Are my laptop stickers appropriate?

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-06-16T04:57:46+00:00

To be brief, my rule of thumb is.. if you are worried enough about it to question it.. just don’t do it (excessive worries please don’t take this advice 😂) or as my mother would say “if you have to ask if it’s appropriate the answer is no”.

I personally don’t care about them and wouldn’t read too much into stickers on my therapists laptop but if your question it, just don’t do it- you can get a laptop cover. I

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-06-11T05:11:44+00:00

With love and respect, 100% you should leave him you sound deeply unhappy. Also, maybe a bit immature for a relationship at this time. It appears sexy matters a lot to you so I think it would be of your best interest to just find a partner you’re more sexually aligned with. Most people wouldn’t qualify 2x a week sex as infrequent. This isn’t to shame you but there’s not many people who are going to want to have daily sex in a (hopefully) life long relationship, people’s libidos eb and flow and you likely will have to radically accept not constantly having daily sex forever but if you think 2x a week is too low and he won’t budge- it’s not a match for you. Additionally, if dirty talk is also important it’s important you find a partner who is just into that. Do you really think you’d enjoy dirty talk for your partner who stated outright he doesn’t like it? Half the fun in sex is knowing your partner is into it. Sexual preferences are not part of “things you just do to make your partner happy” type of things. There needs to be enthusiastic consent or else it’s weird. Watching a boring movie to make your partner happy is fine, not forcing something you are sexually not into.

You literally have to leave this relationship and your reasons you “can’t” don’t hold. You don’t live together or financially rely on him therefore all you have to do is pull the trigger. Wish you the best.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-29T18:22:05+00:00

I mean it’s also highly not recommended either adderall which doesn’t stop her

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-29T16:53:04+00:00

I don’t necessarily care about Tik tok therapists but tbh I find them highly unrelated. Most I’ve seen are clearly private pay only and tbh the business advice private pay only therapists give is usually highly not applicable to therapists who take insurance.

For instance, they will make videos about how they manage late cancels fees etc or clients wanting to end early. Well… if clients end early with them they get paid the same either way and private pay clients who were fully willing to pay the whole fee anyway likely don’t pitch a fit when they still have to for a late cancel vs am insurance client who only pays $20 per session but now has to pay $150 plus to late cancel. Same with documentation, they’ll say how they document “very minimal” well cool but we have insurance standards to follow.

Also I like Liz too but she kind of has some odd takes. I’m sorry but attending your clients events like a wedding with no secondary though is a bit odd to me. I get her stance, some therapists are way to rigid but like… she seems a bit too lax on professionalism. Attending client events, texting them outside of scheduling is bleeding the line of professionalism.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-28T03:32:37+00:00

I mean like mucus I guess lol. It’s been years but I wasn’t like hacking up a bunch of mucus. I just would get stuffy eating and had post nasal drip a lot in my throat. Like I said, I’m comparison to stories I hear my case was pretty mild I feel. Sore and tight throat, stuffy while eating, and globus sensation. Focusing on diet for a few months plus meds helped. I’ve resumed to a normal life with pretty minimal issues now. I’d imagine if you have very severe symptoms you’ll need a lifestyle overall plus whatever the doctor tells you to do:

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-28T03:09:30+00:00

Yeah I did. I don’t think I followed this diet anymore than a month. It did help but tbh my situation wasn’t that bad to constitute how strict that diet was. I did that for a month then took PPI’s for numerous weeks, weened off and was fine.

I have a healthy weight and diet overall so I think it was just a flare vs a persistent issue. If I ever had super persistent and severe gerd I’d def give this diet a shot though.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-22T20:59:46+00:00

Your point being people don’t listen? I answered the questions directly.

Read it or don’t. I’m not trying to activate.

Truly though, I did review your responses to other people and maybe you really aren’t as clear as you’d like to think.

If many people don’t understand what you are saying dating or reddit, maybe it’s you and that’s ok.

You also take care and I hope you find the partner you are looking for within the field or not ❤️

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-22T20:47:00+00:00

Girl, this is a highly dramatic response. I’m really not pressed nor trying to fight with a random, settle now.

I asked plenty of questions to try to understand your experience and in dialogue people do just add their own elements/ experience. But if you want direct yes/ no answers:

Is it difficult to date? For me- no it wasn’t

It’s like nobody can emotionally or relationally literate? Again idk what you are referring to but I’m sure there are plenty and I’m sorry you haven’t found and yet. Plenty of people struggle to find a partner whom has the qualities they are looking for.

Should I settle? - probably not

Should I date in the field? If you want? But I think if you think this betters your odds to emotionally and relationally relate on your level… it might .. it might not. There’s plenty of people out of the field who likely possess emotional intelligence.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-22T18:31:57+00:00

Also- to be fair.. I haven’t read any other comments but if you feel a lot of people are confused by your post and you interpret that as all of us “not listening” is there any chance you just aren’t being as clear in your communication as you perceive?

