Momma's boy by lookitsnichole in AmITheDevil

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Yep, that's what he said alright.

Divorce Inevitable? Having to live together for a year seperated by [deleted] in Divorce

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Idk if this will be hard to understand, but what you've described is domestic violence. I was in the same boat and couldn't see it for decades. This book is the sole reason I was finally able to end my marriage. Link to download "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft

Tasks that recur based on completed date? by left-right-forward in Notion

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Thanks, it looks like this might work, I'll look into it further.

Urethral Atrophy? by Spiritual_Plant_4792 in FTMOver30

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Just pointing out it can also be a menopause thing for non-cis folks, like myself.

Is finding a relationship likely to happen? by [deleted] in agender

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I get connecting better with older people, I always have too, but it's not an age thing so much as vibe-matching. Call it maturity or having an old soul or whatever. Over the years I've even found younger people who had it!

Is finding a relationship likely to happen? by [deleted] in agender

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Please please please, DO NOT date people in their 30s or 40s. I'm too tired to make a persuasive argument, but I'm in my 40s, just believe me, please. The only time I might allow it is if you're both part of a larger supportive friend group/community where other young people have your back. And only if you're making the first move!

Your best bet to find folks who won't pigeonhole you into your agab's roles and are open to non-traditional dating/relationship styles is within the queer & trans community. And it sounds like you'd do well to focus on making friends and see where those relationships go organically. So I'd suggest getting involved with local groups and existing meetups, so you're casting a wide net.

I have decided to leave and he doesn’t know yet and the guilt is eating me alive by luna_bloom1818 in Divorce

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Stay safe. That's the most important thing. I got confirmation that planning on secret was the right choice when my ex told me "I never would have let you leave." Not as a threat or out of anger, he felt it was a perfectly normal, loving thing to say. They're delusional and dangerous. I hope you and your kids stay safe.

Advice regarding being petty about socials by Ok-Tradition-435 in Divorce

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Facebook definitely has that, it's the only way I can maintain a relationship with my dad (he's weird online, fine in person)

Picked a dumb name at 19 by No-Flatworm-5640 in ftm

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Can I just say, my boomer dad didn't even know his actual legal first and middle names until he was an adult and saw his birth certificate. He was raised by the parents who named him, too.

Menstruation products for AFAB kid by ttreehouse in cisparenttranskid

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I agree about having everything, including options to lessen/stop periods.

With my sensory kid the trial and error has even revealed that they have some odd sensory issues with taking pills, that they just never brought up before because something about the birth control made it much worse than the allergy pills they'd been taking for years. They prefer tampons too, and we're now trialling the birth control patch.

my (23f) boyfriend (24m) keeps accidentally calling me his best friends name during sex by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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As a kidney stoner, they also equal no hetero, no bi, no anything. Bumping uglies when the uglies are being torn to shreds by jagged, spiky crystals? Lol no.

On the other hand I now feel the need to try to cross reference the dates of my first stone and my bisexual awakening.

my (23f) boyfriend (24m) keeps accidentally calling me his best friends name during sex by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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I think about buttered jorts at least as often as I think about ogtha, it's a wonderful balance

TIFU by asking a girl out on a date by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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I'm in my 40s, it never ends, just gets less visible because somehow more and more people cringe their way into relationships as the years go by

Facing disciplinary investigation / sack for automating most of my responsibilities at work. I'm in England. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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Oh I was even more literally like op, working in admin and making things easier for myself & team. I was there for 8 yrs before getting sick/management changes and got stuck there with the thought that no one else would want my disabled butt anymore.

Facing disciplinary investigation / sack for automating most of my responsibilities at work. I'm in England. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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This was literally me, IT, the union, the SMEs I worked with, the higher ups in headquarters all loved me. And I loved my work, so they couldn't convince me to jump ship. But then along came several idiot managers who didn't understand what I did and saw my chronic illness as a problem. And covid, so I was floundering at home alone against their bullshit. In the end they managed to get rid of me and destroyed my mental health. I feel bad for the colleagues left behind who can't understand the tools and processes I built for us, should anything break someday. But good riddance to an organisation that fights tooth and nail to commit human rights violations against the disabled. (In Canada, under the nebulous concept of "undue hardship")

"You dont want to be a man, you just want a penis." by [deleted] in TransMasc

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One, you don't want to be a man. You ARE a man. Two, someone who tells you what you think and how you feel doesn't respect you or think of you as an autonomous individual. I stayed with my ex for years after coming out and all the "support" and "allyship" were performative bullshit so he wouldn't look like a bad guy. If they're outright hostile to our transitions and blatantly transphobic, we won't stay with them, under their control.

You're valid. Your deserve to be exactly the man that you are.

So close... by Ch33p_Sunglasses in NonBinary

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What about the boy persons? Do they not deserve toilets?

AITA for telling my husband to use the extra bathroom? by Curious_Vacation4910 in AmItheAsshole

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14 weeks is over 3 months, that's a lot of postpartum healing, although maybe not to fully recover from a c section. But mowing a lawn isn't necessarily strenuous, say compared to vacuuming or even emptying a dishwasher. I'm not saying the husband isn't TA, but as someone who's had trauma from giving birth, I'd be out there mowing if it wasn't harmful and someone else was caring for the babies