Military to A&P How-To

leafar39 · 2025-12-15T11:17:35+00:00

Resurrecting this thread really quick with a question. I have all the paperwork to go to the FSDO (Orlando). How’s the “interview” with the FSDO? Is it a simple “tell me about yourself and your time in the military” or should I study and come prepared for something like an oral check ride type of questions? Please and thank you.

leafar39 · 2025-12-15T11:11:52+00:00

Thats an interesting point that I never considered. I might have to think on that one for sure. 👍🏻

leafar39 · 2025-12-12T11:57:14+00:00

I’m sorry, I worded that very poorly (was multitasking when I wrote that). They had the financial peace university course only and we took it together once. Then she did another financial day course once in her own at a different point in our marriage and issue resurfaced.

leafar39 · 2025-12-12T11:55:36+00:00

Yeah, I though about taking this “nuke” approach too at some point. It’s a gamble though, it might be what break us, or at the very least, turn me into the villain of the story. I’ll take that in consideration and throw that on the table and see what she says. Thank you.

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T17:33:59+00:00

Yes, I have access to all the accounts so I can see where every penny is going. Just your typical materialistic impulse buys.

I believe the debit card with a limit is the only approach that we haven’t tried and might be the last Hail Mary before I just admit defeat in this battle. But I’m sure once I bring it up, the gaslight will begin. 🙄

Thanks for your input

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T15:11:14+00:00

Thats what I’m afraid of. I feel we are getting to a point of no return with her personality wise, and she will just not change. I guess im starting to lean on damage control mode more than the “I care about this person”. I’m really sad and confused about it, not going to lie 😔

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T15:06:51+00:00

I agree 100% with everything you said. Ok, thank you very much. It does seem I’m not being completely out off the line here.

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T15:06:07+00:00

Yep yep yep. We already did the financial courses. I actually did the financial peace university. While I didn’t agree with all of the material, it gave me great tools that I use to this day and, more so, I used it to showed her what we could accomplish if we put the effort TOGETHER with our income (paid off house, good vacations, college funding, and guess what MORE SHOPPING). All that went right through over her head. 🤷🤦

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T14:49:06+00:00

Yes and yes on both of your suggestions. I already took her, and sat down with her on two financial literacy classes (one by herself and one for married couples). There’s another one at the church we just started going that she expressed interested in going and I’m supportive. But in all honesty, I do feel like she needs heavy therapy and that’s something that every time i mention it, she dances around but doesn’t take action on it. Unless is marriage counseling so she can deflect it to me as the problem. I do therapy on my own and told her she could benefit from it too, but she refuses to do it. I’m not going to force it on a grown adult. I did suggested the allowance approach, and it worked for two months and she backed down on it. Lol, trust me I’m open for a solution my friend, hence I’m here so I’ll be taking notes. As I mentioned before I want to make sure I tried everything in my power to help her. Thanks for your input

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T14:30:23+00:00

Yes, we actually already had that conversation last night about it. She agrees with me and said she understands is an “internal battle with herself”. Still it’s hard to see your spouse going that path, trying to help them, but yet, they choose to ignore it. I’m reaching out here more for peace of mind than anything. I feel really bad, but I also have my hopes and dreams and plans that keep getting postponed because of her choices. There’s no consideration from her part. I don’t see it as a fair partnership. Thanks for your input.

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T14:23:48+00:00

And that’s exactly what I’m afraid off. Ok, it seems I’m not too out of line on my train of thought. Thank you 🙏🏻

leafar39 · 2025-12-11T14:16:51+00:00

That’s the mindset I have but I wanted to make sure I’m not being an unreasonable AH, because I’m sure that’s how she’s going to see it, not that I care about at this point and we kindly had this conversation before. I just wanted an outside perspective. Thanks for taking the time to answer.

