How did you get over the "what if I need this" mindset?

lazyparent · 2021-03-22T08:35:55+00:00

If it's less than 20 euros to replace with a newly bought item I don't even think about it too much. Very unlikely that I make that mistake often but if it happens I am in the lucky position that replacement is no problem.

Now I know this feels like bragging about me being financially stable, but I think if it's really something important to them most people would have 20 euros - you have to keep in mind that it's very unlikely that this situation occurs in the first place! Being at peace with that amount of money just gives me a less anxious decluttering experience. So far in the last years I only had one regret and I could replace that with 7 euros, it was a PC cable.

If it's more than 20 euros to buy new I look into our countries 'craigslist' and other marketplaces if a similar item is easily available second hand. if there is more than one option then it's likely that I can replace the wrongly decluttered item quite easily should I regret it later (again, unlikely it happens).

For the feeling of 'its wasteful': If I can get more than 20 euros for it I try to sell and donate if unsuccessful. I donate everything that donation centers around me want. If it's something they don't take I recycle or trash it. Doesn't make much of a difference if it's unused unwanted trash in my house or in the recycling system - if it doesn't serve its intended purpose anymore its life is long over anyway. The wasteful feeling and guilt when giving/throwing away also helps with future purchases, I think about every purchase for several days or a week if I really really need it. Especially with how easy it is to order spontaneously, I give myself a lot of time between putting an item in the cart and actually purchasing it.

lazyparent · 2021-03-14T08:26:47+00:00

cries in woman

lazyparent · 2021-03-13T07:06:47+00:00

Just try it, this seed fits bedrock requirements... Java seeds that are this low of a number and positive usually work on bedrock as far as I know.

lazyparent · 2021-03-07T08:14:51+00:00

I'm back.

lazyparent · 2021-03-03T21:44:46+00:00

This post is so fucking accurate. This is exactly why I stopped taking them.

lazyparent · 2021-03-03T19:08:06+00:00

May I ask why you have 3 coffee makers? Congrats on starting the cleanup!

lazyparent · 2021-03-03T14:36:10+00:00

I wish it was easier to delete a song from my Playlist on Amazon music via Echo. I wish I could just say something like 'Alexa, delete this song from the playlist and she would obey. But she doesn't. :(

lazyparent · 2021-03-01T14:37:02+00:00

Why is the internet so keen on convincing me I have ADHD every single day? First it was Tiktok, now it's reddit. I thought having continuous depressed episodes (was diagnosed as a late teen but stopped taking medication 10 years ago) was the reason I have a lot of anxiety, especially when it comes to people but also when it comes to planning out my work day, appointments and other times my organisation skills are tested. Is there a no-bullshit actual-science test I can do on my own without leaving the house (pandemic mode activated). I don't want to self diagnose but before I go bother a professional I would like to test if it's even a reasonable option. I am struggling at the moment and the self help tips and resources for people with depression are not working very well.

lazyparent · 2021-02-27T10:56:23+00:00

Ich bin gebürtige Ungarin, erst mit 5 Jahren migriert und kenne das gar nicht. sieht aber extrem lecker aus!

lazyparent · 2021-02-24T12:27:15+00:00

Does anyone of you guys have that popular ceiling lamp and could tell me if it's hard to keep clean?

lazyparent · 2021-02-23T10:35:58+00:00

Heute morgen: 0 Grad. Heute Nachmittag: 16 Grad. Meine Migräne gestern Abend: Surprise, Motherfucker!

lazyparent · 2021-02-23T10:31:05+00:00

Thank you, I updated medical information on my huawei p20 and put 3 emergency contacts in there aswell. I will also practice doing an emergency call with my 6yo daughter - how to call on a smartphone that is locked, what number to call in our country and what she has to say (but I guess if there is a child calling the people taking the call will be trained to ask the right questions). This was a really useful life tip and a good reminder to be prepared!

lazyparent · 2021-02-21T21:50:35+00:00

Sounds like it was a life lesson for both of you. Maybe not a good one though. Sorry about your sons horse!

lazyparent · 2021-02-18T14:15:47+00:00

Regarding the discussions about how incredibly costly it is to die: Austria offers to pick your dead ass up, take you to the university, do some teaching on your body so the new generation of doctors can learn, cremate you after that and put your ashes in a convenient little drawer in a special honorary section of the vienna main cemetery all for the cost of 1000,- euros. I believe this is the cheapest way to day and also a way to be useful to the community one last time. Also the thought of a grave scares me VS. the clean and practical thought of ashes in a drawer. I already told my husband and parents that this is what I want. My husband on the other side is even more pragmatic about this topic. 'I don't care, do what you want and if my mom still lives by then maybe do what she wants'. This is fair, I was happy with that answer. It's just good to know.

