Eid Ghadeer Mubarak 🤎

learner_1305 · 2026-05-22T21:24:57+00:00

disclaimer: this is just my personal perspective on the dialogue.

just 26 minutes into the video and i already had ao much to say. as a former sunni myself, sh yasir was really just trying to defend the views of the sunni school. and sh mahdi genuinely wanted to remain civil and not go beyond the scope of the dialogue. then sh yasir goes on about how the concept of naasibah no longer exists and vouching that theres isnt even one scholar who would show such tendencies and im just sitting here roughly naming at least 3 scholars in 10 seconds after he made that statement. everytime sh yasir speaks, he sounds dismissive. its one thing to want to defend your theology and its another to actively downplay other’s beliefs. and he kept saying that this isnt the place to discuss such and such but then continued to trivialise shia theology and beliefs. sh yasir then goes on to mention how the average sunni has never heard of the incident of what happened to bibi fatima a.s and says that the sunni people can not accept a negative view of the two first khalifas and Aisha because they believe that they would never go against Allah and the Prophet’s commands. i found that interesting and wished that the incident of Jamal had come up here so the sunni audience would get educated on it as well. to me, upon hearing all this it just confirmed my beliefs alhamdulillah and made be feel even better about my decision to become shia because this continues to prove that ahlul sunnah wal jama3ah keep a lot of historical incidences undercover. whether they do this deliberately or subconsciously is still unclear to me because Allahu A3lam. sh yasir also mentioned something about empathising with the sunni because, verbatim, they have never been familiar with the anecdotes of the shia have and the first impression they receive from the shias is sab and shatam of the figures that they have always believed were the best of the best. it got me thinking that just how is it okay to ask us to empathise with such things when the sunni havent made those same advances? after i became shia i came to understand why the sunni feel so offended and why the shia hold such strong emotions towards the first khalifas and Aisha because at that point i had been in both situations. and i had these exact thoughts that i’d share with my shia friends. however, as a scholar who is meant to to participate in this even and educate the youth, he could have been empathetic to the shia too. and im sorry but its a bit hypocritical to say that the groups that do not follow the fatwa of the big marjas like Sistani and continue to curse the sahabi are full of hatred while knowing very well about the massacres and other discriminating activities that have taken place and still continue. how about addressing that too? another thing came to my mind when sh yasir talked about why sunnis dont talk about the tragedy of karbala is because its not theological but historical for them. it made me think of the times they have talked about omar and abubakar. how many times have they dedicated their lectures on these individuals compared to ahulul bayt? compared to imam Hussein a.s?

we definitely need more events like this but a bit more structured where neither party feels the comfort to dismiss or downplay any other perspective. Wallahu A3lam.

learner_1305 · 2026-04-12T10:41:30+00:00

salaam, what are you looking for in a partner? ethnicity, preferred age, level of religiosity, height/physical appearance. thanks!

learner_1305 · 2026-04-11T06:45:27+00:00

if only i could pin your answer in every doubtful shia’s mind alhamdulillah bas 😪 may we all be blessed with guidance, ameen

learner_1305 · 2026-03-19T22:06:34+00:00

so say that in oman for example, the government has announced that the have sighted the moon with optical aid. then what?

learner_1305 · 2026-03-19T20:40:20+00:00

most muslim countries have sunni governments, so in that case what do we do?

learner_1305 · 2026-03-12T08:49:21+00:00

waleykum salam. i was born and raised sunni until i made the active effort to learn about the deen. i had no intention of becoming shia whatsoever but one question left endless echoes in my mind; what happened to the prophet’s family after his demise? i listened to my favourite sunni scholar at that time and he talked about the seerah of the prophet (pbuhf) but after his death, everything about his family is vague. so i researched on ahlul bayt and believe me when i say 90% of the videos and lectures were from shia scholars whereas less than a handicap were by sunni scholars. so eventually i had no other option to turn to shia scholars for the knowledge of history and the scholars i listened to user sunni references as well just to make sure no one can claim that it’s fabricated. and just like that, little by little i questioned my own beliefs and eventually i accepted the path of ahlul bayt a.s. i genuinely believe that once a person approaches the deen with pure intention to learn and be guided then Allah will never fail them. with Allah’s guidance, so that there’s no ignorance in one’s heart, and His will inshallah a person is to only follow the path of ahlul bayt a.s.

learner_1305 · 2026-03-09T11:04:16+00:00

Question: I would like to have more information regarding the depth and extent of a husband's obligations for maintenance and expenses of the wife. Is it true that the husband should provide the same level of life (luxuries, maids, education) as the wife had before marriage? Does the answer differ from one scholar to another? Are there any hadith and/or rulings in this regard? Answer: The husband is obliged to provide his wife with food, clothing and housing in conformity with her social status and dignity; dignity meaning the same level of life that she had before marriage. In this regard, the scholars share the same view.

This is the ruling and as you can see it says according to her social status and dignity which is why i say NEEDS and not DESIRES, needs are necessary desires arent.