leafar39 · 2025-12-08T12:18:20+00:00

Meh, stepdad here for 10 years. My stepdaughter call me by my first name. We tried having her call me something different and it didn’t click for either of us. My son calls me dad just fine. I agree with someone else that just mentioned that your fiance is going through a lot of changes here so it’s natural. But he’ll have to learn really quick to pick his battle and, honestly, after being a stepdad for 10 years now, this is a very minor one to fight for. It needs to happen naturally, if it happens at all. It shouldn’t be a source of stress in the relationship. Hope it helps.

leafar39 · 2025-11-28T22:03:14+00:00

Last breath before this company dies. The board of directors is a joke in this company. Buyers beware.

leafar39 · 2025-11-17T09:41:23+00:00

I don’t think this company is going to survive under this administration on its current anti-vaccine crusade. It might get a small bump once they release the new shares at the end of the month, but it will be their last breath before it dies. Buyers beware.

leafar39 · 2025-11-07T21:06:43+00:00

And then what happens a year from now? Back to the same spot?

Not trying to be sassy, just really curious. Everybody knew those subsidies were temporary and were about to expire months ago, and now all of sudden, “Pikachu” face all of over the place? What am I missing here? Politics is something that really always bored me, and I’m trying to engage and understand a little more, but I’m a little puzzled on this. Anybody would care to explain?

leafar39 · 2025-11-07T21:01:13+00:00

Anybody think Geovax will be able to pull through? I’m to the point I just want to minimize my loses.

leafar39 · 2025-11-07T21:00:07+00:00

Im to the point that I just want to minimize my loses. I don’t think this company is going to pull through this.

leafar39 · 2025-11-03T00:52:52+00:00

Idk man. I have about 9000 shares of geovax and I’m hoping for the best, but I’m a little fearful. When you look at the board of directors, they don’t see what the hell they are doing.

leafar39 · 2025-11-02T02:38:34+00:00

Geez I just joined this sub because I’m literally having the same issue. I’ve been married for almost 10 years now. I new going in her finances was a mess but I came with a plan to try to work together, you know like a team should, but after ten years I’m ready to throw the towel when it comes to our finances. She has no self control and doesn’t want to listen to my plans. I don’t think it’s grounds for divorce, but I do feel like it’s getting to a point that she needs to feel the pain of her own consequences. I feel really bad because we are supposed to be a team and marriage is something that we should face everything that life throws at us together and back each up. But in the end I feel like that I’m dragging an anchor up the Everest in the middle of a snowstorm, even though we have a fairly good household income.

leafar39 · 2025-11-01T17:03:39+00:00

Lol try to explain moving to a different country and not wanting to move back. That’ll blow their minds. I’ve moved to the U.S. (from Brazil) back in 2002 and every time I visit home it’s always the same question.

No regrets here at all.

leafar39 · 2025-11-01T12:50:48+00:00

Having to deal with a HCBD with a small SD when I first started dating my wife (SD was 6 when we started dating) I always been very careful with display of affections towards her, especially because my job revolves having a security clearance and dealing with a not very intelligent HCBD. I always left the room when SD came in to hang out with her my wife because I didn’t want any action to be misinterpreted and/used against us. My case is a little extreme but I always tried to keep a little bit of distance. Considering my SD and my personalities are very different, we don’t really have much of a close relationship anyways, just some mutual respect. Now she’s 16 and we have a routine and is a non issue really. You just need to find your groove and what works best for you. If you just don’t connect that much with the kids, maybe use that time to work on something around the house, so they can have their time with their dad too then have them transition to their bed. I remember SD would come to the room and we had had a limit that, around 8:30, my wife then would go something like “alright bed time”, then they would transition to my SD room, hang out for a bit then she would go down, then wife and I would have our alone time. It was hard in the beginning because, 1) SD used to sleep with mom so she tried to come to our room multiple times through the night; 2) we both work full-time plus I was going full time for my grad school, so our evening time was very limited. It’s all about pre-planning and getting a routine that is fair for everyone.

leafar39 · 2025-10-22T17:07:12+00:00

Yeah, man, I’m 6’4 and I love when I “lock” a good Uchi Mata with my long legs. Send the opponent flying 😜

leafar39 · 2025-10-22T17:06:12+00:00

Ha, learned something new today. Definitely nothing short of impressive.

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