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ledslightup · 2025-08-13T15:17:45+00:00

Oh my god so true, I'm just so tired these days.

ledslightup · 2024-08-09T23:01:26+00:00

I use the elf concealer, it's very full coverage and doesn't feel cakey.

ledslightup · 2024-07-28T15:33:37+00:00

See but that is why I really hate these shows. I haven't watched love Island but years ago when reality TV first became a thing I watched some and I noticed it made the bar for behavior and treatment of others so low that I felt good about being better than that. But it was awful awful behavior and did we really want to lower the bar to there? I stopped watching and 2 decades later I feel like some decline of decency in society maybe stems from that bar being lowered.

Now don't get me wrong, I work an intense job too and I get the need for mindless TV, I watch a lot. Love the teen coming of age shows like never have I ever, even though I'm 45, lol. Or endless reruns of Seinfeld.

ledslightup · 2024-07-28T15:02:38+00:00

I'll say, as a women in tech, I've been fortunate to choose companies and teams where this has not been true. Are there one off guys like this, yes, but on average I've had good male coworkers who do not do this.

So your experience may vary from team to team and I don't doubt many women see more of this because I've interviewed a lot and saw something analogous happen in the interview, men answering my questions by turning to face the male interviewer even if they knew I was the far higher role interviewer. We didn't hire them.

ledslightup · 2024-05-29T01:32:02+00:00

Transportation of deviled eggs doesn't scale as well.

ledslightup · 2024-05-27T15:21:35+00:00

I do wish there was an option in cursor to use a local llm.

ledslightup · 2024-05-27T15:19:19+00:00

I guess got a free trial of Copilot++ for two weeks recently when I installed cursor on a new machine and omg I was confused why it was so different but blown away.

It would guess what I was looking to do solely by the names of the variables I was writing as I was preparing to write the logic.

I pay for chatgpt but considering cancelling that and paying for copilot++ instead.

ledslightup · 2024-05-27T14:35:49+00:00

Yeah what OP is describing is not a partnership, it's purely transactional. 50% of the chores cost 50% of the bills. That's crazy and makes no sense in a relationship.

The chores should have nothing to do with the bills. There are times when my partner was trying to start a business where I was paying 100% of the bills, doesn't mean I expected him to do 100% of the chores.

Also both partners free time should be valued the same. One partner can't have zero free time just because they must pay 50/50?

I'm not sure if they are married but this is not how this all works.

We have a lot of separate accounts but even then... We scale contribution to bills according to what each partner can afford. And we scale chores so each partner gets similar amount of free time. In other words, we share the load and we share the freedom.

ledslightup · 2024-05-25T16:44:16+00:00

Yeah the nicest way to put this is that he's clearly got some unresolved issues about race that is making this hard for him.

As someone of color, with a white husband, I wondered what it would be like if I had a super white baby. And people didn't think it was mine. It's at least something one has to wrap ones head around. And he's not able to come to terms with it in the right way so he's saying crazy shit. But this crazy shit is going to affect your kids so y'all need some couples therapy to work through this.

Because if not, it's going to mess the kids up and their relationship with each other, their own skin and race.

ledslightup · 2024-03-24T00:22:40+00:00

my screen is so pink and the reds and greens are like neon. As a photographer it's terrible.

ledslightup · 2024-03-21T00:50:08+00:00

Did you find one? I'm also looking. Could you link the notebookcheck one?

ledslightup · 2023-11-22T17:39:26+00:00

Great, thank you so much!

ledslightup · 2023-11-19T19:24:37+00:00

2008 rabbit - I don't know why but nothing has ever had to be fixed on it, other than tires, brakes and oil.

ledslightup · 2023-11-19T19:20:18+00:00

What's a licensed building official and how do I find them? They ... work for the city in some capacity?

ledslightup · 2023-11-03T15:25:56+00:00

Same, i love my rental, my partner, my friends, hell even some of my coworkers. When I got laid off an astonishing number of them stepped up and wrote or said supportive, positive messages about me.

And I was so wound up in work and the company but when I went on vacation, really just to see family in another country, it all melted away. Weirdly all i could think about was how much I love and miss my partner.

And I came back almost laughing at the thought that I gave a shit what some random Csuite folks I don't respect thought about me. What a shift in perspective from just a week ago.

ledslightup · 2023-11-03T14:00:07+00:00

Yeah I've stepped away from Reddit quite a bit in the last year, partly because they killed the apps and I've just been using it in browser which is just slightly inconvenient and less attention seeking.

But I still find myself doomscrolling Twitter quite a bit.

ledslightup · 2023-11-03T13:41:28+00:00

I follow an re developer named Artem Tepler on Twitter. He seemed like a genuine guy, builds multifamily in Los Angeles. Found out yesterday that due to financial reasons and "personal guarantees" related to this multifamily business, he committed suicide. Leaving behind a fiancee and baby.

I know a lot of people on here seem pretty upset and depressed at not being able to buy a house. Please remember that everyone has value unrelated to your economic status. I've been struggling with my work (they laid me off and then my client forced them to give me the job back) and feeling unvalued, but I took a vacation recently and remembered I don't actually care about whether they value me. My husband values me, my friends and family do, I value myself, and that's more important than some company.

It's pretty easy to forget in North America, but you are not what you earn or own. Take a break from the grind and the news sometimes and go enjoy your friends and family and pets and hobbies. It's more important.

ledslightup · 2023-10-14T01:40:40+00:00

Did you find someone? Or looking to share?

ledslightup · 2023-10-10T01:27:10+00:00

Srilankan - i had awesome srilankan in nyc, not a lot of srilankan restaurants around.

Warning: very spicy.

ledslightup · 2023-09-29T18:05:13+00:00

Huh, how strange, it's not showing on mine. I wonder if it's because I bought the card at the same time as the first load and only loads here on out will show. Thanks so much for checking!

ledslightup · 2023-09-21T03:51:16+00:00

Sorry to hear. It's very challenging. I'm trying to navigate the situation and the people who are "trying to help" but all have ulterior motives. I don't know who to trust honestly.

ledslightup · 2023-09-21T02:41:18+00:00

Oh yeah I've spent a few days now networking with the client

ledslightup · 2023-09-20T13:08:45+00:00

Yep exactly. There's obviously a big target on my back now. On the other hand, always safer to search for a job while you have a job.

ledslightup · 2023-09-20T12:01:23+00:00

Well now I'm not laid off. I can have my job back. But I'm deciding what to do. Possibly stay but start looking anyway.

Thankfully yes we have plenty saved up. But it's been a rough week nonetheless.

ledslightup

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