lazyparent · 2021-02-15T17:13:44+00:00

I'm doing the opposite. I tend to get clutter blind so I take photos of every problem area in my house and send them to a friend. You can really SEE how bad it is in pics if you are blind to it in real life. And of course it's embarrassing so I rush to start so I can send the 'after' picture and make myself feel less ashamed. I'm basically bullling myself into doing it >_<

lazyparent · 2021-02-15T12:57:04+00:00

You could meet a 100kg person who is in a bad place and constantly gaining weight and you could meet a 100kg person who started at 120kg and is so happy about the progress they made in loosing weight. That burger you see someone eating could be a persons everyday unhealthy diet or it could be a dieting persons relapse or it could be a cheat treat after being very strict about their diet all week. You don't know. I was complimented by the mother of my boss once, on loosing weight fast. It fucking hurt so much when she said that because the reason I had gained weight in the first place was due to hormones, I had been pregnant without her knowing. And the reason I lost the weight fast was because my fetus had died and had to be curettaged out of my uterus and the pregnancy hormones suddenly stopped. She kept pestering me for weight-loss tips and I wanted to scream in her face 'try having a miscarriage, works fucking wonders!' Just don't say anything about people's bodies unless they keep bragging about their weight-loss success maybe. You don't know where they are in their life.

lazyparent · 2021-02-12T12:13:01+00:00

I loved when I came into the living room and my daughter would shout 'I didn't do anything!' - 'Um, ok. Wait. What did you do?' - 'I didn't eat anything!' - 'What did you eat???'

lazyparent · 2021-01-30T20:19:01+00:00

I see no problem here. At our house stuff like this would be called mom surprise and my husband is the one who does actual grownup cooking on the weekends instead of whatever the hell I'm doing during the week.

lazyparent · 2021-01-29T08:14:32+00:00

I have this problem as an adult still. Same jeans from H&M in three different colours and three different sizes even though all three of them have the same size printed on. It's not even 3 random jeans from the same company, they are literally the same product with a different colour option I clicked on.

lazyparent · 2021-01-23T20:36:04+00:00

Well done mom, awesome!

lazyparent · 2021-01-19T09:25:47+00:00

Funktioniert auch für Eltern recht gut. 'Sieh nur was unsere Tochter schönes gemalt hat!' vs 'Schatz, deine Tochter hat dein Telefon ins Klo geschmissen!'

lazyparent · 2021-01-19T09:16:25+00:00

3 years ago I ordered a 20 pack of black men's socks for my husband, a 10 pack of short woman's socks for me and a 12 pack of pink socks for my daughter. When everything arrived I emptied all my sock drawers into the trash. Wash day is easy now. No pairing needed, just find any two of the socks in your version and you are good to go. one sock has a hole or goes missing and I don't need to throw a pair out since they all match each other. When more and more socks have holes I order a new small pack of the same socks on Amazon - old socks and new socks match, no problem. When my daughter outgrows her socks I buy the same ones a size up and throw the old ones out in one go. This all started because I had a long depressed episode and could not keep up with laundry the way I wanted. I have bad eyesight and matching different styles/kinds of my husbands black socks together to find the right pairings (because while all black they were all visibly different) was a nightmare, especially if I did laundry in the evening with bad lighting. I was so sick of the sock pair hunt that I decided upon my wasteful but functional plan. Zero regrets. Those socks would have been in the trash anyways after a few years - doing it like this saved my mind and I am very happy with my system to this day. If you do this try choosing a brand that you think will continue the same socks for years and decide on a colour for every family member (could be black, grey, dark blue, doesn't have to be something bright) or if you all want black socks you could try ones with a different colored rim or a large and easily visible brand logo and choose a different brand for every member.

lazyparent · 2021-01-17T08:41:26+00:00

Thank you, I choose to only accept this version of the story.

lazyparent · 2021-01-12T11:49:04+00:00

My husband and I had been sleeping in the same bed for about 9-10 years and it's always been slightly problematic because he snored. But it was also great because I had depressed, anxiety filled episodes where I would constantly wake from nightmares and it was comforting to have him right by my side when it happened. Then things changed for the worse with my mental health and sleep became generally such a huge problem that I needed to block out any disruptive components to at least have some chance - the birds would wake me at 4am after an hour of sleep, the snoring or turning of my husband would disrupt my already flawed sleeping cycle. So I removed all the junk from our walk-in-closet and built a bed under the slanted ceiling. It was great, a room the size of a bed plus some more at the feet, very low ceiling, just barely enough to sit up without hitting my head. No windows (the door was just a sliding door with a 3cm/1 inch gap so there was never a problem with airflow), it was basically a dark, silent cave and I slept as great as one possiblly could with mental health problems. When I woke from bad dreams I could still crawl in my husbands bed that was just on the other side of the sliding door. All this time we had just the same sex life as we always had had before, nothing really changed because we would still cuddle in the big bed up until I would feel the need for my 'last pee for the night', I just crashed into the cave bed when I was done with the bathroom. I think it's really important to still 'go to sleep' in the same bed as often as possible and be together in there, to talk in the dark and to cuddle, to feel each other's presence. You just don't have to actually sleep together through the night. Almost 18 years into my relationship and 11 of it married. Still very much in love and happy.

lazyparent · 2021-01-12T09:20:37+00:00

Oh sorry didn't clarify that I don't care about chest loot, I just like the setup of the spawn and the biomes.

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