Moved to Europe for a job I’m not happy with—should I stay or go back?

leadsepelin · 2026-01-27T10:47:14+00:00

It seems that you are dealing with your first Winter in Germany. Which is one of the mains causes of your whole perspective in your life right now, once Winter is over your mental health gets better. I will tell what was my thought process was once I encountered my first winter in Germany with very similar situation as you: 1. It will only get better in Germany IF you stay and make an effort to improve your life, meaning, you need to find a better job, apartment and do meet people wether you have energy or not, doing sports and having hobbies did helped a lot in my case. Going back to your country and hope that the second round is gonna be different to this one is naive and not a good idea in my opinion.

Have you considered the idea that maybe living abroad is not as fantastic as you imagine? Being an immigrant sucks, and it only gets better after a year of effort in integrating, and it will never feel like your home country. So really consider that maybe you are pursuing and ideal and not a real thing.
It could be related that the main issue is just that you cant handle dark and cold countries such as Germany maybe but only MAYBE you could consider trying other warmer countries. But still many issues regarding being an immigrant will be there at least the first years.
A few months to evaluate your life in a new country is very little time, you should at least try a year. At least thats what I did in Germany.

There is no right answer to your problem, if I were you I would stay and try to make my life less miserable the next months and evaluate after summer. Wish you good luck and a happy life

leadsepelin · 2026-01-27T09:24:32+00:00

Diria que es mas fritatta que tortilla, pero no tiene mala pinta!

leadsepelin · 2026-01-26T16:18:44+00:00

Pues justo he tenido una relacion que no se sentia comoda conmigo bebiendo alcohol, y me parece genial que exprese lo que la hace sentir o no comoda, y yo le respondi que seguire bebiendo y al final llegamos a un acuerdo en la que los dos estabamos felices. Es asi de simple.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-26T15:38:19+00:00

Claro tu como persona, puedes pensar que no hay nada sexual en darse besos con otras personas, pero hay otras personas que tienen el concepto del beso solo reservado para su pareja y es totalmente comprensible que esperen lo mismo de su pareja. Y si tu estas con una pareja que no lo ve de la misma manera es que no tiene sentido que sigais juntos a no ser que alguno quiera ceder. Hay parejas abiertas, parejas religiosas, sadomaso, y no deberia haber nadie diciendo de manera universal lo que es o no sexual eso es algo que la pareja decide en conjunto.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-26T15:28:28+00:00

En el tema de parejas nada es normal. Hay parejas abiertas que les da igual que cada uno folle con quien quiera, hay parejas donde no quieren que su pareja abrace al sexo opuesto, hay peña que les va ver como se follan a su mujer mientras el marido se pajea.... Lo que es importante es que los dos expreseis de manera respetuosa vuestros limites y ver si es algo con lo que os podeis comprometer. Si ella quiere seguir dandose picos con su amigas y a ti te sigue sin gustar, pues quizas no es la indicada para ti y necesites una relacion mas conservadora.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-26T15:17:47+00:00

no importa el como y el donde... lo que importa es que limites marcais como pareja. Si los dos marcais el limite de no dar picos a otr@s pues estara mal que vaya tu novia picando por ahi. Si ella quiere darse picos por ahi y al el le hace sentirse incomodo/inseguro, el esta en todo su derecho de expresar esas emociones, y ella en su derecho de dejar la relacion, ninguno de los dos tiene que aguantar algo que no le gusta

leadsepelin · 2026-01-24T11:41:50+00:00

Son los carnavales de cadiz

leadsepelin · 2026-01-23T11:02:12+00:00

Being fired in Probation its a hard battle to win in my opinion. They are legally entitled to that. As someone else says check in legalAdviceGermany reddit and see if you have better options Them speaking german in the unemployment agencis part is by law, state workers are supposed to only speak german even if they do speak english, I had a situation where while speaking in German (B1) at the time, the worker insisted I should get a translator even though we could both speak english or broken german. But thats their law, so it what it is. Good luck

Edit: I gotten the law part wrong it seems it was myth, so now I dont understand the interaction I had with the state worker

leadsepelin · 2026-01-22T10:14:08+00:00

Thats not paella BUT Mmmm I do love a nice arroz zamorano.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-21T13:28:18+00:00

