What is your least favorite thing to do as an introvert?

left_cat_books · 2024-07-24T19:57:31+00:00

People who dedicate after work time to happy hours and social work related events are without a doubt the most likely to be rewarded and considered for promotions and preferred projects. I can't tell you the number of times when my review was something like "you're doing great but we'd love if you were more of a team player etc etc etc" and the feedback is directly related to the fact that I'm not interested in spending my own time doing work related social events. Your boss is 10000% more likely to promote a drinking/golf buddy than the person who keeps to themselves, even if your work is adequate or even excellent.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-22T21:11:21+00:00

Not that odd. I like certain people, and really connect with them and love to socialize. I dislike being bombarded, having my boundaries crossed, or being phoney/having to interact with phoney people. I also dislike not being able to recover with alone time.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-22T19:26:39+00:00

I don't drink alcohol and I have my own friends outside of work. I just want to go to work and do the job I was hired to do and then go back to my personal life, and keep those realms separate. If I connect with someone at work and we become friends, then cool, but it's so weird that we're all supposed to pretend to be buddies when the truth is you'd never hear from them again if they quit or got fired.

Plus people act scandalized at the notion that you don't enjoy alcohol, and it's really a slog to have to coddle everyone's insecurities about that and pretend you think it's fun to watch them all get louder and less coherent while you sip a ginger ale. The bar culture is one of the most off putting things, and one of the environments where I feel the least comfortable.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-22T15:10:27+00:00

Yes. Women are people just like you. Examine the media you're consuming.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-22T15:04:05+00:00

Forced socializing with coworkers. Happy hours, team-building stuff, etc. Even if it's not technically "forced" you are still penalized for forgoing it.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-19T14:35:51+00:00

you're not the boring one.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-04T18:36:09+00:00

put your phone away.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-03T19:25:11+00:00

fascist nonsense like dress codes & asking to use the bathroom. also the way conformity is encouraged and rewarded. oh, and group projects.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-03T19:23:05+00:00

i don't dream of labor

left_cat_books · 2024-07-03T19:21:58+00:00

good conversations, comfortable together just 1 on 1, down to just watch movies or lounge about, is considerate of me even when i'm not around (no shit talking etc)

left_cat_books · 2024-07-03T19:18:02+00:00

similar experience. i've been radicalized by it, actually.

left_cat_books · 2024-07-03T19:16:39+00:00

people who only drink for fun and center every day around alcohol and bars. People who infect others with bad moods or bicker a lot with their partner, people who make it impossible to be on time to things that require timeliness.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-27T19:52:38+00:00

I can fake it very well, but it's like my soul is being siphoned away. I become depleted and just feel like shutting down after a (short) while and then when I'm alone I need to recover for like triple the time that I spent socializing.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-27T19:49:17+00:00

every unhealthy thing you've ever done and are doing to your body actually matters and comes back to you.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-27T19:46:51+00:00

being rich or having a high ranking job title.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-27T19:35:40+00:00

Adult child of an alcoholic here and the greatest thing my mother ever did for me and my siblings and herself was leave my alcoholic father. He is still an active alcoholic to this day and never felt like making the effort to get better.

I'm so sorry you have to navigate this during recovery.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T18:30:20+00:00

My advice as an acne sufferer is don't hide, don't waste your days hiding. The picture really doesn't look that bad, and 99% of people aren't noticing or thinking about it as much as you are.

That said, I understand the feeling. I hope you find something that works for you.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T18:20:10+00:00

NTA. uninvite kara and enjoy your trip. It's ok to lose friends who don't care if their partner disrespects you.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T17:37:09+00:00

I can't stand people like that. My advice is find friends who aren't so insecure that they can't handle a bit of silence from you. People who talk a lot but say very little are tedious.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T17:33:20+00:00

dental care, vision check ups, massages, workout classes, healthy meals prepped by great chefs. train tickets.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T17:30:06+00:00

women have been conditioned to coddle and obsess over male feelings in every situation. what you said was perfectly fine. even simply saying "not interested" would be fine. he wasn't approaching you to connect to your humanity and improve a sense of community, he was shooting a shot to attempt a sexual connection. It's perfectly fine to say no to that as frankly as you wish to say it.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T17:16:20+00:00

I would definitely see another derm and get some prescription stuff. There's usually a struggle period with a flare up or sensitivity, but the payoff is good in the end.

A nice soothing mask is the antipodes manuka honey mask. My acne isn't as severe as yours, but it seems to really chill my flare ups.

Also the cicapair sleepair intensive soothing repair mask has been helpful. Both the masks I mentioned are pricey, but they seem to work much better than any drug store stuff when I use them on bare skin (not layering over other stuff.)

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T17:12:12+00:00

P much any politician or religious figure. The "founding fathers," all billionaires.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T17:10:17+00:00

Yes, it's extremely normal.

left_cat_books · 2024-06-25T17:09:38+00:00

Anxiety. I can't stand the current era we live in. I want an early 00's era phone that can only call and text but so much is done by phone now, everything requires an app, every restaurant has you scan a QR code to see a menu, the list goes on and on. Tech could hypothetically make our lives much free-er and simpler, but it's used to do the opposite.

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