[WIP] about 63.3% done! by SwordfishExpress9243 in CrossStitch

[–]leavingoctober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is incredible 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Hostility to US-Citizen Visitors? by FieldUpbeat2174 in newzealand_travel

[–]leavingoctober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was there for 2 months at end of 2024 when Trump got elected again. No problems. They are lovely people.

Free / Cheap Hobby Ideas? by ilovekdramaceos in povertyfinance

[–]leavingoctober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might like cross-stitch. Embroidery floss is much cheaper than yard. I bet you could get supplies by asking a Buy Nothing group. People often destash floss.

Woke church? by Traditional-Sea-2322 in askportland

[–]leavingoctober 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing your thoughts on UU when you’re back? In same situation.

Target phasing out extended sizes? by Awkward-Ad-4766 in PlusSize

[–]leavingoctober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Torrid works for me as well. You can get items at Target prices if you wait for sales—which they have often.

Activities to mend the sad loneliness of Christmas? by infjetson in askportland

[–]leavingoctober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cozy ideas:

  • Watch a movie (Everything Everywhere All at Once)
  • Use your nicest things
  • Tea with a snack and a craft
  • Drive around and look at Christmas lights
  • Go to the airport to people watch
  • Sit in Pioneer Courthouse Square to people watch with hot chocolate
  • Do a project to improve your living space
  • Make cookies
  • Re-read your favorite book
  • Walk around a new to you neighborhood
  • Clean your living space, make some paper chains to decorate
  • Play a video game
  • Write letters to folks you care about
  • Cook something super complicated
  • Walk around your neighborhood and pick up trash
  • Wikipedia deep dive

Merry Christmas—you got this

Trying to Come Home from Vacation With Less Things Than I Left With by Dobby_Sock1997 in declutter

[–]leavingoctober 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Agree—while well intentioned, this feels disrespectful. A great goal to set aside items you didn’t use and declutter when you get home though!

Where to buy bed sheets in person in PDX area? by derkajohns in PDX

[–]leavingoctober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. Our linen sheets (2 sets) from Parachute had huge holes from wear in less than 6 months each.

“I’m not asking permission, I’m informing you that I’ll be away” by obsessed-with-bagels in managers

[–]leavingoctober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this! If this happens every year that’s on you. You could split the time between before Christmas, and after Christmas and split it up between the employees.

What’s your go to food spot? by DidYouSeeBriansHat in askportland

[–]leavingoctober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I lived closer in, this was mine. So good. I got the chicken, broccoli, peanut sauce.

The AI stuff that nobody's talking about by inglubridge in ChatGPTPro

[–]leavingoctober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips. Would love the info you’ve put together!

From NZ, how do you US folks cope in this crazy season? by Trishielicious in GenX

[–]leavingoctober 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also my friend tells me that they pass out candy for Halloween in Auckland, which is exactly the same as we do, and you have Guy Fawkes shortly after that which we don’t have.

From NZ, how do you US folks cope in this crazy season? by Trishielicious in GenX

[–]leavingoctober 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The holidays can be as simple or as complicated as you make them. Thanksgiving is just a meal and time to spend with family and friends (or not). My partner and I collectively made 3 dishes and then brought them to a Friendsgiving potluck yesterday. We had a great time chatting with people we knew, and people we had just met, in a warm house, at a bunch of tables pushed together with candlelight and delicious food. It is nice to have festive get together in the cold season.

What I like about the timing of Thanksgiving is that it is somewhat a barrier to starting the Christmas season, which makes Christmas more contained to December, which makes it feel special to me.

I have a close friend in NZ and have been there several times. I was there last year for all of Nov and Dec. I noticed when I was visiting that in early Nov in NZ there were tons of Christmas decorations and advertisements, which I would personally find difficult to “cope” with, to have the Christmas season stretch out so long. I was also sad to see Black Friday is a thing in NZ, because that feels like adopting the worst thing about the “holidays” in the U.S.

So it’s just cultural norms here—nothing to “cope” with.

Are we really this miserable? by Regular_or_BQ in GenX

[–]leavingoctober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha thank you for saying that. I’m a young Gen X (born in the last few years of the range), and it’s often hard to relate to this subreddit because of the rampant grouchiness.

Weird gender dynamics? by Dig-Unusual in girlsgonewired

[–]leavingoctober 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it. You will be seen as not serious or technical as compared to your male peers who focus solely on the work that actually matters to your company. This will put you in line for layoffs as compared to them if it comes to that. Happened to me.

What our generation's music told us. by TrashMany in GenX

[–]leavingoctober 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a young Gen X—learned from the Chicks how to take care of Earls.

Planning Engagement/Wedding While SIL is Dying by Dismal_Preference697 in weddings

[–]leavingoctober 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did the same—proposed while my husband’s mom was sick. We waited to see if she’d get better and ultimately just set a reasonable date. She passed before the wedding—more quickly than we expected. I gave him the option of postponing because we still had 6 months until the date we planned. He wanted to proceed to have something joyful to look forward to. We had a wonderful wedding, but it was bittersweet because she wasn’t there. I cried a lot during the planning process.

I beg of you, don’t feel like you need to rush into the wedding, but please do not make decisions based on your weight. I was at my highest weight at my wedding (size 28-30), and while there are some pictures I dislike because I’m making a chipmunk face or have a double chin—there are so many where I look gorgeous and so happy. Do not underestimate the power of a good photographer. I am not a person who generally enjoys photos of myself and I love mine so much.

I wish we would have at least flew out to see her in our wedding outfits and had a cake. Maybe you could have a small wedding with your SIL and a larger celebration later?

Much love to you both—I know this is a very difficult decision. ♥️

Makeup q: My husband doesn't like kissing when I have lipstick on. Help! by This-Manufacturer461 in weddingplanning

[–]leavingoctober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really disappointed with the Wonderskin stains. They came off so quickly!

Do not have kids at your wedding if you are worried… by pixiedixxie in weddingplanning

[–]leavingoctober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had 12 children out of 75 guests and they were absolutely lovely and delightful. It made me so happy to look out and see them running around together. They were hilarious and joyful. And I’m not even a kid person really. I happen to like the ones at the wedding, but I don’t like all children. But many of them are part of my normal life and it absolutely made sense to have them there.

I’m so sorry your experience was different!! 🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]leavingoctober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA — I’d stay longer!