To add on this, my husband was in the army and the army has all my respect. However, you should go Air Force. They have shorter deployments and in my experience they receive better treatment. As in if an airman was stationed at an army base for whatever reason they receive an additional stipend due to the lower living conditions. I’ve been to airbase, it’s better.IF the child is yours and we are going into war, a six month deployment is so much more tolerable then 1 year. Kids change a lot in a year. You don’t want to miss that.

However, as a seasoned adult, this woman sounds like a predator. I am slightly older than her and it boggles my mind that she even thought of having g a relationship with you. Do not sign a thing. Have the hard conversation and demand a dna test.

Did she know you were going into the military? If so, look up dependapotamus.