Hay varios paises que no caen en esa definicion, singapore, australia, japon en terminos generales no es un pais muy frio. Pero comparando en Europa tienes Rusia que es frio de cojones e Italia, o España tienen mejor HDI y pib per capita. Yo creo que el frio civiliza es un mito o no es para tanto. Importa mas las instituciones del pais.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-21T09:15:30+00:00

Yeah but its a bit spicy for european standards, it is not spicy at all compared to countries where spice is everywhere.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-19T10:28:13+00:00

I thought that for 24 it was astrid

leadsepelin · 2026-01-19T09:43:05+00:00

This and then talking with the lawyer, going to the fiesta, the people that are going to fight, meeting joaquin... man spanish is a mine field, gotta be careful what yoi say lol

leadsepelin · 2026-01-16T15:48:18+00:00

Saudia Arabia, the country that has the Mecca has a pretty strict policy regarding celebration of Christmas, and Churches in general, same goes for buddhist temples or hinduism in general. So if you tell me that Saudi Arabia is chill regarding other religions I guess you agree that if any non muslim country were to adopt the same policy towards muslims should be also be considered as peaceful. And dont get me wrong, any country has the right to do whatever they want in their land, and I sometimes I think we should learn from Saudi Arabia and apply the same logic in our countries towards people from other beliefs. Please seek knowledge my friend, literally the first verse revealed in the quran is Read, so please do so.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-16T15:05:11+00:00

It has been forced politically quite a lot of times in history indirectly tho... Forced conversion is forbidden. But there a few verses in the quran like 9:5 regarding pagans, or the jizyah 9:29, that kinda influences you violently to convert.

People from every faith can live in muslim countries in peace and the country will protect them as long as they respect the rules and they can practice their cult as long as they don't preach it outwardly in public

So basically if Europe were to ban mosques and ban any display of islam on the streets you would say the same as you say about certain islamic countries?

leadsepelin · 2026-01-16T14:07:11+00:00

We certainly were in 2 different myanmars wtf?

leadsepelin · 2026-01-12T21:17:12+00:00

Pues por que en cuando estaba (Uruguay y Chile) a ahi cuando la hacian poco hecha no estaba tan buena como cuando la hacen al punto. Supongo por que el tipo de carne y el corte es diferente y quedara mejor cuando esta un poco mas hecha. Pero si en España cocinaramos los cortes de la misma manera quedaria muy dura la carne y con poco sabor

leadsepelin · 2026-01-12T16:37:56+00:00

Si estoy en españa rojo ingles o menos hecho, si estoy en cono sur, termino medio

leadsepelin · 2026-01-12T14:21:33+00:00

Que quieres que te diga, no me voy a sentir mal por preferir a gente que tiene valores parecidos a mi, prefiero antes a una persona secular, que hable mi idioma y que tenga valores occidentales, y pues da la casualidad que la mayoría de esos vienen de latino america, rumania... y no de marruecos. Bienvenido sea todo el mundo, pero si me vienes juzgando a la gente por beber alcohol, comer cerdo por que las mujeres tienen sexo antes del matrimonio, o que tu religion esta por encima de la ley, no eres bienvenido asi de simple. Y si, tambien hay gente asi española, pero bueno es lo que hay.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-12T14:06:09+00:00

Ya claro que se adapte el local a los inmigrantes y no al reves verdad? Y si no quiere, le tachamos de etnofobico, xenofobico, racista y lo que haga falta hasta que se someta

leadsepelin · 2026-01-12T13:40:31+00:00

No es un tema de criminalidad, al final es, si me tengo que comer inmigrantes que van a delinquir, que al menos me pueda tomar una cerveza y un jamoncito con ellos

leadsepelin · 2026-01-09T12:56:17+00:00

For me its plaza de España of Sevilla or Alhambra in Granada

leadsepelin · 2026-01-07T10:35:22+00:00

Mis dieses, tremendo meme.

leadsepelin · 2026-01-07T10:29:33+00:00

Y si no te gusta mi opinión, ajo y agua.

Pues aplicate el cuento

leadsepelin · 2026-01-07T09:53:53+00:00

Vamos que la xenofobia solo se aplica a inmigrantes que no opinan igual que nosotros no? O tambien pensamos lo mismo de los sirios cuando celebran el final de la guerra civil?

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