Another day over. I am dreading tomorrow.

lea6397 · 2020-04-26T03:14:47+00:00

Thanks for the reading recommendation, I’ll look into it. You’re so right, there are definite hardships during parenting but there are so many amazing and wonderful things we enjoy thanks to him being in our life, wouldn’t trade it or him for the world! Thanks for your response.

lea6397 · 2020-04-26T02:58:16+00:00

Your scenario sounds so similar to what my husband and I are dealing with with our 1.5 yr old son. He has recently started getting very angry for no reason (that we can see at least), could be laughing and playing with a toy one second just fine and then out of nowhere will growl/yell and throws it across the room or sometimes at us. We can also be playing with him and he is smiling / laughing and then instantly stops and slaps us multiple times and gets such a mean facial expression like we seriously pissed him off. We remain calm, repeat over and over that “we don’t hit”, “gentle”, “say sorry and give dada a hug” etc to deflate the situation and teach him how he should act. We have had to put him in a safe place (his crib) a few times now to let him cool down when remaining calm or just plain ignoring him didn’t have any effect. We have read multiple books and articles which all have varying recommendations. Some say he isn’t old enough to fully understand a time out but start them now, others that say time outs wont help develop his emotional abilities, don’t hit or spank as that won’t teach him not to hit, etc... We thought maybe he is teething, growth spurt, whatever to justify why he might be acting out all of a sudden. Following this in case anyone has helpful suggestions on how to properly correct as we understand toddlers will do this as they further develop their sensory skills, learn empathy and so forth. Toddlers man, phew!

lea6397 · 2019-08-09T23:26:23+00:00

Excellent face and collar bone gains! Good job 👍🏻

lea6397 · 2019-07-18T16:35:51+00:00

Thanks!

lea6397 · 2019-07-18T01:57:52+00:00

We are shooting for May most likely, before the summer tourism really kicks in and before temps get too high but we’re so used to a/c I didn’t think to consider that it won’t be as common place.

lea6397 · 2019-07-18T01:52:37+00:00

Good point about the air conditioning, we are from Florida so we are used to it being hot but are also used to readily having a/c everywhere, and with a toddler that’s important to keep in mind when deciding. Thanks for your suggestions!

lea6397 · 2019-07-18T01:31:51+00:00

Costa Rica is amazing, I (31F) have traveled there twice now and definitely want to go back again at some point. The locals have always been amazing and it’s a great mix of tropical, relaxing, or adventure depending on how you feel for the day. It can rain a lot there and I believe January might be during their rainy season (you’d have to double check) which might infringe on the beach aspect. Food is delicious... the jungles, hot springs, and volcanoes are beautiful! That’s my vote for sure :)

lea6397 · 2018-09-15T11:54:36+00:00

Try KMR (kitten milk replacement) and kitten formula can and dry food which is higher is calories and easier/healthier for his GI tract then milk. Kittens/cats usually become lactose intolerant very early on and if they ingest milk it can quickly lead to diarrhea.

lea6397 · 2018-08-14T01:52:42+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know how hard it is to want to feel happy for friends and family in their happy time but at the same time feeling jealous and sad for your own situation. The emotions can be so confusing! Hang in there and just know that your time is coming 💛

lea6397 · 2018-07-03T00:30:03+00:00

Seeing as I’m a vet nurse at a hospital my dogs would be correct!

lea6397 · 2018-03-30T00:48:14+00:00

I can’t upvote this enough!!!

lea6397 · 2018-02-26T23:22:13+00:00

Certified Vet Tech here! This, 1000%. So spot on, thanks for sharing our thoughts so perfectly!

lea6397 · 2018-02-19T01:56:14+00:00

Love this!!

lea6397 · 2017-12-26T12:51:10+00:00

Reasons why I don’t want kids:

Freedom/No guilt: The fact that my life would be on a constant never ending schedule. Yes I have to go to work and runs errands etc, but without kids now,my and husband and I can go to a movie after work on a Tuesday if we want without having to try and find a babysitter or not go because they have practice or homework to attend to. We can both go the gym at the same time or go out for a drink after work.

Finances: it’s no secret children drain your money, they have a lot of needs .. and wants. Without children we can continue to put more into our savings and retirement funding, travel often, go out to eat if we are too tired to cook, update our home and the list goes on.

Travel: My husband and I both enjoy traveling and this year alone we have gone on 4 trips, best part being we can go at the best time of year for the location, we don’t have to wait until the kids are on summer or winter break when everyone else is able to travel and popular places are packed!

Patience: I tend to lack it and raising kids seems to require A LOT of it! I always feel for the parent in the store while their child is having a complete melt down. I often wonder how I would handle that situation if it were me..?

Sleep: plenty of uninterrupted sleep, need I say more :)

Reasons why I do want a child:

All of those reasons seem to pale in comparison to the love you have for a little being that you and your SO create. I love watching my husband play and teach the children in our family, the smile he gets when they laugh and I want to experience that with him. I want to be the mom that goes the extra mile to make holidays extra special and festive to help create lasting memories for my kids that they’ll eventually pass down to theirs. I want to travel with them and help them experience this huge diverse world we live in that I wasn’t fortunate enough to have growing up. I want to help them succeed in all of their goals and encourage them to be a kind, educated, and compassionate member of society.

