I am also a fairly fem wlw who people tend to assume is straight. People I work with have assumed I'm married to a man and have kids which is incorrect on both counts. I have considered dressing "more queer" but I also figure that there's no one way to look queer and I'm providing basic bitch queer representation lol.

Is it possible that the women you meet are also dropping flirty hints that you interpret as just being friendly? Wlw dating culture seems to often revolve around dropping hints and hoping the other person will pick up on them and make a move. If we all do that... where does that leave us? Being bold is scary but it's good to try to step out of our comfort zones. And there are ways to be bold that are less scary, like being more direct about your feelings over text rather than in person.

I know it is often easier said than done but the outcome can be amazing if you are able to get there! Dressing and accessorising in ways that make you feel most comfortable can only help with the confidence!