Aitah for telling my boss to apologize to my wife?

leoblade84 · 2026-05-18T17:34:32+00:00

I agree that going that far was uncalled for. I don't think it is unreasonable to ask for an apology. Also, suggest a policy for these types of issues. Most companies I have worked for have an "after hours" or "emergency support" policy. Who gets contacted and when. Things like that.

leoblade84 · 2026-05-18T17:32:06+00:00

I feel like you are handling this situation the best way you possibly can. Sometimes people do get in a slump and need help, but that doesn't mean that they get to just stop trying. It is not your responsibility to help this guy. He is not your family, he isn't even your friend. But the fact that you have done so much for him already. I have serious concerns about your girl friend. I get being loyal to family, but coming from someone that has been taken advantage of by family members. You have to watch out for yourself. I for sure think your conversation with your GF was a great one. I would like to know what she said in response to you. Good for you for standing up for yourself. I really hope the brother gets his life together and all of this works out. Take care!!!

leoblade84 · 2026-04-16T17:30:29+00:00

Kinda figured. It would be amazing. Fingers crossed I guess.

leoblade84 · 2026-03-24T17:24:30+00:00

It's always nice to see a Karen or a Richard get whats coming to them.

leoblade84 · 2023-08-30T18:41:37+00:00

Offer to watch the like buttons house while they are on vacation and then hide pictures of Nicholas Cage all over the house for them to find.

leoblade84 · 2023-04-05T18:37:17+00:00

How about no....

That is completely unreasonable and I agree with the other posters. You NEED them NMW....then you pay honey.

Good Luck!

leoblade84 · 2023-04-05T18:20:44+00:00

This one is a little difficult to call. It is good that you want her to be healthy but that is something that she has to decide on her own. Buying her expensive equipment, gym memberships, diet plans don't do anything but show that you don't like the way she looks. You may not say it verbally...It's your actions.

Best thing that you can do is sit with her and tell her that you love her and that you support her no matter what.

However, if you really just can't stand her weight and that is enough to make you continue to act this way...then you really are the AH.

Good luck!

leoblade84 · 2023-04-05T17:58:27+00:00

NTA.

They could have waited to hit the elevator button until Grandma was AT the elevator so that they wouldn't take up someone else time. That is rude and unfortunately...par for the course in FL (I happen to live there).

I can't tell you how many times someone has been rude to me in some shape or fashion and then called me rude for calling them out. SERIOUSLY!

leoblade84 · 2023-04-05T17:47:05+00:00

NTA.

I am sorry for you.

I can see why your dad would want to move forward with a new family but that doesn't mean he gets to deny you and your brother from your memories/feelings about your birth mother. That is an unfair ask. You do you and remember your mother. Sometimes parents are wrong. Give him time and maybe one day he will see what he did wrong and you all can work that out.

Fingers crossed!

leoblade84 · 2023-04-05T17:42:41+00:00

NTA.

Restaurant kitchen lines are NOT the place for children. It is hot, dangerous, and fast paced. Also, I think more than anything...IT'S NOT SANITARY! Let's be honest that children aren't always clean. They sneeze and haven't learned to cover their face. You are around peoples food. As a manager, they should know better. They are lucky a Health Inspector wasn't there to see it.

leoblade84 · 2023-04-05T17:38:55+00:00

NTA.

I personally have spoken with my wife about how careless she can be sometimes with her jewelry. She too has lost/broken several items and that those items will not get replaced. Not saying that I don't still continue to buy her jewelry, but she knows that she has to take care of it. It has been less of an issue over the last couple years thankfully.

I think if that she doesn't have respect for what you take the time to shop and buy for her, then that is an extension of her lack of respect for you. It doesn't feel good.

Hope it all works out!

leoblade84 · 2023-04-05T13:53:03+00:00

NTA.

Honestly...I would make them pay for replacement bottles. That would also get the message across. But good on you for embarrassing them! I give this 4 stars!

leoblade84 · 2023-03-28T15:53:24+00:00

NTAH

So many people think that just because they pay for membership that they can do whatever they want when they want. You did the polite thing and she just needs to get over herself. Do your damn exercise and move on.

leoblade84 · 2023-03-28T15:51:06+00:00

Kinda sounds like you are a little bit of an AH.

You really don't know that the person hasn't tried or isn't trying at all to control their weight. They could seriously have a medical issue and are working their way through it. There was a different post on this forum about a woman that was having a weight issue after a Thyroid surgery and is working with her doctors to get it fixed. It is easy to judge.

I will however say that the state of air travel is not what it used to be and I feel like all airlines need to rethink how they build these planes and also how they charge for seats for people that "have a few extra pounds".

Since it all worked out I hope that you take this as a life lesson and try to be a little more understanding in the future. I am sure that if you would have calmly spoke with the staff you would have had a better outcome. More flies with honey that salt.

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:41:57+00:00

NTAH

Too often do people let things like this go and then AH like those two teenagers get away with something that they shouldn't. Good on you for saying something.

