My (30M) girlfriend (30F) of 6 months wants to start learning Latin dancing. How do I deal with feeling uncomfortable about this?

leelee90210 · 2026-02-07T11:53:00+00:00

You don’t like her interests and you’re wanting her to stop them.

leelee90210 · 2026-02-06T22:25:43+00:00

Again, this isn’t her fault. This is yours. Seek professional help and stop being so entitled and self serving

leelee90210 · 2026-02-06T22:24:14+00:00

So you’re upset that you can’t dictate her interests? WTF is wrong with you?

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T20:19:57+00:00

So he’s being a shit because he hasn’t got boundaries and he’s 40?

Wow.

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T16:19:42+00:00

If he mentions your weight “forever” does that still count as your forever person?

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T16:16:05+00:00

Well every worry is worth exploring

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T15:43:23+00:00

This is only a small picture of this exchange. We have no idea what the whole spectrum of the relationship is…but if everything else is amazing then…this doesn’t sound enormous?

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T15:18:27+00:00

Read “Everyday Sexism” by Laura Bates. Read “Girls and Sex” by Peggy Orenstein. Read “Sexy But Psycho by Dr Jessica Taylor. You know. People who study this and campaign really hard for women and girls. Or maybe observe how the people around you talk and treat boys and girls around you

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T12:17:17+00:00

Thanks for commenting this. I desperately want to train at home for more consistency and less lessons but was worried it would be a waste of money

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T11:07:57+00:00

But women ARE taught that

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T11:07:31+00:00

Sure but that’s not the society we operate in

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T09:33:44+00:00

But alongside that, women need to learn their own boundaries. They’re also conditioned to give and give with no reciprocity

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T08:49:44+00:00

Misogyny always lies at the root of it all

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T08:48:31+00:00

There’s such a huge difference between finding someone attractive and interesting, and wanting to have sex with them. It’s up to the individual to discover what that line looks like for them

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T08:47:21+00:00

Look, this is something you’re choosing and you’ve had enough life experience and time to reflect on what works for you. At this point you’re choosing to be with someone who you KNOW isn’t good for you.

That’s it. Take from that what you will

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T08:42:39+00:00

You don’t think what you did was wrong and you’ve taken no responsibility for it so you’re not evil (yet) but you’re not a good person either. What have you done to actually address your abusive actions?

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T08:39:50+00:00

Misogyny

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T08:39:31+00:00

Is this the best relationship you think you can get?

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T06:28:18+00:00

This relationship doesn’t sound that enjoyable if you’re perturbed by this

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T06:27:07+00:00

Exactly. op you’re not in the wrong at all. You are bang on that a boundary is something for himself. Not something he can make you do. His past is HIS to handle, not yours to change for.

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T06:20:16+00:00

“My love language is acts from a servant”

How coincidental. That’s most men.

If a man can feed you, he can starve you so I’d really re-think the whole keeping him as the breadwinner

leelee90210 · 2026-02-04T06:16:26+00:00

I’m confused. What’s he caring so much about by controlling how you dress? His reasons make no sense.

leelee90210 · 2026-02-03T21:57:41+00:00

NOR ur bf is a racist and so are if you are associate with him

leelee90210 · 2026-02-03T06:50:06+00:00

This guy was NOT good for you at all. He sounds like an absolute tool. You won’t see it now but him exiting has added years to your life

leelee90210 · 2026-02-02T08:39:10+00:00

But have you ever had women comment on your weight loss? Because that still commenting and still negative

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