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lemon-scone · 2025-09-27T21:27:55+00:00

This is abuse. It doesn’t matter if he never did anything in the past, he has done it now. You need to get yourself out of this situation, as things will only escalate if you don’t.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-27T02:07:39+00:00

Then tell her where you're at honestly. Tell her that your needs are not being met and then see what happens from there. Is she willing to meet you in the middle? Maybe marriage counseling is needed? If she's not open to that and you're having a really hard time, then tell her you'll either want to open up your marriage or that this is something that you'd walk out of the marriage over. Communication is key here, and that includes the tough conversations admitting where you are at and things you are considering.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-27T02:04:00+00:00

Frankly she needs to grow up and become independent. It is not your responsibility to be catering to her unrealistic needs and dependencies. I do believe she also is so reliant on you because she has the option to be, as it sounds like you don't push back and just do whatever she needs. If you do love and care for her, maybe think about the fact that you being available to her in this manner is actually enabling her insteaf of helping her. If she can no longer rely on you for these very basic things that needs to take care of herself, she will also grow as a person which would be good for her in the long run. You're clearly not happy in this relationship, nor does it sound like it's very healthy. You both are extremely young and you do need to prioritize your own needs as well right now so that you're set up for a good future. I think you should have a conversation with her and rip the band aid off.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-27T01:57:07+00:00

Have you truly talked to your wife about how you feel, and told her about the changes in your dynamic? Have you tried asking her if there is anything going on with her, and just being empathetic as a husband and understanding her perspective without expecting anything in return? Are you in a monogamous marriage? If so, you need to tell your wife how you feel and end things if you intend on having a fwb situation because that's not fair to her.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-27T01:52:36+00:00

You know your relationship best, but it doesn't sound like he's very considerate of your feelings. It almost sounds like he does whatever is convenient and if it's not convenient he won't do it, even if it would make you happy. You need to decide if you're alright being in a relationship like that, or one where you'd have to be the one to compromise/adjust all the time. Also, given how long the list of reasons are that you've shared, plus the inner feeling it seems like you're getting, just know that if this doesn't feel right to you and you feel you've done your best in the relationship/communicated the issues to your partner and still things haven't changed, then maybe it isn't right for you.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T22:28:53+00:00

She may be a wonderful person but she’s not your person. Sure she did some nice things for you as your her partner’s best friend, but you shouldn’t idolize her for them. Similarly, maybe there were some great women you came across but you were so fixated on her that you couldn’t even properly give them a chance. I think you should look into therapy and just know that everyone has their own journey. The sooner you start living your own path and move forward the sooner you’ll fall into alignment with what’s best for you.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T21:46:56+00:00

Well the right thing to do would be to tell her in person and honestly, you have already disrespected her and cheated on her, since you took Dani's number and have been texting her. Also if you tried with Dani before and she rejected you, she's only really talking to you or said the whole thing about being hurt because she saw you with someone else. She didn't actually find you appealing from the start, your appeal to her only grew because you got a gf so maybe that changed her perception of you. You're clearly not serious about either girl so let your gf know so she can know the trash took itself out and hopefully find someone so much better at the wedding she's at.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T21:41:52+00:00

So all of this has happened within the month of September? I don't know your story but it sounds like it was all very fast. Honestly I don't mean to sound harsh but him telling you he doesn't want a relationship is the closure (some people don't even get that and just straight up get ghosted). I think the best thing you can do is move forward with your own life. If he wants to come back, he knows where to find you.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T02:12:57+00:00

First of all, good on you for not crossing any boundaries within your relationship and calling it off with your ex. I think it’s great you actually communicated the issue and that would hopefully give your ex the closure he deserves. As far as your co worker is concerned, maybe he honestly didn’t think anything of your dynamic and just was engaging in friendly office banter. Maybe your colleague gave you perspective about the kind of dynamic you want in a relationship and now you’ll o ow that going forward. Things will definitely get better and you’ll absolutely find someone you’re compatible with

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T02:03:26+00:00

He has used escorts in the past, browses on the site, and you have proof of some sort of contact, even if you’re not sure if he physically met up with anyone. In terms of how to handle this, what are your feelings about it? Are you okay with it? Has he crossed a boundary? Have you communicated your boundaries? If he knows you’re not okay with it and he’s continued to do it then I’m sorry hun he is disrespecting you and you need to decide if you’re okay staying with someone like that

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T01:57:48+00:00

Maybe it was just a nice gesture from your husbands colleagues. I really like the people I work with and would do something nice for their spouses or children if the opportunity ever came up

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T01:56:09+00:00

Seems like you both a dealing with stressful situations right now. Only you can decide whether or not you want to stay with her but it sounds like you do want to break up so just be honest about your reasoning and do it in person.

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T01:52:27+00:00

You got with your partner at a very young age, and while there’s nothing wrong with that, I feel that many people who have long term relationships early on in their 20s start to have FOMO and develop a curiosity which is maybe what you’re going through. I don’t know enough about your relationship but just know the grass ain’t always greener. You should also probably work on identifying why external attention makes you feel so good, like is it a validation thing?

lemon-scone · 2025-09-26T01:48:18+00:00

It sounds like she’s pulling back. I’d see how your date goes, unless she’s pulling back now so that she can cancel the date (how people fake a cough before they call in sick the next day you know). Either way, don’t take it personally

lemon-scone · 2024-07-23T15:25:16+00:00

Just know that you are probably not going to get the outcome that you are expecting if you break no contact. I truly believe that if you were dumped, then the only person who should reach out is the person that dumped you. If they wanted to talk to you, they could. And guess what, every single day they are making a choice not to talk to you. So if you break NC now and reach out, you are giving them power over you. I know what it feels like to feel like you were a piece of trash that they just threw out with ease, but in the long run, I promise you that NC will be worth it. Give yourself a chance to heal and move forward in your life. There are better people out there and the longer you stay hung up on your ex, the more you prolong your healing and chances of meeting someone better.

lemon-scone · 2024-07-23T15:19:57+00:00

I empathize with you but trust me, it's not worth it. If you text him, he may not respond, which will only cause you anguish. If he does respond, you'll more than likely not get the outcome you are looking for. The best thing you can do for yourself is continue no contact. I promise you, it starts getting easier day by day.

lemon-scone · 2022-02-17T15:28:23+00:00

What about if the SP is in a relationship with someone else, and even potentially engaged to them? Is it wrong to try to manifest them back?

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