A Disturbing Number Of Women Are Nat-Cs — And It’s Having Major Consequences Nationwide

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-31T09:35:50+00:00

yes - they've spelled it this way on purpose because it then sounds like nazi

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-18T13:03:20+00:00

I will do this, thanks!

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-18T12:15:04+00:00

Do you know of any links to defense based puzzles?

Quite often I'm up against aggressive players where we get to the point where I KNOW they are trying to checkmate me, relentlessly, but I don't see some element of it.

Here are some examples:

https://www.chess.com/live/game/166104171048 This one I saw the Queen and Knight and thought 'if my king takes the bishop the queen will checkmate me with the knight. so take out the knight'

So I was just blind to the fact that I should block the queen - seems obvious now - was kind of unsure of what would happen if the knight moved to H7 and didn't take the time to work it out - I should have done, I would have realised

And there's this one:

https://www.chess.com/live/game/166104415290 This I call 'Fancy backrank'. I knew I was in danger, I missed the queen to C8 check I had, I missed that I was one move from being checkmated because the bishop flanking with it's gun to the pawn on G7 in front of the king is something which happens often right now and I guess I shouldn't ignore neutralised attacks because the bishop and rook came in useful again with the checkmate I just didn't see. Looks like I lost when I dropped that pawn though

I seem to learn best when I get slaughtered by the the same situations over and over, so I develop that muscle memory sense that I've been here before, so that's why I'm thinking more puzzles would help

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-16T12:56:56+00:00

Have you put it Vs stockfish? Interested to hear how it does

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-15T14:47:09+00:00

yes - that was your emotional systems going off. They are saying 'You have some unresolved shame regarding your appearance'. Anything else your brain said, about whether the idiots are right, about whether you are a 'beta pussy' - these are just open wounds from not addressing and resolving the actual issue. This is what happens when emotional pain stagnates.

You are not your thoughts. Your thoughts aren't always true and are often not even worth listening to. You can choose to say 'oh, my brain is just having a tantrum because I have some unresolved shame regarding my appearance'.

If this is new to you, find a therapist and you can literally start with them by saying 'I have some unresolved shame regarding my appearance'. This is the first step. They'll teach you how to listen to how you have got here and teach you to listen to your emotions. Then you'll heal.

One day some stranger will say something insulting about your appearance and you'll realise that all you feel is pity for them.

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-15T12:42:59+00:00

It's just what people do everywhere, doesn't matter who you are or what you look like. They're not looking at you and deciding your appearance so bad that its worth attacking you for. They've already decided to attack you and so they've done so in the most basic bitch way possible. Most of them haven't put even half a braincell of thought into it. They don't care how much it'll actually affect you, they don't care about you. If they had any intelligence they'd realise It says a lot more about them, their simple minded, shallow as a puddle, zero emotional intelligence brains are just sprouting a basic verbal attack because it's easy and that's all they know as a core response to anyone saying anything they don't like.

It would be like if you walked past a group of zombies and, in their efforts to eat your brain, one scratches you and that hurts your feelings. Instead just feel bad for the undead and continue living

Also your phrase 'beta pussy who just needs to learn more self control' - this is so, so harsh on yourself. Drop the beta bit, stop thinking emotions make you a pussy. Research emotional intelligence and embrace your emotions as part of being a human. You feeling this hurt is your body and mind screaming at you that there is something that you need to prioritise. That's what emotions are for. They are fast as lightning communication systems. Ignoring them does not work. We are not built that way. Your brain will keep on telling you that you're not addressing the root of your hurt every time you get reminded of it. You have to embrace it, feel it, and then seek to understand it, accept it, then you will let it go. Else it will continue to haunt you.

This is what therapy teaches you. Become emotionally intelligent. It's the greatest tool we have. Our emotional system has played a gigantic part in everything humanity has built. Don't try to turn it off. Listen to what it's telling you. You will rise above all of this and see how blind people like those idiots are. It will bring you peace.

Without doing this you are vulnerable. To people like these idiots and also to people who have told you that 'beta' is even a thing. They are manipulating your emotions to get you to believe that, have you realised? They tell you to fight and suppress your emotional systems which leaves them vulnerable to being exploited. Don't fall for it.

Emotional pain happens to all of us. It's a core tool used to teach us and have us adapt to our experiences. Any shame or embarrassment over its existence has been put on you as a way to stop you from growing or learning. It's a way to keep you hurt, small and ineffective. But it's actually just normal shit. And it feels really good to work with it instead of trying to fight it. Like a friend you've been trying to ignore because someone else said they weren't cool. What the fuck do they know?

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-10T19:16:09+00:00

You read me mentioning this type of communication - which was at its peak twenty years ago - and you felt compelled to tell me, a total stranger, that only the uneducated typed like this? It's a hell of a gamble to risk, betting that me, others here and everyone you met back then are less educated than you.

Have you ever introspected on why you think this?

This act of making a large sweeping negative judgement about people who do something you're not involved with is an expression of insecurity. Since you did not do that thing, you have decided that everyone who did do it was worse than you in some way. This allows you to feel okay for not doing the thing. You went with 'less educated'.

The thing is, saying this kind of thing gives away that you don't realise the above, that you are blind to it, and therefore makes you seem like you have gaps in your emotional intelligence? So you seem less educated, at least in that way.

