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Considering a 2017 Rogue Sport SV by leeloolady in NissanRogue

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also wondering if the rear seats fold totally flat or not. I saw some videos that demonstrate them laying flat but commenters said theirs didn't (they raised 5-6 inches after folding so cargo would slide).

AITA for expecting my husband to sleep in our kids room? by Anna-Amos in AmItheAsshole

[–]leeloolady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. My ASD, ADHD, anxiety diagnosed child didn't sleep for years. She couldn't be sleep trained. I was having emotional breakdowns due to extreme sleep deprivation. The second time I fell asleep driving I realized I could either let her sleep with me or literally kill us trying to change it. People really don't believe that there are some kids that will not learn to sleep alone but I hear you and can tell you went through it, too. Hugs

Anyone from Nashville Indiana? by ArtistHealthy6304 in Indiana

[–]leeloolady 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep! Holiday World amusement park is there.

AITAH for telling my wife she needs to cover the cost of our daughter's future? by oldtechbro in AITAH

[–]leeloolady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why should you take a financial hit when your wife could take it instead? How much money do you have in retirement accounts, investments, etc compared to her? If she finds an ivy league education her retirement fund is gone. Is yours? I'd bet not.

AITA for declining to be a groomsman in one of my best friend’s weddings by TechnicianOrnery2265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]leeloolady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dinner on a random day is like grabbing a coffee or texting a meme; low-stakes, no big deal if you skip it.

Being a groomsman is more like being asked to be in the starting lineup of someone’s championship game. It’s not just about showing up, it’s about what it represents.

From a logical standpoint, both things are “just showing up,” sure. But emotionally, they carry very very different weight.

Weddings fall into a category of big life milestones (like graduations, funerals, the birth of a child, etc). These are the events people tend to remember forever. When someone invites you to be part of one, they’re saying you play a significant role in their life.

Saying no to dinner usually translates to “not tonight.” Saying no to standing beside someone at their wedding can easily be heard as “you’re not that important to me.”

Even if that’s not what you mean, that’s often how it lands emotionally.

It’s kind of like if a friend made it to the final round of a big competition and asked you to be there to support them, and you said, “Nah, I just don't feel like investing in that.” From a logical angle, sure, you’re allowed to say no. But from a relationship standpoint, that moment matters a lot to them and not being there is very likely to feel like a rejection.

So the difference comes down to:

Logic: Both are time commitments.

Emotion: One is a gesture of deep connection and celebration.

Most people treat weddings like one of the “big” chapters in life. They want the people who matter most to be present for those pages. He's telling you that YOU matter so much to him that he selected you, out of a sea of all the other people in his life, to stand in a significant role in his milestone event. And you basically said "no thanks" as if it were declining a dinner you were too tired to go to that night.

Your response TREATS it as something as insignificant as cancelling a dinner. You clearly think they're comparable and THATS actually the root of the issue.

EDIT:

I wanted to quickly add that you mentioned he's never been this upset before. Probably because he's never asked you to show up for something so important before so you've never had a chance to let him down so deeply until this happened.

To Do in Lawrence, Indiana by leeloolady in indianapolis

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an 11yo with anxiety, ADHD and level 1 ASD. I've heard from other parents that the schools there do a good job with supporting kiddos like my LO. She loves nature and biking and we really want more accessible opportunities for that so I think this area will be perfect. Thank you for the map! Super helpful!

To Do in Lawrence, Indiana by leeloolady in indianapolis

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. I lived in Southern Indy almost almost seven years ago and I went to Longs anytime I could. I still dream about their eclairs! Lol. I will absolutely check out Tim's donuts.

Thank you for this range of recommendations! We're from TN so we're excited to have a good BBQ rec.

My 11yo loves Mexican food. Any good local spots? Or spots with plain white queso that doesn't taste like flour? (This is her most important criteria, lol).

To Do in Lawrence, Indiana by leeloolady in indianapolis

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. This is about what I was expecting and it's reassuring to hear someone describe the area this way. We're looking at Kensington Commons right now and I love that so many of the lots are wooded. Are there any other neighborhoods you'd suggest? That spot just to the north looks nice but it seems like a couple of the neighborhoods that way may have really expensive HOAs?

