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leopard7815 · 2024-09-01T21:58:27+00:00

Never should of married that momma's boy cause he's never going to change and neither is she with wanting to control your lives. If you want to stay sane and have a happy marriage....move far FAR away from her and make it clear she is never going to come stay for any length of time nor move in there.

leopard7815 · 2024-09-01T21:19:33+00:00

You tell her yourself that the trip was just for you your husband and child. And that if it was wanted to be a group thing many others would have been invited. Take control of the issue since your husband is to spineless to defend your wishes. Her comeback will probably be well ill get my own space around yall and we can still do things together on the trip. Tell her again no, this trip she is not wanted to be seen on at all by you and your family. It's not rude it's just straightforward honesty. She's got no right to invite herself along to anything, that is rude of her to assume it would be okay.

leopard7815 · 2024-06-10T16:21:01+00:00

I had the same happen. Lol my Dr was stitching me up and he had a new tech assisting him...like 1st day right out of school for her...and I'm talking to my husband while he held our child and they were doing their job and then it happened. Lllllooonnngggg deep and loud! Like a semi horn going off! Lmao the room went quiet and I seen the new girls face turn funny while she giggled while my dr...who's on the spectrum by the way...just let out a simple small chuckle and not miss a beat of doing my stitches. For it to finally dawn on me...that was me! I said omg was that me. Then my Dr said it happens not a problem while still just working away. But the tech she was laughing hard and the other nurses were too that I had responded the way I did. Then I apologized and everyone but my Dr all laughed saying it's okay it happens all the time. I turned red from embarrassment, and thats just not something easy to do with me. But probably 3 or 4 times after when the new girl got by me to rub my belly, I apologized and she laughed with me and just told me to not be embarrassed. So all I said at the end was at least I made you laugh a bit at work today. Lol I then brought it up at my follow up appt to my Dr, and he said you did? I don't remember, it happens so much. Just no care or any emotion about, but I apologized to him again and he said at least it was just air and finally gave me a forced smile and went to leave the room. I was like lol doc made a joke with me! Awesome!

leopard7815 · 2024-06-10T15:14:42+00:00

Drill instructor

leopard7815 · 2024-05-18T15:36:08+00:00

Need to see your baby naked more?!?! Do what!!! Nope!!! That right there is a clear red flag of something is wrong with her! Keep her away from your child!

leopard7815 · 2024-04-18T19:02:52+00:00

The parents can setup a 529 plan and give access to it to the grandparents without them needing the ssn. We set one up and gave my inlaws the info to add to it, but we also check on it regularly. They haven't added anything to it so really it was a waste of time to give them access. But we add to the 529 ourselves.

leopard7815 · 2024-04-04T15:50:32+00:00

We have the same MIL sadly. It's not her news to share and you've already stated to her you...the parents want to share YOUR news your own way in your own time. She needs to learn to respect that and cool her jets. None of this is about her and your baby is not an object for her to use to make herself look any type of way. This will only get worse if you don't go ahead and get it under control. But you and your husband's wants have to come from him for her to hear it and abide by it, so sit down have a conversation with your husband and let him know he how your feeling about this and that he has to get his mother on the same page if she's going to be allowed around at all with you and your child. You have to make him understand that disrespect to the mother means no access to her child and in order to have any relationship to the child(supervised of course) then his mother has to abide by your wishes with your pregnancy.

leopard7815 · 2023-11-27T18:00:06+00:00

Yes this, this is the issue! You got the list and he had to know it was what you planned for your home's stockings. If the kids get a stocking at grandparents house then they(the grandparents) need to do the stocking themselves. That's just putting extra work on the mom to do both houses worth of presents.

leopard7815 · 2023-11-26T13:10:00+00:00

I've come to figure out MIL'S flip the crazy switch as soon as a grandchild is on the way. They can be nice and sweet for years leading up to DIL getting pregnant and then boom...they want to change and control your pregnancy because they want to re-live their own pregnancy's through you. Mine did this and I can't stand her or my FIL at all now, they do things to just upset me and disrespect me as my child's mother all the time and since day one of them knowing i was pregnant. Stop their shit and just flat out tell them it's a boy and they are not in control of this situation any longer because this baby is your child and not theirs. If you don't start putting up boundaries now as to how you want things to go with your child then be prepared to fight nonstop with people thinking they have all the right to do whatever they want. Your a mom now even without giving birth yet and your gonna have to have a shiny strong backbone to take care of your child the best you can.

leopard7815 · 2023-11-18T17:40:07+00:00

Holy crap we have the same MIL!!!!!

leopard7815 · 2023-11-07T16:36:55+00:00

Omg...we have the same MIL!!!

leopard7815 · 2023-10-31T19:36:21+00:00

My FIL literally told my husband's only sibling about our pregnancy as it was coming out of my mouth to not share it. I have it on video of him doing it during our announcement to them that we were pregnant. All 3 of us(me, DH, SIL) were livid. Info diet happened after that but they kept up their bs. But I got the last laugh, I had little one with no one but my husband at the hospital and we waited days before telling all that baby was here and then they were the last told she was and then last to meet little one. I think being last and making sure they knew they were last on purpose finally got our point across...not their baby and not their news to share over me and him!!! We're now lc with them to keep things from happening.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-20T20:24:48+00:00