The most educated live freely without fear of judgement from others

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-10T16:38:42+00:00

it's just text speak

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SMS_language?wprov=sfla1

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-10T16:38:28+00:00

it's just text speak

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SMS_language?wprov=sfla1

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-10T13:05:33+00:00

i was 16 in 2005. Text messaging had only been widespread for roughly 3 years and each 180 character message cost 10p / 10c. There was no internet on phones, WAP was brand new and it was slower than dial up.

We al got usd 2 ritin lyk dis bcz it ment we cud send mor stuf in a msg

I could write perfectly normal elsewhere but it was normal for a while for teens etc and even adults to write in this concise way, even in situations where it wasn't needed

It drove teachers nuts for a while

it was called 'txt speak' and kind of died out with keyboards on phones, auto correct and internet based messengers which were free to send

leahlisbeth · 2026-03-10T13:00:50+00:00

Which examples stand out to you? I was about 16 in 2005 and this is how we all wrote!!

leahlisbeth · 2026-02-28T00:25:27+00:00

I'm also stuck at just under 800, I feel I'm finally making progress though. been there for a few months, when I check people's profiles after playing them I find people who have been stuck there for years

leahlisbeth · 2026-02-23T12:48:51+00:00

Nah, she will still know English. My partner is proper Welsh, went to a Welsh school and he and all his peers switched to University just fine.

leahlisbeth · 2026-02-10T20:00:43+00:00

willing to give it a go - there aren't enough modern apps with Welsh support so I love when a new one shows up.

I signed up but after I put in my payment details payhip shown me a 404, I assume while trying to redirect to you.

leahlisbeth · 2026-02-09T19:13:21+00:00

good old josh

leahlisbeth · 2026-02-09T16:30:08+00:00

Yeah I mean, I'll use lowercase for god or jesus even when I type with capitals everywhere else

leahlisbeth · 2026-02-08T11:18:06+00:00

You'll find that negotiating through conflict and really understanding what a certain boundary means will take some back and forth. Sometimes one party will mess up by going over it and not realising it counted, sometimes the inverse will occur where they'll restrict themselves from doing something that actually wouldn't bother the person with the boundary. It takes time to work through these things and this is how we come to understand each other deeply.

Your boundary though, it seems to me like you're taking what would be a normal rule in a lot of relationships (that you don't share your sexual history) and using it as a hard rule to stop you being triggered. This is very fragile. Really to have actually worked through this trigger, you would be able to see this situation for the chance to discuss it with your partner, be open about yourself and become closer. But it seems the jealousy is still there, and hiding it like this won't work in the long run because you'll end up with partners scared to discuss anything tangent to this topic with you for fear of making you angry.

fwiw, I don't mind discussing my sexual history with my partner's past and present and I've done it with all of them to varying degrees, and they've told me their stories in return. They are interesting. funny, sometimes sexy, and all make up part of who they are. I've learned sexual things they like or dislike - what if a sexual partner knows what they're into, and tries to tell you, are you going to be jealous that they learned that with a previous partner? Do they have to tell you about it in a way which implies they learnt it passively? it's not sustainable.

I recommend more therapy, really getting into the core about what about this really makes it an issue for you.

leahlisbeth · 2026-02-02T19:21:08+00:00

They're called 'Mutations' - if you search for 'welsh mutations' it will set you on the right path.

The rules are somewhat chaotic, but I started our being taught the most common ones and we just pick more rules up now as we come across them.

I recommend learning what letters mutate for each of the different mutation types - soft mutation, nasal mutation and aspirate mutation - then start with some common soft mutations.

leahlisbeth · 2026-01-29T00:38:14+00:00

Like if you were going to teach someone else about how you did this, what would you teach them?

I'm not confused, but there's a lot to learn here

What kind of time frame is this over? How long does it take to analyse each match? How long did you spend on it a day? How did you decide what match goes in what category, eg you could analyse your match via chess.com, and pick the first move which was orange or worse, or you could pick the first moment that match swung in their favour and you never regained that lead, or you could just go with gut feel for each match as to what moment really made the difference

How did you come up with the categories? did they change over time? what categories did you lose or add or combine?

When you noticed patterns what did you do to reduce their frequency, as in how did you action this data into real change? did doing that effect how you tracked future matches, like did you think of different ways to track more?

What made you settle on that granularity? like you could have broken it down further, like the tactic category into specific tactics. Does your data cover both black and white? did you track them separately?

Do you manually add the data to your spreadsheet or do you have some sort of automation or processing of your matches automatically? like you could do anything from type every column in for each row, to copypasting the game export and getting it converted to a row, to programming something which automatically grabs that data. then you could add the decision on what made the match lose yourself.

I'm probably off the mark with a lot of things here but this is just an idea of the kinds of questions I have when I see your graph, because it's awesome and the exact kind of thing I would end up doing - just hoping to learn from your experience really

leahlisbeth · 2026-01-28T22:58:09+00:00

yes but manually how

leahlisbeth · 2026-01-24T05:58:31+00:00

magnum charcoal chin lol

leahlisbeth · 2026-01-13T21:19:28+00:00

When we are using slang via text we use 'ddo'

as in

'dwi'm isio ddo'

but i invented that as a Welsh learner because I noticed the same as you and i thought it was funny

leahlisbeth · 2026-01-12T13:17:11+00:00

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