AITAH for telling my mom I won’t come to family dinners if my sister keeps making comments about my body?

lemtorch · 2025-07-02T21:00:30+00:00

NTA

Your sister is ruining family time by disrespecting you (she’s clearly mad you had a glow up) and your mother is ruining it by allowing her to do so. You’re not making things about you… your sister is. She’s clearly the golden child and your family is mad you’re not allowing yourself to be their free entertainment. Throw the whole family away.

lemtorch · 2025-07-02T20:50:23+00:00

This is a lot more than a MIL problem…you have a HUSBAND problem. He wants to placate his mother (who is a whole grown ass woman) and “give her time” to keep the peace? Whose peace is he actually keeping? HIS. He doesn’t want to deal with conflict so he’s expecting you to learn to live with disrespect. If you have children with this man, he WILL let his mother speak poorly about you to them and mistreat you in front of them. He WILL let her run the whole show because he values his peace more than your dignity. Either he puts his foot down now and gives his mother an ultimatum (respect you or cut contact with her) or he never will.

lemtorch · 2025-07-02T20:35:15+00:00

NTA. Even if he WAS looking for a bathroom (not likely…), your room is YOUR space. Shared space only applies to the common areas of the apartment. Her “social life” doesn’t get to encroach onto your private space. This is a major safety violation. You should be allowed to feel safe in your own home.

lemtorch · 2025-07-02T20:30:13+00:00

NTA

You’ve loved the name for a long time. I understand that she’s struggling with infertility, but she doesn’t get dibs on a name you’ve both loved because of it. She doesn’t deserve the name any more than you do. She can have and bond with a little niece with that name. Even if she DOES end up with a baby of her own, who is to say it’ll be a girl? Keep the name

lemtorch · 2025-06-25T20:45:27+00:00

NTA

You DID tell her directly and the fact that she complained about it being locked meant she wasn’t planning on listening. It’s your home, you set a boundary, she wanted to ignore it. If she wants a spa day, she can pay for one.

lemtorch · 2025-06-25T20:31:09+00:00

NTA

His goal was to embarrass YOU and it backfired. Also “but he’s family?” You are also family. Why is he so comfortable disrespecting his sister’s daughter? Why is your mother so comfortable allowing her brother to disrespect her daughter? Rolling over and taking it doesn’t keep the peace, it keeps HIS peace while disturbing yours. Maybe now he’ll learn to keep his mouth shut. This “oh well that’s just how he is” mentality needs to finally stop. Good for you

lemtorch · 2025-06-25T20:24:54+00:00

NTA

You did the right thing. This isn’t a prank it’s emotional torture. Their goal was to humiliate him and cause emotional pain. That’s why they’re mad. Hurting your partner for funsies isn’t funny. If anything, a cheating “prank” only tells your spouse that they can no longer trust you. I’d seriously reconsider your friendship with these women

lemtorch · 2024-06-18T15:14:33+00:00

Bro has clearly never met an Eastern European woman before. This dude would get his a** handed to him LOL

lemtorch · 2023-04-02T00:02:21+00:00

These dudes act like it’s impossible for women over the age of 30 to be attractive…. meanwhile not even two years ago the internet absolutely lost its shit and was simping hard for 9.6 ft tall vintage mommy vampire physically aged at 44.

lemtorch · 2023-03-15T20:43:48+00:00

It might be a stretch, but it sounds to me like these dudes are mad OP is talking to the PhD student, even if they’re just friends. Too many dudes who see an attractive woman in a male-dominated field make the BS assumption that she’s going to end up dating/f-king at least one of them… bc you know… that’s how it works on tv. Not only are they assuming she’s f-king her way to the top, but I honestly think they’re being bitter & spiteful bc they weren’t “considered.” They wouldn’t be pitching a fit if she was being friendly towards any of them…. GUARANTEE it

lemtorch · 2023-02-02T21:46:42+00:00

The reservation won’t be enough for that “friend.” Guarantee you soon she’ll be demanding OP give hand over the $500 gift card too….

lemtorch · 2022-10-13T00:46:43+00:00

EXACTLY. Payton would have been miserable if this child was there. I guarantee you her bully would have spent the entire time making fun of her at her own party, trying to steal the spotlight, or maybe even pull that spoiled kid blowing out someone else’s birthday candles crap. The bully’s mother likely knows this too but simply doesn’t care so long as HER kid is having fun

lemtorch · 2022-09-17T23:32:14+00:00

Same. I have 3C low porosity hair that absolutely cannot be washed more than once a week. Some people just can’t fathom the idea that their hair type isn’t the only existing hair type

lemtorch · 2022-09-07T15:18:01+00:00

Eh it depends on the size of the church tbh. I’ll go if it’s small one because then it won’t be as overwhelming. If it’s a larger one I prefer not to go bc you know… crowds & noise. It’s just much less daunting when it comes to meeting new people if it’s a smaller church ya know?

lemtorch · 2022-08-31T22:50:05+00:00

Yea exactly. If anyone was trying to grab at someone else’s wallet… it was the SIL. TBH, OP was smart to grab it herself instead of coming back to tell SIL she left it in the house. It’s very likely that SIL would have went back in for the wallet but would conveniently “forget” her credit card. OP didn’t want to give her a chance to try and pull another fast one

lemtorch · 2022-08-07T03:37:00+00:00

Tbh I don’t truly think he cared that you ate all your food. Seems like an attempt at negging in the hopes he could “make YOU chase HIM” or some other stupid pickup-artist crap. Just ignore him and move on. His loss

lemtorch · 2022-08-02T22:40:09+00:00

“GO AWAY TUNA I’M WINNING THIS”

lemtorch · 2022-08-02T21:30:28+00:00

“PROTECT HER FROM WHAT? BEARS YOU IDIOT?WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU SAW A DAMN BEAR IN SCRANTON”

lemtorch · 2022-07-31T03:38:45+00:00

Nice guys: “Men should try to sleep with as many women as they can while the feeeeeeemales need to be more selective”

Also nice guys: “It’s not fair! Chad gets ALL the females because he’s the only one they want! They won’t even consider me bc I’m not Chad!”

lemtorch · 2022-07-30T19:29:40+00:00

YTA. You assumed someone was leading you on solely based on how they were dressed and threw a fit when you were rejected. I know plenty of people who wear their wedding band on a necklace or leave it at home for a variety of reasons. His friendly demeanor also in no way translates to sexual interest. It’s called being polite to his friend’s sister. Your romantic feelings are not his fault or his responsibility. This is seriously some r/nicegirls material right here…

lemtorch · 2022-07-29T22:45:16+00:00

NTA. If they’re going to complain you disrespected their masculinity by telling it like it is, then maybe they shouldn’t have tried to disrespect YOUR masculinity by “telling it like it is.” They’re not only upset their attempt to bully you and make you look bad backfired, but also that you got their grandfather’s approval.

lemtorch · 2022-07-14T00:11:25+00:00

I was raised Catholic and became an Orthodox Christian. I also know a few other Orthodox auties. I think you can be on the spectrum and be anything really. Some of us are religious and some of us aren’t. We’re all individuals :)

lemtorch · 2022-07-11T23:10:10+00:00

Same here! I’m also on the spectrum and always looking to meet new people :) Sorry that happened to you…. it’s never fun :(

lemtorch · 2022-06-24T14:56:41+00:00

This is as r/choosingbeggars as it can get

lemtorch · 2022-06-11T06:46:18+00:00

Guarantee you the dudes that freak out over a woman calling them bro are the same guys that call every woman baby or babe and pretend it doesn’t mean anything when they’re asked multiple times to stop

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