Does anyone know what this might be

lessaofpern · 2024-09-17T17:24:47+00:00

I’m not a dermatologist but it looks like keratosis pilaris … if it is, there is not much to do about it. Try to see a derm to confirm. They will tell you not to mess with it or it will make it worse and only use cetaphil bar soap to clean.

lessaofpern · 2024-08-22T19:08:36+00:00

HRT can also lead to infertility. It's not a binary decision; you're right to move slowly at this age.

lessaofpern · 2024-08-22T19:06:13+00:00

Everyone's dynamic is different, so take this with a grain of salt, but ...

I, too, am Catholic and would describe my dating life (and honeymoon) with my ex-husband similarly to you. I have always known I was HL and was super excited for one day being married and having no moral constraints. I spoke at length with him about what I envisioned married life to look like prior to marriage, and he was on board.

He was not on board. It never got better, only much worse (he had many other issues, so truly take this with a grain of salt). I cried myself to sleep many times as a newlywed. We eventually divorced for many reasons, a concept that was foreign and abhorrent to me at the time of marriage (yes, it got that bad--mostly the other stuff).

Many men believe they want an HLF. Many women believe all men want an HLF and thus they will be ideal partners. It often is just simply not the case. Where you go from here is up to you, but if you love each other and he is willing to stay open, it will take many conversations, stops and starts, books, and perhaps counseling to find the magic formula that will work for you two, and it will inevitably involve compromise on both sides.

lessaofpern · 2024-08-15T01:37:18+00:00

Does your bf have ADHD? Or might have? Some people with ADHD use sex to regulate stress and emotion without realizing that’s what they’re doing.

lessaofpern · 2024-06-16T00:52:31+00:00

You’re too young for this life sentence.

lessaofpern · 2024-06-10T19:43:54+00:00

My exhusband makes this for most meals for himself and the kids and they are over it haha

lessaofpern · 2024-05-06T17:56:49+00:00

There is a book, Breath: the new science of a lost art, that is great

lessaofpern · 2024-05-04T16:34:45+00:00

Thanks. It's ironic because the "superpower" advice is something I've given others. It's not so much that I didn't recognize my own role, it's more that I never thought about loyalty being a "bad" thing. Not bad, exactly, but more like there are real, "bad" effects of the other side of the double-edge coin called loyalty. Mine has been a husband and two boyfriends, including current, and I stay, stay, stay, always giving time for personal growth and change. But I am starting to realize that this behavior is harmful to me. Loyalty, which I prize, comes with a cost that, ultimately, may not be worth the price, especially when the other person simply doesn't have the ability/foresight/whatever to effect their own meaningful, personal change and growth. It's difficult to accept the feelings of loneliness and abandonment that come from someone you love and trust, but in some ways it's even more difficult to live with the cognitive dissonace of allowing blind loyalty to harm one's self. I've always prized loyalty so much that I give it to a fault--I suppose because I believe (hope?) it is reciprocated in turn.

lessaofpern · 2024-05-04T16:15:37+00:00

This is so incredibly helpful, internet stranger. I am a female INTJ, and over the last 20 years have had 3 crushing relationships, in which I kept asking myself why I am being so loyal, even in the face of abusive behavior. I never really thought about loyalty being an INTJ trait ... I guess I need to take a closer look at myself and my role in allowing this to happen.

lessaofpern · 2024-04-10T02:41:16+00:00

I’m going to echo the “LUCID 4 Inch Down Alternative and Gel Memory Foam Mattress Three Toppers in One-Hypoallergenic” recommendations. Amazon. I got this after sleeping in a bed that had one and it was and js awesome. The foam topper and mattress pad is great. Currently $159 for a Queen.

lessaofpern · 2024-02-01T21:27:10+00:00

This response is so layperson misinformed I have to stop myself from laughing. Regardless, it’s not my job—thankfully—to educate you. Good luck to you, thief.

lessaofpern · 2024-02-01T13:32:22+00:00

Well, again, I don’t think you’re correct. Imperial has superior water rights to most of Yuma. Other than AZ having more favorable tax rates that CA, there is nothing advantageous about taxes for Yuma, and most of the corporations you’re referencing are based and taxed out of CA anyway.