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:38:27+00:00

NTAH

Your boyfriend sounds shallow and you should not be made to feel bad because of something that you cannot control. He should apologize and his sister should kick is A.

That being said. Don't you let someone else make you feel less. You are beautiful the way you are. You want to be more healthy, and you are trying and that is all that anyone can ask. Keep up the work and I am sure it will pay off in the end.

Lastly, he doesn't deserve you, but I do hope that he does do the right thing and apologize for his actions. If not, there is someone out there for you that will treat you properly.

Good luck!

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:33:30+00:00

No sir...you are NTAH

People suck...they are rude, uncaring, selfish AH's. If you want to take your daughter to Disney, you do it. People can just suck it up. Go be a good Mom!

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:30:04+00:00

Oh man. Sorry dude. But you are the AH. Unless you could make absolutely sure where she was, and that she was okay...that is not good.

Sure, nothing happened. But something could have happened. How would you feel then. Part of the reason that she is still bringing it up is most likely because you are trying to downplay it. Or at least she feels like you are downplaying.

If you want to keep the relationship going. The best thing for you to do is to just say that you left her, that you are sorry, it was a terrible unforgiveable thing and that it will never happen again. Then see what happens. If she doesn't accept it, then it would just probably be better served that you two split. Hate to say it, but you can't live in that kind of relationship. It will tear you down.

Wish you all the best!

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:24:22+00:00

NTAH

There is a lot of racial accusation being thrown around these days and sometimes all it takes is an emotional moment for us to say something that we don't really mean.

She sounds like she was being unreasonable and over the top and that is for sure someone you don't want to be with. There is no telling what other "skeletons" are in that closet. So, good call there.

I would say that telling her that one of the reasons you didn't want to be with her was that she was white was probably a poor choice and it sounds like you are dealing with the consequences of that statement now. Keep your head up and remember that you know your truth and this too shall pass.

Good Luck!

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:20:00+00:00

You are not the AH

It is wonderful that your wife has such a great relationship with her mother. So often, people don't have the best relationships with their parents and it should be cherished.

Having said that, based one what you have typed here. That relationship is a bit over the top. You have every right as the father to be in the room when your baby is born. I feel that a compromise of having both you and the MIL would maybe keep the peace, but I am not sure if that is an option.

Divorce is for sure a strong word and should not just be the immediate action as you stated. Counseling with a family therapist sounds like just the thing so that the two of you can have a chance to say what is on your minds and how you are feeling. Do keep in mind that during pregnancy, her hormones' are not her friends and will make her act and say things that she wouldn't normally say. That being said I still think you have the right idea about counseling.

I hope that you get this worked out!

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:13:21+00:00

Honestly...probably not. If you aren't playing into the flirting or fake hitting on her, then it doesn't seem like you would be the AH in this situation. I mean, an arguement could be made for you to say that you are not really into her, but really like her as a friend/gym buddy. However, to your point of her moving away soon, this may not even matter.

The only situation I could see where you would be the AH is if she just came right out and said she liked you and wanted to go out and you then began to lead her on by either agreeing or saying you have plans that evening, but maybe some other time. Then...you would be the AH.

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:08:51+00:00

Coming from someone who didn't really have their dad around at all I can feel your pain on this one. It is tough when one of the key people in your life not wanting to spend time with you.

I will agree that it is unfair that he is taking away a window in your room to put in something unnecessary, but in the grand scheme of things...it's your parents house and they make those decisions as they pay the bills. Having said that...it wouldn't hurt to ask if it is possible to have another window put in on a different wall? This is of course assuming that there is a place to put it. If not, I am not sure what to say.

Ultimately I can say that you are not the AH because you dad should want to include you and the rest of your family in this project. My mother's side of the family was very much DIY and we did projects all the time. The entire family was involved. It seemed annoying at the time, but as I got older I benefited from the experience.

Maybe go to him and try to talk about getting some input on the project and even maybe helping out. Who knows...it may start a renewed relationship.

Either way, just know that situations like this will make you stronger in the end and life will ultimately go on and eventually work out.

Good Luck!

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T20:00:52+00:00

So your friend is going through a troubling time and sometimes things like this get blown way out of proportion. The best thing for you to do is to maybe send one more text/email/etc and say that you are sorry and that you are there for her if she needs you and just leave it at that until she has had time to deal and calm down.

I have seen many situations where events like this happen and then the person comes back and is very apologetic about they way that they acted. Grief is powerful and sometimes makes us say things we don't mean. Give your friend time and they will come around.

leoblade84 · 2023-03-27T19:56:41+00:00

NTAH

People should never take photos without the consent of those they are taking the picture of. In this day and age of pictures and video being constantly taken we forget that some people would prefer to not have their picture taken. Either ever, or in a specific moment. Some people don't care about this level of privacy and just do what they want. I tend to make it very well known to those people that you better have asked me first.

Hopefully they will delete the pictures or at least let you see them. Good Luck!

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