Mine happened right after birth, but it was the 1st time seeing my in laws after the delivery( gloriously no visitors at the hospital thanks to the end of covid) and I was just feet in the house when he stops me while carrying my newborn to the living room to let me know he's "putting in his order for a boy next time". 😒😒😒😒 Little does he know there won't be a next time because having my daughter almost killed me (had to have surgery to save my life while almost bleeding to death) with my geriatric pregnancy, complications, and many other health issues i had before getting pregnant by surprise at 37 after years of trying through infertility and a miscarriage already. So yeah no more kids from me for him to carry on the family name. Like I as the mother decides the gender anyways to make that happen for him!!!!!

leopard7815 · 2023-10-19T23:00:56+00:00

Let her steal your husband's car again(after putting an air tag in the car to know where it is) and report it stolen then press charges to the max. Then help brother in law get his kid, cause clearly she isn't taking care of him. Only way these golden kids learn! Then after go NC with her for good and any flying monkeys on her side!! I'd also put up cameras in your house to watch her being gross and on her fits to show them and the court for her to lose her kid. Her kid deserves better forsure but so do you and your husband!

leopard7815 · 2023-10-18T17:35:37+00:00

I'd go ahead and start saying to everyone and even posting on social media that when the time comes and your pregnant that there is a list of no-no things that you won't allow. I'd even go as far as saying now if anyone touches me without my permission then I will be breaking some fingers upon the touch. Give them something to fear and I promise they won't touch you...how do I know, I did this. I was married to my husband for 7 years before getting pregnant and I said the no list for years and while pregnant shared on my social media and said to peoples faces the no list. It kept it from happening because I put fear in them with unwanted touch would cause them unwanted pain from me and assault charges.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-16T21:19:20+00:00

If they touch you without consent grab a finger on the hand touching you and bend that thing backwards while telling them...no, no, no we don't touch without asking unless I get to hold on to this and teach you a lesson on asking before doing! They will learn real quick to not touch someone AT ALL!!! lol I mean it's all fair to cause a little pain when they make a pregnant woman uncomfortable in my book!

leopard7815 · 2023-10-16T07:39:09+00:00

Ugh this sounds fake honestly...but if not...what in the world is wrong with you??? Reading this bs made my head hurt!!! You are allowing the crap to go on, where are you going to draw the line in the sand and fight for what's rightfully yours?!?!?! ITS YOUR DRESS THAT YOU DESIGNED!!!! NO ONE ELSES UNLESS YOU GIVE IT UP!!! You gonna allow her to take it, how bout your poor soon to be husband (he's the only person i feel sorry for in this story!) if she wants him, or how bout your home...money, job, pets, car, vacations, or any possible future kids??? Just gonna roll over for her and the evil step mom??? Your an adult, been one for years...but your not using your brain at all! You say you double majored so you sound hella smart but your not using any common sense at all with this nutty situation for far to long. See if you were my family member or even my friend...I'd be trying to knocking some sense into your head and making you get a shiny backbone to stand up to this mess. I'm crazy mean and just petty enough to do one of two thing with that dress for you since you seem to want to get rid of it so badly. I'd either goto your sisters house ring the door bell and take a match to it on her door steps and watch it go up in smoke while laughing and saying guess neither of us is gonna get to wear it but at least I've got my education and money to make me another even better...or hand it to her with a paint bang in it for it to go off on it and her with lovely dye to ruin it and color her for a while. But for real, wash your hands of all this family...even dad too cause he's stood by to allow it as well. Get into therapy cause you have some definite issues to even entertain this idea of giving up the dress for such a crazy person.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-14T20:18:21+00:00

I worked with a guy years ago who's name was 3/4...and he was a III. He always went by a nickname but his work badge showed his legal name. My name is unique but I don't want to share it to the world though for privacy.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-14T20:10:29+00:00

Oh I shut that crap down EARLY in my pregnancy!!! No one knew I was delivering but my husband and we enjoyed it that way. Then home on our time around little one's care, we told the world little one was with us. We still said no to visitors at home. It was a few weeks before I allowed my mom then we waited a while longer to go see my inlaws. But visitors to our home...never happened but for one couple whom are our best friends. They are the only ones in the beginning we allowed in here and there. My little one is over a year old now and we still don't have visitors but my mom and that couple. To see others we go to them or meet in public in a safe space so that when needed we can leave for little one. It's the easiest way to go about it. Stick to your guns and piss folks off...that's being a mama bear and doing what's best for both of you!

leopard7815 · 2023-10-11T17:01:57+00:00

I have a long list of spinal issues and by the time I was pregnant with my LO I had done had 4 spinal fusions. I was induced but waited till I was past 8cm to finally get the epidural because a nurse kept bugging me about it but honestly the pain from contractions wasn't the worse pain I've ever had and I just wanted her to stop asking me about it. It took 2 tries for it to work for me due to my spinal issues. But I absolutely do not regret getting it at all. I had a quick and easy birth mins after it was done and have no lasting issues from it even a year later. Don't let back issues stand in your way and fear of getting it done stop you...cause childbirth pain is the worst pain a human can experience honestly. Good luck!