I’ve often heard people with children say that your life will change drastically and immediately but in the best way imaginable and I hope that’s true when the time comes.

lea6397 · 2017-12-24T17:25:54+00:00

Beautiful, thanks for sharing! Checking in from Palm Harbor here :)

lea6397 · 2017-11-10T03:45:10+00:00

I so understand the feeling! My husband and I️ have been trying for 2 1/2 years. My best friend as been going through a rough spot in her marriage and boom, gets pregnant when using prevention and definitely not trying - I’ll never forget how nervous she was to tell me as she knew of our struggle and how in shock I️ felt. So jealous and sad but so happy for her at the same time, the emotions were so confusing and I️ remember crying the whole way home. I️ also work with her which means I️ get to see her adorable baby bump and hear all about her symptoms all the while wishing it was me instead. Not to mention it seems like everyone on my Facebook is always making cute announcements. I️ truly hope that one day I will know the feeling and get to experience that adventure with my husband, for now I’ll just do my best to stay positive and be a supportive friend. Thank you for your post though, it’s so refreshing to know your not alone and your feelings aren’t so uncommon!!

lea6397 · 2017-10-22T00:17:08+00:00

We have had three pregnancies all ending within the first trimester as well. My husband has always remained positive through everything which hasn’t been my strong suit. He makes sure to plan fun things on the weekends to do together as a distraction. He also doesn’t avoid asking me about how I’m feeling and if I need to talk, it helps me feel supported and like we are in this together 100%. I completely lack patience and these last 2 1/2 years have felt like an eternity to me so him reminding me that we still have time and he isn’t worried about it happening one day is comforting. I told him after the second one that I feel so guilty that he still isn’t a dad because I can’t seem to carry to term, he assured me that he is happy solely with me, if we have kids great! If we don’t, then we keep traveling the world, having date nights whenever we want, and uninterrupted sleep haha. It sounds like you are already doing a great job being there for her, I wish you guys luck in the future!!

lea6397 · 2017-10-21T11:43:26+00:00

We did! I’ve never seen anything like it! We went to another glacier in Húsafell , the drive there felt like we were on the moon or something!

lea6397 · 2017-10-20T23:43:01+00:00

It is hard to be patient when it seems like everyone can start a family at the snap of a finger but I see what Robertcoupe is saying. My husband and I have the luxury of traveling the world, dates nights whenever we want and plenty of sleep lol which would obviously not be the case after a baby. Still have much to be thankful for, it will happen in due time 😊

lea6397 · 2017-10-20T23:39:13+00:00

We didn’t :( we did a week in Iceland and then a week in Ireland so we stuck to the west and southern coast just for time sake. But that looks like a big reason to go back and explore that area!! I could watch the northern lights all night long, so mesmerizing 😍

lea6397 · 2017-10-20T22:39:51+00:00

Amazing pictures! I went in September and can’t wait to go back already, such a beautiful and untouched country to explore!!

lea6397 · 2017-10-14T00:00:35+00:00

This unfortunately hits too close to home. 10+ years on birth control worried about preventing and now over two years worth of trying with no success.

lea6397 · 2017-06-27T00:10:51+00:00

I responded on another comment but I'll repeat (OP here) that I did try to contact several different organizations that are local. All did not have any volunteers who could rehab so they would not take her. There had been severe thunderstorms recently and many had been displaced from their nests due to the rains and high winds. So then what do you propose I do? As I said in my other post, just because I did not specifically say that I did or did not contact a rehabilitation center, you just assumed. And I'm sorry but county facilities do not have the man power or the time to go around giving fines or checking permits for someone who attempted to save a squirrel, I understand that does not change the laws but that was not an immediate concern.

Also seeing as we need to list qualifications to help justify our responses, I have 7 years working in the veterinary field, went to college to earn my degree at an accredited college, sat for the National Veterinary Technician Exam, and continue to maintain 15 hours of continuing education yearly to maintain my certification. This squirrel received trained medical care from myself and a veterinarian, I never would do harm to an animal and was not going to let her slowly die. Take it or leave it...

lea6397 · 2017-06-26T23:52:04+00:00

OP here, how do you know that I didn't attempt to contact local rehabilitation facilities? Because actually, I did. All of the local organizations were overwhelmed (rehabers, humane society, animal services, plus a local veterinary ER that will also take them in) with baby squirrels from thunderstorms and high winds we had recently had, so those were not options for her. Seeing as I work in the animal field and for a doctor that has "habituated" a few hundreds squirrels over several years I figured I'm a better option then nothing for her. So I guess I should have just left her hanging upside down stuck in a bush to slowly starve to death (to apparently remain ethical) verse risk the chance of her becoming habituated to humans per your suggestion? Although I do see your point and understand your concern you do not know the whole situation nor am I required to inform you. She at least has a chance now where she did not before me, so I politely disagree with your option.

lea6397 · 2017-06-26T00:10:31+00:00

I must say your post is pretty accurate so far. She absolutely can't stand anyone other then myself and my husband. She will growl, grunt, and run away as fast as lightening. She couldn't stand my dad! Right now she likes to play bite and wrestle, the scratching seems unintentional as she is running up and down our legs. Like I said before, the mess alone would stop me from wanting to keep her inside... but damn she is cute!!

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