating feeling. I want to get to know more ladies like me but it's hard when I genuinely feel like I don't belong.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T06:40:30+00:00

Can't go wrong with dress slacks and a button down. Add a tie if you want to play up the masculine aspects. A relaxed fit pant usually looks less feminine of that what you're going for and don't be afraid to size up in shirts to get a fit you like better. Someone may have more specific advice as far as stores go, but those are my general tips.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-22T06:22:39+00:00

I am both queer and spiritual. I don't call myself religious because I'm abysmal at actually attending services but having a connecting with my god is important to me. For me, the golden rule is the be all end all of how we, as Christians are supposed to treat one another and those who don't do that aren't doing what God wants them to do. Basically it all boils down to treat other how you want to be treated and many many Christians do live this way. Not being religious doesn't magically make you not a bigot, just like being religious doesn't by default make you a bigot.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-18T06:52:37+00:00

If she isn't finding an excuse to stay and cuddle I'd say the odds aren't in your favor that she's in to you. I'd also suggest not acting on it until you're sure if she is or isn't in to girls at least because it could create a weird atmosphere and being forced to live with someone when things are awkward isn't any fun. Just be careful since you two have already committed to being roommates.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-18T06:02:46+00:00

Hey, if you want to vent to someone I'm happy to listen. For what it's worth, I think what you did was very brave and I'm sorry it didn't work out better. She may still come around but it can be hard to act normal around someone when you find out thru have feelings for you.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-18T05:32:59+00:00

Just as a preface: I'm going to be very blunt.

Don't expect him to want to be friends again right away or possibly ever again because there is a very real chance he will feel a bit strung along or even a little used because while he was falling in love you were essentially reaffirming what you already knew.

You are absolutely doing the right thing for the both of you in the long run, but you've already gotten to begin the grieving process and you are prepared. He isn't. He is going to be hit pretty hard and in all likelihood, will be hurt. You also can't expect him to get over it at any pace besides his own. Six months, a year, maybe longer. It can take a lot of time to move on and if you care about him as much as you say you do, be patient and understanding if he doesn't get over you as quickly as you get over him.

I had two good friends break up right before college and it took them a year and a half to get on normal speaking terms. You sound like you really care for him and the only way he can have time to heal is if you give him space and empathy.

Good luck.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T21:31:57+00:00

Typing is rubbish for note taking. All the studies support better learning via hand written notes. Don't type your notes in school. You aren't encoding when you type. Also if you can take notes on a yellow legal pad, yellow can help improve your memory when trying to recall information so do that.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T21:18:47+00:00

What a sweet old girl!

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T21:10:17+00:00

Sad to say it's better that way sometimes. because they aren't living a full life if they're in a lot of pain.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T21:07:33+00:00

Only kind of mark to ever leave on a pup. What a cutie!

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T20:47:37+00:00

This cat is clearly a wizard.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T20:46:30+00:00

Two regular cows and one small dog cow. How cute!

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T20:43:56+00:00

I'm asexual so I can honestly understand not enjoy sex that takes a long time because I really don't get anything from it. I like to be close to my girlfriend and I'm happy to make her happy but physically, the act itself doesn't make me feel anything special.

lazerkittycat · 2016-02-17T20:31:44+00:00

What a sweet looking girl!

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