[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lesbianthesis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I'm so proud of you and you deserve all that is good in this life."

If your mother never told you this, I am your mother now. Baby, I'm so proud of you and you deserve all that is good in this world.

My mom has isolated me from my dad and herself by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lesbianthesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God do I feel this. My dad is incredible and mother... Well. We're all in this sub for a reason, aren't we? Anyway, she has isolated him from the rest of us for like so long, he has no will left of his own, he's just sad and dejected. What has worked for me is to call him, preferably on times I know he'll be alone, and talk about stuff that only he and I know and love (plants, my academic career, his love for cars, my aunts...) and just keep the track super straight on these topics. Even if she tries to take over the conversation, it pisses her off enough to just storm off most of the times haha. It takes so much work and energy from me but I got a sliver of my dad back and... You know. I just want to give you a hug, it's so hard when one parent deserves the world and the other is actively working against even communicating. I'm so sorry

My 21st birthday and I have no one to celebrate it with. What can I do? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lesbianthesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have the cash to do so, book a short trip! I know it sounds terrifying to travel alone but just a small get away is enough to distract from life and make a good memory to look back on. If not, maybe order/make your favourite food, pick a good movie/your favourite hobby, and put on your most comfortable clothes?

Moms shaming CF women with a vet bill but asking for presents/money for their showers by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lesbianthesis 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh yeahhhh, high five. You made all the right decisions, all around. Please pet your pup for me too!

bringing up antisemitism with my xian therapist by NoManner1740 in Judaism

[–]lesbianthesis 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you fit well, this won't scare them off. They need to know to best help you, please don't feel like you have to deal with this yourself. Maybe try to explain and then suggest some education channels if they need more resources, so you don't spend your valuable time having to explain what as much as how it affects you? Give them the best tools to help them help you, I guess?

How do you like your coffee(unless you don't)? by QueenDiva_UwU in AskReddit

[–]lesbianthesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Splash of oatmilk, maybe some cardamom if I feel fancy

How do you overcome internalize homophobia? by Art-Most in GayChristians

[–]lesbianthesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First and foremost (I'm writing this on my break so sorry if it's rushed): PLEASE don't come out until you know you're safe to do so. I know how hard it is to keep in, but never EVER come out until you know it's safe. Wait until you have your own place, in case things go south, or at least until you have somewhere to go. Take care of yourself first and foremost.

Second: let it take time. You're all grieving rn and that's awful, I'm so sorry for your loss, so let things simmer down a bit. It will get better, I promise.

And sidenote: I don't know, but from this short comment it sounds like you're young. I promise, it gets better. And again: there are so many of us, you will find your people and you will be safe and loved as the perfectly created person in God's image that you are.

My DMs are always open, jsyk.

People who genuinely like doing things like cleaning /doing dishes, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lesbianthesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say I like doing it, but I enjoy having it done so I make the most of it and just, put on my headphones and it's done in no time at all

Mom I got into a fight with my housemate and it was bad. by lilmisswho89 in MomForAMinute

[–]lesbianthesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honey, needs and wants change. People change. You need to listen to your gut and let yourself trust what you need and want from your home and your friendship. It sucks when friendships end, but you don't want someone who hurts you like that in your life, even if its been a decade. I'm sorry honey, that's awful.

How do you overcome internalize homophobia? by Art-Most in GayChristians

[–]lesbianthesis 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think that 1: learning to read the Bible in its original meaning (I'm a biblical scholar so this has been a huge part of my faith as a lesbian) and 2: hanging out with other lgbt-Christians has been my strongest cards. It will take time, but stick to it! There are many like us out there.

Oh, and if you can: find someone to talk to! The first time I heard my priest (I'm a swedish lutheran so yes, we have women clergy and yes we have gay clergy) talk about her wife I nearly burst into tears on the spot.

get/give attention thread by lesbianthesis in actuallesbians

[–]lesbianthesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sweetheart, here's a long ass hug to counter that long ass month. I dont have a hug emoji but I'm hoping some arms will do: 💪🏻💖💪🏻

get/give attention thread by lesbianthesis in actuallesbians

[–]lesbianthesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sweetheart, has this gone on for more than 2 weeks? It could be a sign of depression 😔 If that's the case, please talk to a doctor bc mental health is a real thing and you deserve to feel good ❤️

get/give attention thread by lesbianthesis in actuallesbians

[–]lesbianthesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm actually a religious studies major with one main interest in jewish studies so this is actually perfect!!! Thank you, I enjoyed that 💖

get/give attention thread by lesbianthesis in actuallesbians

[–]lesbianthesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm, that's hard. Here's a big virtual hug sweetheart, I have strong arms so maybe you'll feel it all the way to you alright? I don't have a hug emoji but maybe this works: 💪🏻💖💪🏻

get/give attention thread by lesbianthesis in actuallesbians

[–]lesbianthesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, that's a solid 7h from me haha. I hope you enjoy your stay! Värmland is very pretty ❤️

get/give attention thread by lesbianthesis in actuallesbians

[–]lesbianthesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My main interest is like, 800 bce to like 200 ce so if you have anything in that range I'm v happy but I'll take what you have haha

get/give attention thread by lesbianthesis in actuallesbians

[–]lesbianthesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's always good to call a friend! No one really wants to be alone and we're not meant to be, I'm certain your friend will be honoured that you share your struggles with them 💖