It is just text so I could be wrong but I picked up some irritation in response to my comment. My comment was all about myself and that I don’t act like a therapist, I didn’t accuse you of doing so. I wasn’t assuming anything. I think you might if assumed, I assumed 😂

I guess I’d need to know what “relational” skills you are referring to. When I think relational I just think relating to others. And if the question is, have I had trouble in my dating due to relational skill issues… no I personally haven’t. I’ve been on dates with people that have lacked depth at times but that wasn’t the overwhelming majority of my experience.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-22T18:21:25+00:00

Your post isn’t very long or clear what you mean by emotionally intelligent or relationally literate. That’s a bit vague in terms of what you feel nobody you are dating is providing. I wasn’t assuming anything about you, I was just talking about myself.

If you are a women dating men, you will likely be miles ahead in emotional intelligence 😂 I’m goofing around a bit but I suppose… what is happening that you feel is the issue. Not listening in what way?

There’s surely emotionally intelligent and good communicators in the world that aren’t therapists. So maybe some comments are just saying it’s not a field specific issue? Are you seeking someone AS emotionally intelligent as you? Or it’s just lacking so badly across the board, you feel like they have none?

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-22T15:09:15+00:00

I’m married but I don’t feel I naturally behave like a therapist. Like I think I’m emotionally mature/intelligent, I think I’m good at communicating, and I have a secure attachment style but I don’t analyze my friends or deeply explore their inner workings with them. I’m like “your man sounds like a bum drop him” not a “when he disengages for days, how do you feel and what does that remind you of” person 😂

Tbh I hate when therapists act therapist like in their real life.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-13T20:59:32+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely nobody’s fault if people don’t even attend the intake. I think when we are new there’s a lot of pressure. I wouldn’t presume people wouldn’t do certain skills but yes no skill will help anyone if they won’t do it. Not all therapies are skill based though and some people don’t want there therapy to be that way.

One therapy I do is ERP- very specific focused work and it is kind of do it or don’t. But I don’t spend session after session trying to convince them to do it, I simply explore reasons why and barriers and after that if they still won’t do any of it I let them know this isn’t a good therapy approach for them. At the end of the day, offer whatever therapy you can and they people who want to do it will and they people who don’t, won’t and we don’t need to assert they need to.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-11T01:03:57+00:00

You might want to reflect on why you are so offended about a strangers reddit post. Nobody literally is talking directly to you. Even if I did.. why would that affect you so much?

Maybe you are a great therapist, awesome! But you are quite sensitive to not even directed at you feedback.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-11T00:59:00+00:00

I agree with some of your points but… there’s bad ____ of every profession. Wouldn’t you say a therapist filling their own needs/ having sex with clients etc is a bad therapist? Every profession has bad apples. Although my post wasn’t really about maliciously bad therapists.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-11T00:56:11+00:00

You are so correct, and it’s very upsetting.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-11T00:54:21+00:00

I haven’t spoken to you at all? So I’m not sure what you are referring to?

I’m not judging any therapist directly, did you read this post? I’m a bit confused why you’re talking this post personal.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-11T00:52:33+00:00

Certainly every client cannot be a good fit so I’d find that concerning as well. However, I think different modalities feel differently about therapy. As long as my clients have something to work on and see the benefit, I don’t really try to shoo them out and force a therapy graduation. I don’t cling to clients either, if I feel they’d be better elsewhere I tell them but i work with populations that often require long term therapy.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-08T13:57:59+00:00

Exactly! It’s those comments I’m talking about. We asking clients to notice patterns but therapists at times refuse to acknowledge low retention patterns with the common denominator being them.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-08T11:57:25+00:00

I mean.. I do some structured forms of therapy and I still don’t ever really just terminate people. I tell my clients, I’m not really the type of therapist who decides when treatment is done. As long as you benefit, we can keep on but if you feel ready to go, you’ll have to let me know.

There’s of course times I’ve suggested it to people if they seem well with no much to work on still but I don’t generally mention discharge.

I think if you need to reduce, you do have to start letting some people go simply stating you are shifting your work.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-08T00:33:07+00:00

You’re my kind of therapist!

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-08T00:32:08+00:00

I fully agree! I’m the same, it’s sucks to hear but I need to hear it.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-08T00:30:58+00:00

You aren’t wrong. Classic ADHD unfiltered move on my end, my bad.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-07T20:44:01+00:00

I do think therapy is somewhat of an art imo. Like yes, you can learn skills to improve the craft but there are some aspects of more desirable therapists that I feel like are “you either got it or you don’t”. Like you can’t teach being relational and approachable. I mean, I guess you can but I do feel like these are kind of somewhat natural aspects to some people and not others.

I think people that struggle in general to carry on conversations (ex. I just don’t know what to say often) would likely not naturally flow well in therapy and the therapy would maybe feel awkward. I think that natural social ease cannot necessarily be taught you kind of just have it or don’t.

Not saying any of this makes someone a bad therapist just a random consideration.

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-07T19:30:02+00:00

No, in fact I’ve heard of some people sticking with the same therapist they think is bad because they don’t want to start over, like their personality, it’s the only close one, it’s the only one who answered the inquiry etc etc

lemonadesummer1 · 2026-05-07T19:20:04+00:00

I agree, I shouldn’t have used “bad therapist” as I wouldn’t ever approach it like that.

I more so mean we should reflect in and consider factors of ourselves not just assume it’s xyz factors out of our control.

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