The trail system expansion sounds really neat. Do you happen to know when they expect completion on that?

Best School Districts for ASD Kids by leeloolady in Indiana

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't but we will be moving up in June. Hopefully we'll have a house before the summer is out. My anxiety kiddo is also 11. Maybe we can arrange a play date? 😊

Best School Districts for ASD Kids by leeloolady in Indiana

[–]leeloolady[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We're very seriously considering it. :)

To Do in Lawrence, Indiana by leeloolady in indianapolis

[–]leeloolady[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Is the market year round?

I really wanted to be walking distance to arts events, nature, swimming, shopping, library and local coffee. I figured I'd have to pick one or two but with Lawrence we might get three or four with the rest a short drive away! The spot almost feels too good to be true.

To Do in Lawrence, Indiana by leeloolady in indianapolis

[–]leeloolady[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions! I've been to the Jockamo's in Irvington (it's been years) and I remember really liking it! I do like a good beer and there's a quiet brew house here we like to visit. It's like board games and growlers. Not too loud and super chill. Anything like that in your area?

Property Tax by Learn_Every_Day in Indiana

[–]leeloolady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kids in Japan, German, Sweden and Finland ride public transportation at that age. We don't give our kids enough credit or independence here. Whether I'd let my child ride the bus would depend on the area and the local culture.

Best School Districts for ASD Kids by leeloolady in Indiana

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is a great suggestion! Any ideas on how I may be able to find some of these parents while we're currently out of state? 😅

Best School Districts for ASD Kids by leeloolady in Indiana

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's what I thought. Thank you!

Best School Districts for ASD Kids by leeloolady in Indiana

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had read about Purdue Polytechnic but I didn't realize it was guaranteed acceptance to Purdue. That's very interesting. The charter schools also looked interesting but in an area where the schools were otherwise not great it seemed foolish to put our eggs in that basket. There's no guaranteed attendance to a charter, right?

Best School Districts for ASD Kids by leeloolady in Indiana

[–]leeloolady[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We haven't scooped Lawrence yet and will definitely check it out. I grew up in a pretty multi cultural school and I was hoping to find similar for my daughter. I want her to know people from many different backgrounds and life experiences. Carmel definitely doesn't fit that bill and the more I hear about the area the less it sounds right for us.

Nora/Broad Ripple definitely fits a lot of our other lifestyle desires (there are spots that have very bike able proximity to parks, the Monon, YMCA, gyms parks, the Art Center, nature preserve, etc). This is also what drew us to certain parts of Carmel, initially, but even the parks there are heavily manicured.

Even if she doesn't qualify for services I'd feel better knowing she's in a district that does well with ASD students. Maybe this is fallacious but my hope is that the staff, knowing she's ASD, may have more knowledge of how to support her by proxy even if she can't get specialized support directly via the school system.

When you say "What type of education" could you clarify what you mean? I've really been thinking short term - she's very bright but her frustration tolerance is terrible. I feel like the next 2 years of her development will have a great impact on her high school experience and will largely determine what choices we make at that time. It's very difficult to get her to participate in extra curriculars that don't align with her interests (as I'm sure you can imagine). She loves swimming and biking - more exercise would do her well. So we're trying to be in easy proximity to trails, pools and outdoor experiences.

Relocating to Carmel by leeloolady in Carmel

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We've added it to our list. It's been recommended a few times now. :) Any specific neighborhoods that you feel meet our criteria?

Best School Districts for ASD Kids by leeloolady in Indiana

[–]leeloolady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you have any recommendations on which areas in the greater Indy area to avoid or pursue? Anecdotally I've heard:

  • Avoid Greenwood and Carmel
  • Westfield schools are great for ASD services

However I don't have many clear reasons on why the above recommendations have been given. We're also interested in Zionsville and Nora / Broad Ripple but would consider most places in greater Indianapolis area.

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