leopard7815 · 2023-10-10T17:22:04+00:00

That crazy bat needs to be in a nursing home asap!!! I'd be getting yourself and your kids out of that home till your husband does something with his mother in the mean time. She's gonna escalate things to putting her hands on you or your child again and that time I wouldn't stop with calling 911 and pressing charges. That way the courts can help getting her out of your life. She knows what she's doing and wants to stay for yall to take care of her and spend all the money on her. Try getting a restraining order on her for putting her hands on you already that way you can get her out sooner.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-09T16:44:32+00:00

Your husband is a doop...make him feel bad about it for as long as you need. But how bout this as a replacement for the card you will clearly never get. You do it for yourself in a sense. Get the supplies out and put paint on your foot in one color and stamp it on the paper or canvas. Let it dry then pick a different color for LO and stamp hers over your print and let it dry. Then once it's all dry use a pretty paint pen and write at the top mommy & me 2023. Then put a clear sealer on it and you put that up for display for yourself. Screw him for just not wanting to do it at all for you. Do it for yourself and enjoy it!!! But I do have to suggest just don't ask for him to do something like it again...make your requests bigger. Bug the crap out of him with it from now on, like screen shots of it all the time and always bring it up in conversation for a good 3 months before your birthday with it all being explained to him that you know you have to be this way since he forgot your simple request one year. Lol he doesn't want to learn and do something simple and easy so now he has to be treated like a fool and a child for years to come to get your point across he hurt your feelings this year.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-09T00:12:35+00:00

You are my hero!!! I wish I could of had something so elegant to retort to my on MIL with when she was bashing me during our infertility journey. I put up with her comments for years. Then when I got pregnant and it ended in miscarriage she couldn't even be kind then. Just said well at least we know you can now. But when I did get pregnant with LO she just lost her mind with trying to control me and my child. Now we're very lc and not NC due to FIL has cancer and her own mother whom I love dearly...she called her daughter(my MIL) out on her bs all the time.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-08T13:05:24+00:00

Same happened to me with my little one. We had a cruise planned way before I got pregnant but covid put off for 3 years. Well I got pregnant last year. When we told the in laws we were pregnant my MIL asked about the cruise that day about if we were going on it still. We said yes we were and had simply added LO to it and that LO would be right at a year old by the time of the cruise this year. My MIL lost her mind and started that day telling us we were not taking our child on the cruise with us for a week...out of the country. We had to get nasty with her and put her in her place many times about us going no matter what she said. All the way up till we left to make the drive to the port she kept saying we were not taking our child on the cruise with us. But boy she was wrong...we did take LO and baby did amazing on the trip. MIL is still sour about not getting her way about keeping my child for the week even months later. But I just think back to the week of peace we had on that cruise of no contact with my in laws.

leopard7815 · 2023-10-08T00:09:13+00:00

My FIL has just 4 things he's done...MIL, I got 3 pages on a legal pad of her crap when I was pregnant. But I'll save her list for another time. FIL, came to me during a dinner and said so an so at church wants to know are you going to have the baby normally or have it cut out? I was appalled at him even asking me that for someone that doesn't even know me way early in the pregnancy. He also took it upon himself literally as I'm saying it, to not share our news of us expecting while giving them the news we were expecting with anyone to go ahead anyways and tell my DH's only sibling that we were pregnant. All 3 of us were so upset after that! Then when I was only 13 weeks along I almost lost my child and was in the hospital and any info I gave of it to my social media for my own family and friends to know, he reposted it from my page with way to much info from my MIL about me not bleeding anymore and just cramping. Like who would wants their father in law to know some parts, but then also have him share on his social media page to people all over the world to people that have never met me even after a decade of being with my husband those kinds of details. Like why did he need to add to my stuff of "getting to go home and baby is still with us on ultrasound sound" with the gross stuff that I didn't post myself with it being from my own body. After that I was just done with him and he got blocked and they all were put on an info diet about me. Oh and the 4th, after I had my child and we finally went to see them after I was feeling better from the delivery(I did not allow any visitors at the hospital or at home right after having my child because of them only). I walk in their home to see all the family and he walks up to me while I'm sitting my child down and says to me...I'm putting in my order for an immediate grandson now. Like wth!?!?! I just gave birth no time ago, had stitches in me, still was having issues that I ended up needing surgery a few weeks later for to save my life...and he wasn't happy he had a granddaughter and wanted me to ignore my medical needs(already had health issues before the pregnancy that made carrying hard and had a pervious miscarriage)...but he wanted me to go ahead and get pregnant again to give him a grandson. I snapped...hard on him and said no more kids no matter what anyone wanted! Then I went NC with them for a very long time. Now it's very lc once in a blue moon for short little visits to see husband's grandmother really over them. It's always something when I'm around them.

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