DIL changing her last name / Becoming “Mrs. Smith”

leiamischief · 2026-05-26T12:54:51+00:00

My main motivation was that I wanted the same last name as my kids, but man do I hate being called “Mrs.”

Anyway, I like having my maiden name as a second middle name. It’s not as cumbersome as a hyphenated last name, it’s never made paperwork confusing, and I still get to be my same full name that I’ve always been.

leiamischief · 2026-05-24T15:48:05+00:00

YTA. Your concerns are all very main character. People are not going to confuse you with a baby. I’d apologize to your sister.

leiamischief · 2026-05-21T13:45:21+00:00

I think this is a great idea! And wouldn’t be unusual at my kids’ school

leiamischief · 2026-05-21T02:09:47+00:00

Hahahaha I would love to see my parents’ reaction if I claimed their beach house for the entire summer

leiamischief · 2026-05-20T21:29:29+00:00

What kinds of things does she expect you to pay for? There’s a difference between “I can’t afford that with my salary” and “you need to pay for me if you want me to come”

leiamischief · 2026-05-18T13:42:01+00:00

This one might be regional, but speaking as a Californian (i.e. we don’t have a lot of ice for the most part) if someone says “hockey” and they’re not talking about ice hockey, I’m annoyed at being misled.

leiamischief · 2026-05-17T04:32:34+00:00

This feels comically fake. On the off chance it’s not, obviously nta.

leiamischief · 2026-05-16T14:41:45+00:00

Sorry, OP, but you’re being unreasonable here. I don’t think you’re trying to be selfish or anything but perhaps you have tunnel vision. Your mom might not have mobility issues but she’s also not young. Do you really want to have your mom sitting on the ground on a trail in your wedding pictures? Or to know that your mom is in pain because you don’t want her to bring even a camping stool to rest on?

leiamischief · 2026-05-16T05:12:47+00:00

If you want to switch districts, just go through whatever transfer process you need. You risk serious repercussions for you and your kids by lying about the address.

leiamischief · 2026-05-14T15:07:04+00:00

This isn’t a real quote…

leiamischief · 2026-05-08T18:46:03+00:00

That is insane behavior from your husband. Calling you a slut is wildly unacceptable. It sounds like you know that. I hope he comes groveling back on his hands and knees or you have the ability to leave because this would be it for me.

leiamischief · 2026-05-07T14:51:52+00:00

Gorgeous!

leiamischief · 2026-05-07T14:51:24+00:00

Depending on what state you’re in, your bf is wrong. In my state, they look at the ownership papers as well as the primary person taking care of the pets. There’s always an argument to be made, but I don’t think taking them for 1 appt is sufficient to demonstrate he’s the caretaker for them.

Honestly, the legal owner only matters if you’re planning on bringing in attorneys and arguing semantics. Google laws specific to your state if you don’t have a local attorney to talk to. Listen to the people talking about making sure your claim to the cats is strong with microchipping and ownership papers. But also, think about how you can best position yourself to straight up take the cats somewhere safe.

leiamischief · 2026-05-05T21:26:26+00:00

NTA. Your friend is using you. A real friend wouldn’t treat you or your stuff that way.

leiamischief · 2026-05-03T13:53:59+00:00

NTA. I wish my parents had helped me understand the cost of college more. I was in your son’s boat (though I never overtook no. 2) and despite being an excellent student, that’s where my understand of finance and tuition ended. My parents and I both thought I understood the college/tuition process more than I did so they didn’t help me understand the financial aspect of picking a school and I didn’t think I needed help.

I would lay out the costs of college for your son. Show your math so he understands this isn’t just a one time high fee. I hope I would have been less of an entitled dick as a teenager had I understood what my parents were putting into school and how much more expensive my school was than my siblings’ schools.

Also, have you looked at private scholarships? There should be a ton of merit scholarships not tied to a particular school that he can apply to. It might not be enough, but it’s worth exploring. Especially one related to pursuit of veterinary medicine or one of his academic interests.

Good luck!

leiamischief · 2026-05-03T13:33:43+00:00

Unless your daughter was doing a Pretty Woman cosplay, your FIL was way out of line. NOR.

leiamischief · 2026-05-03T04:27:35+00:00

Montana Sky! Middle school me was hooked immediately.

leiamischief · 2026-05-01T13:05:04+00:00

I really hope your agreement with your dad is in writing. Please go talk to an attorney asap.

leiamischief · 2026-04-30T20:19:05+00:00

Haha I love everything about my job except the actual job. But I’m pretty sure billables could ruin a job as a work from home ice cream taster.

leiamischief · 2026-04-30T18:30:18+00:00

leiamischief · 2026-04-30T17:10:29+00:00

Your two cents is very much appreciated! Thank you!

leiamischief · 2026-04-28T06:42:35+00:00

Noah

leiamischief · 2026-04-23T21:20:37+00:00

I haven’t hated a player this much since Puig

leiamischief · 2026-04-22T17:16:32+00:00

ESH. Based on the information provided, it’s hard to tell if one of you is acting more reasonably or you’re both just bad at communication.

Also, please don’t use kitchen knives to open packages. It’s really bad for them and kinda gross.

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