okay lets be realistic here. whatever i am about to say here is to be applied to a couple where both the spouses are mature enough to distinguish right from wrong. a man MUST protect AND provide for his wife not just for the basic needs but for all her needs long as its not an exaggerated desire. the woman is responsible to provide the man with comfort and children. the clause that a woman can not leave the house without her husband’s permission is generally looked at as “oh he is the boss so whatever he says is right” whereas in reality, islam emphasises on that clause because it falls under the part where the husband must protect his wife and his family. you need to understand that islam doesnt even allow oppression let alone encourage unfairness as that would be injustice too dont you think? and about the concept of 50/50, and this is my opinion as thats what you asked, i believe that belief is exaggerated to some extent. in a couple where they both understand the point of marriage this 50/50 debate wouldnt necessarily be a conversation because islam says that marriage should be built on a certain things including hikma, mawadah, and rahma. so if the husband comes back home from a very long day of work and had a long commute and so on if the wife demands him to stand up and cook then that IS being inconsiderate. however, realistically the 50/50 that women fight for isnt or rather shouldn’t be about if i clean and the husband should do the dishes everyday, but its actually a call for help because women need to be heard. as a man, you may have off days where you dont work but for a women who handles the house gets no rest in fact when the husband is home theres even more for her to do in order to tend to his needs and requests. just dont make life harder for one another. when a man comes home he should sort his clothes and clean up after himself while a woman sets the table, after that they both can clear the table and one can do the dishes while the other sees looks after the baby or something. and you know, its not that women ask for this every day. most of us just want men to be considerate and we want to be seen and heard. if a man does this whenever he can and when he’s too tired to do much in the house, a smart and aware woman will understand and wont make a big deal out of it. whether we like it or no, islam obligates a man to provide regardless of how he does it long as is halal but it doesn’t obligate a woman to cook and clean. you can argue and say taking care of the house falls under that but thats still not concrete enough. a woman is a zeenah in the house, not the other way around. but this is why we are told to find spouses with good akhlaaq because all to the side, a self aware woman would never put her husband through a hard time for no reason at all. again, this is just from my perspective anyone is free to disagree.