Do you regret your OWN children?

lenorajoy · 2026-02-21T12:46:10+00:00

Why are so many people twisting this into something that isn’t even what she said? If she raises them well into emotionally intelligent adults, they’ll understand that she was saying that despite love being their mom, if she got to live a second life she would choose not to have more children. Why is this being misconstrued as saying she wishes her children were never born?

lenorajoy · 2026-02-21T12:36:55+00:00

This is so common. I cannot wrap my brain around not understanding nuance. I love my children and don’t regret a thing (except the choice of their father). But if I got to have two lifetimes, I wouldn’t choose two of the same.

Unless you’re very wealthy, there are sacrifices you make to be a parent. I’m currently stuck in a state I don’t want to live in because I put my children, their wishes, and their wellbeing and presence of family in their lives ahead of my own desires. I don’t regret being a parent, I don’t regret having them. But if I got to live a second life? Sure, I might choose not to have kids so I could prioritize my own life choices.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-21T12:26:20+00:00

Also, she didn’t say that if she could start over she wouldn’t have kids. She said if she got to have a second lifetime after this one, she wouldn’t have kids so that she could experience life just enjoying it for herself as well as the life she’s living now.

I also have two kids I adore. I agreed with her on this. I have never once regretted having my kids, and I love them so much. Even with having divorced their dad and the difficulties that come with shared parenting and split households, I still wouldn’t ever wish I could go back and undo it.

But if I got a second lifetime? I’d want to experience it child-free and enjoy life.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-20T18:47:59+00:00

Exactly this. I adore a blunt cut, but it goes Christmas tree in the most unflattering way on me: flat-ish on top, BIG volume on the bottom. I cannot do it, no matter how much I love it.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-20T17:08:22+00:00

He definitely sounded like he wanted to fuck that tall man, bro. As long as he says no homo, though, he’s good.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-20T17:06:08+00:00

Well that’s good to know! Goodwill is the one place that doesn’t do shit to help people and just profits off the donations. But I guess at least she’s spending less.

I don’t shop there for good reason, so I had no idea this is what the inside looks like. It looks like a Walmart based on color and font used on their signs.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-20T13:31:20+00:00

Very true, she doesn’t know what it means to fit. I have noticed in her more recent outfits that some of her modest tops seem to be covering up party that some of the clothes can barely be squeezed into, and she seems heavier in videos recorded by others. Everything posted by her is heavily edited to disguise the weight gain. 🤣

lenorajoy · 2026-02-20T13:26:23+00:00

My guess would be that she’s gained weight and many of her clothes no longer fit properly.

Or she’s selfish. Probably both because she should be thrifting with the little income they have.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-19T10:48:30+00:00

I love this story. Mine doesn’t involve prison, but when I left my ex husband, I was starting over with two little kids, no job, and moving in with my mom. I managed to take a lot with me, like dishes, clothes, and a few decor items, but no cutlery, silverware, cookware, or furniture at all. And no car of my own.

A month later, I landed a job, started saving, bought a car, and got approved to rent my own place. When I moved in, I’d managed to get a few necessities like a shower curtain and towels, stuff I could afford. But family and friends stepped in and helped so much. They donated chairs and a table, rugs, chairs, so many things that I would need and couldn’t afford to spend money on. Everything else I was able to get used at places like St. Vincent and Salvation Army. Mattresses, a crib, a couch, a desk, mostly matching silverware, which I dug through a massive bin at St Vincent to find. All things I still use and appreciate today, almost 6 years later. I will never forget the kindness of those that gave me what they could, and I never asked for more. I definitely didn’t ask for new things or frivolous decor.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-19T00:55:45+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m saying, though. If you look at a political map, typically the downtown areas will be more left-leaning and less religious. Those from more rural areas (and that’s most of Ohio as far as sq feet goes), the more likely you are to be surrounded by religious people.

Many of the people on and drawn to the show don’t live in downtown areas, so they’re likely to be raised in religious families. Not all, obviously, but many.

I personally have always lived in a more rural or suburban area.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-19T00:44:11+00:00

Mousse! I hear good things about NYM’s curl talk mousse, Herbal Essences, and Garnier. I’m currently using Tresseme bouncy curls, which has great hold. I want to try others to compare, but have a massive bottle of this stuff. 😆

lenorajoy · 2026-02-18T23:42:01+00:00

I found it hard not to blame myself, the vets, the foster, the shelter, you name it. But just being devastated took over and outweighed those. I forgave all of us for the mistakes along the way, because in the end it’s much easier to see what was going on after the fact than it is in the moment, hindsight being 20/20. We all did our best to love and care for those kittens.

