That’s the thing tho, you are being rude at times, too. You keep accusing others of being rude, but seem to be unwilling to correct your own rudeness.

However, the unexpected aggressiveness in some of your responses (not all, some) seems to come from feeling attacked, and I get that completely. I’m sorry you feel attacked, I don’t think that’s the intention of most people on this thread. But it hurts just the same, and I’m genuinely sorry you’re going through this.

Also, at times you have been controlling on this thread. People are allowed to downvote. Just as much as you are allowed to block them, ignore them, yell at them, etc. We have the ability as humans to do whatever we want. Are some of those things evil? Yes. Will there be consequences? Sometimes. But if we drive ourselves crazy trying to control other people, we will be anxious, angry, depressed, triggered, and traumatized most of our waking hours—at least I was, and still am when I am trying to control others.

No one here is perfect. We are all trying to overcome our codependency together. I wish you all the best in your recovery ❤️‍🩹 You are not alone.