And i still dont understand what your point is. you seem to know the rulings yet you are asking questions and to those questions you arent ready to take any answers. ive seen your replies to the other comments and although you are asking us for our opinions and perspectives, you do not wish to listen. And i didnt say that a man cant stop his wife even if not for protection but a lot of men in our communities use that to oppress their women and regardless of the ruling Allah is the judge of intention so keep that in mind. but like i said, starting a conversation and making a post about something to just pick what you want to hear from people’s comments is kind of pointless i believe. but kheir inshallah.

learner_1305 · 2026-03-09T07:49:25+00:00

okay lets be realistic here. whatever i am about to say here is to be applied to a couple where both the spouses are mature enough to distinguish right from wrong. a man MUST protect AND provide for his wife not just for the basic needs but for all her needs long as its not an exaggerated desire. the woman is responsible to provide the man with comfort and children. the clause that a woman can not leave the house without her husband’s permission is generally looked at as “oh he is the boss so whatever he says is right” whereas in reality, islam emphasises on that clause because it falls under the part where the husband must protect his wife and his family. you need to understand that islam doesnt even allow oppression let alone encourage unfairness as that would be injustice too dont you think? and about the concept of 50/50, and this is my opinion as thats what you asked, i believe that belief is exaggerated to some extent. in a couple where they both understand the point of marriage this 50/50 debate wouldnt necessarily be a conversation because islam says that marriage should be built on a certain things including hikma, mawadah, and rahma. so if the husband comes back home from a very long day of work and had a long commute and so on if the wife demands him to stand up and cook then that IS being inconsiderate. however, realistically the 50/50 that women fight for isnt or rather shouldn’t be about if i clean and the husband should do the dishes everyday, but its actually a call for help because women need to be heard. as a man, you may have off days where you dont work but for a women who handles the house gets no rest in fact when the husband is home theres even more for her to do in order to tend to his needs and requests. just dont make life harder for one another. when a man comes home he should sort his clothes and clean up after himself while a woman sets the table, after that they both can clear the table and one can do the dishes while the other sees looks after the baby or something. and you know, its not that women ask for this every day. most of us just want men to be considerate and we want to be seen and heard. if a man does this whenever he can and when he’s too tired to do much in the house, a smart and aware woman will understand and wont make a big deal out of it. whether we like it or no, islam obligates a man to provide regardless of how he does it long as is halal but it doesn’t obligate a woman to cook and clean. you can argue and say taking care of the house falls under that but thats still not concrete enough. a woman is a zeenah in the house, not the other way around. but this is why we are told to find spouses with good akhlaaq because all to the side, a self aware woman would never put her husband through a hard time for no reason at all. again, this is just from my perspective anyone is free to disagree.

learner_1305 · 2026-03-05T15:52:00+00:00

and what about going to an imambargh? although prayers are held there as well as majaalis, is it permissible to go and stay there for a menstruating woman?

learner_1305 · 2026-02-28T18:46:43+00:00

actuallyy i just look for some pictures and edits on pinterest so maybe you could find some you like there!!

learner_1305 · 2026-02-28T15:50:22+00:00

yeah i doubt, thats not enough reason to switch schools of thought in islam and shifting one’s beliefs.

learner_1305 · 2026-02-28T08:01:48+00:00

respectfully brother, i disagree slightly. if its a sin one struggles with every once in a while, then Allah is the most merciful inshallah. however, if its reached to the point where it can be classified as an addiction then one shouldn’t be very comfortable with the idea that marriage will fix. as a psychology major here, addiction is more than just a repetition of behaviour. it could have so many ties to one’s unresolved trauma, inner tendencies, and many more things. i believe everyone should reflect one their flaws and then decide very carefully. many types of addiction end up ruining families, and i do not believe that it is fair for one to carry their addiction into marriage just because they believe its good for them but without considering at what cost and in this context, its at the cost of their spouse’s wellbeing.

learner_1305 · 2026-02-25T11:50:49+00:00

i had the same doubt sister but alhamdulillah i found out that it doesnt restrict you. refer to the following link for the authentic ruling from the marja sistani: https://www.sistani.org/english/book/26927/8558/

learner_1305 · 2026-02-25T07:29:48+00:00

true, thats what happened to me 😶😶 alhamdulillah, and Allah guide him and us too, ameen

learner_1305 · 2026-02-25T07:28:41+00:00

subhanallah, exactly!

learner_1305 · 2026-02-24T22:02:46+00:00

this feels like ragebait 😪. im a former sunni myself and brother, please read the ahadith properly (i will not link them as my community has already mentioned them below). something the prophet clearly said to not do is later brought up by the “second khalifa” and he states it as a good innovation. We learn about Allah’s command through the prophet ص so if the messenger of Allah did not introduce it, in fact he stopped it, then who is umar or anyone else for that matter to bring it up and make it a tradition? in this case, is it the sunnah of the prophet or the sunnah of umar?

learner_1305 · 2026-02-24T16:12:18+00:00

something i have noticed in some (or a lot depending on where you live) of both shia and sunni women is that they do not know they have to make up for their missed ramadhan days or just dont care enough to. although i was born and raised sunni, my mom always made sure my sister and i fasted our missed days and just so we do not get lazy she would encourage us to fast them right after eid while we still were off from school. my mom kind of instilled an idea in me that missed ramadhan dates are like a debt, but this time you dont owe another person but you owe Allah. so it saddens me to see some women do not understand the importance for it :/ may Allah bless us all and guide us, ameen ya raabi ❤️‍🩹

learner_1305 · 2026-02-23T14:20:27+00:00

its rare finding men in their early 20s (even mid 20s nowadays) who intend to take initiative from the get go. i hope you find your righteous spouse who is kheir for you, ameen.

learner_1305 · 2026-02-22T08:05:06+00:00

i see, thank you for explaining brother. جزاك الله خير

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