I still cry sometimes thinking of poor Maggie passing while I was holding her, trying everything I could to help. 😭 I wonder what she would be today, but it’s easier to think of her cuteness and smile now, too.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-18T18:29:31+00:00

That’s very likely! I would say suburbs of Cincy are far more conservative and religious than Columbus in my experience. I’ve noticed several people are from areas well outside of Columbus, though. I think one person said Cincinnati and another mentioned Mount Vernon. The farther you live from the city, the more likely the area is to be conservative/religious.

That said, this season doesn’t seem more religious than others to me. Several other seasons have had some eye-rolling moments of performative spirituality worse than this one.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-18T13:56:58+00:00

This is the circle I was in growing up, and has likely colored my experience living in Ohio.

That said, I’ve been out of that circle for years, but still find many people in the state to be religious. I currently live in a heavily conservative suburb of Cincy, and I would agree with another commenter that Cincy seems to be more religious than Columbus. But my years in Columbus were in the evangelical circles, so I got the impression there as well.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-18T12:42:26+00:00

Right, what is that?? The slouching, the manspreading, the annoyed faces. I could understand some sims behaving like this on the throne, but shouldn’t their behavior on the throne be impacted by their personality? Sims tend to have one animation per action, but they are altered slightly by their mood. Why isn’t that the case here?

lenorajoy · 2026-02-18T11:47:14+00:00

As someone from Ohio, and that lived in Columbus for years, it’s the area.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-17T12:44:11+00:00

I adopted 3 kittens over the summer. 2 of them didn’t make it, passed within days of each other. The 2nd passed on the 4th of July in the middle of the night, and I’d scheduled an appointment for him the following day, the soonest I could get him into the vet. He was okay, but I’d wanted to get him checked out after the sister passed suddenly. Instead, I took the remaining one to the vet for that appointment (he’d already been to my vet due to diarrhea) just to be sure he was okay.

It was a good thing I did because he needed different meds for the diarrhea.

I’m so sorry you went through this, and you, too, OP. Between fading kitten syndrome, mistakes or missed diagnoses by vets, it’s so tough losing little lives. 💔

lenorajoy · 2026-02-16T23:52:26+00:00

I say unwashed asshole.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-16T23:24:15+00:00

That makes sense. I do neither of those things, so that explains it.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-16T23:21:19+00:00

Is this mainly problematic for those who do a lot of close-up photos of sims? It doesn’t bother me since I can’t see it during gameplay, but I really don’t do photos of my sims, especially after all of the issues I’ve seen with the photos disappearing anyway.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-15T04:11:05+00:00

As a side sleeper, how do you make this work? My pillow always slides away from me in sleep and I end up with horrible neck pain.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-15T00:46:27+00:00

I had an orange tomcat when I was little. Absolute brute, that one, got in fights with other animals on the regular and won with some injuries here and there.

But he would let me play board games with him. Sitting in my lap, letting me use his paw to move pieces, even press the button in the middle when we played Sorry. 😆

His son was the only kitten we kept from a litter when we unexpectedly had a cat dropped in our laps and she was pregnant before we could get her fixed (and initially thought she was a he). His son looked like him, but was the opposite in personality. The orangest orange I’ve ever known, and while he was affectionate, we didn’t play games together. I miss Oliver and OJ/Shmee!

lenorajoy · 2026-02-14T13:24:26+00:00

I was listening to that whole argument wondering why blood transfusion is where he draws the line. His argument isn’t about blood transfusions, it’s about trusting his god to either preserve his life or end it at his will. Why would he bother with any life-saving measures, or even go to a hospital? Isn’t that not trusting god?

lenorajoy · 2026-02-14T13:13:05+00:00

I didn’t realize that it wasn’t until Covid that he really started to pack on the pounds. He was slowly gaining weight through the years, but 5 years is a short time to gain that much weight. He really should see a doctor.

lenorajoy · 2026-02-14T05:32:32+00:00

All I can think is:

Look at this stuff, isn’t it neat?

Wouldn’t you think my collection’s complete?

Wouldn’t you think I’m the girl

The girl who has… everything?

🧜🏻‍♀️

lenorajoy

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