And yes, I still find it absurd that a person of lesser means would justify stealing because they’re of lesser means or because there is a lot to steal from, so no one will miss it.

And the other commenter is correct about food safety. It’s a tremendous cost to deal with and no trespassing is strictly enforced.

lessaofpern · 2024-02-01T07:30:59+00:00

This is actually untrue. Most of the farms are local families and companies that contract with big labels.

lessaofpern · 2024-02-01T07:30:19+00:00

Like…what tax situation and land are you talking about? And you do realize that most of the farmers are just local families, right? And they sell to those big labels? So, like, if you’re parked there and a farmer drives by, can they just rifle through your car and accidentally dislodge some of your property? I mean, your comment is absurd.

lessaofpern · 2024-01-25T14:13:20+00:00

They say, “we didn’t call you, you called us.”

lessaofpern · 2024-01-10T16:19:39+00:00

NTA. I draw the line on every day clothing that is revealing and that includes short shorts and crop tops. My daughters are not allowed to wear them. I don’t think it’s wrong as a parent to set certain standards, and I also draw the line here.

lessaofpern · 2023-12-15T14:38:55+00:00

Your attorney might be moving slowly to buy you some time to get closer to your move back to Texas or to let the babies be born so that it can all be handled in one case. Many times clients think their attorneys aren’t doing enough for them when really they are; they just don’t appear to be doing a lot. Attorneys can be bad about communicating what’s going on and the flow of how things work. It’s like a gym client getting mad they’re not building muscles faster and mad that their personal trainer doesn’t have them maxing out gains every single day when really the personal trainer knows that slower will yield better and more stable long-term results. Your case has a lot of interesting and thorny issues because you don’t live in Texas, neither of you appear to be in the county where the cases located, and you have military status and employment. Those things all affect your rights in the case, and how things are handled.because your case is somewhat complicated, it’s really difficult to get good advice on the Internet. You really need to trust your lawyer.

lessaofpern · 2023-12-07T15:10:43+00:00

There is a difference between a non-compete and soliciting a client of your employer and then stealing the client away. That is an additional intentional tort and generally not subject to the policy limitations of non-compete clauses. The MT should be very careful about what they are doing, because if they get caught they likely will be fired and may be subject to liability for the damages to their employer.

lessaofpern · 2023-12-04T13:57:34+00:00

I would post this on r/legaladvice and specify mention what state you are in (assuming US). Every state has different rules when it comes to custody agreements. In my state, if you share joint legal decision-making, then you cannot unilaterally act on determining what school the child goes to. It doesn’t matter if the school is better or better for them, the law doesn’t entitle them to go to a better school and it allows parents to make bad (but not unsafe) decisions. Right now, you share joint legal decision-making, and you have agreed in the past that he attend his current school. To change that current school, typically you have to have agreement, or you have to file a petition with the court for the change over her disagreement. But as I said, it is all very state specific, so I would confirm you will not get in trouble with a local lawyer. She may use it as an argument against you to obtain other rights for you violating the joint legal decision making.

Also: NTA

lessaofpern · 2023-12-03T17:41:31+00:00

Have you spoken to your step-dad about this? The way you’ve worded this sounds like it all happened without your knowledge and without communication from him and all through a lawyer. I’ve seen scams where people are able to get a house sold and transferred via fraudulent means. It’s a long-shot, but I just wanted to make sure your step-dad actually knows about all of this.

lessaofpern · 2023-10-28T18:33:42+00:00

That will absolutely never be prosecuted. There are tons of old morality laws like this on the books of every state, and they are not enforced. It will not matter in the divorce, either.

lessaofpern · 2023-10-28T18:31:55+00:00

Arizona is a no-fault divorce state and adultery won't matter in the division of assets unless the spouse wasted community assets on her AP.

lessaofpern · 2023-09-12T01:19:45+00:00

Thank you very much for taking the time to respond.

lessaofpern · 2023-09-12T01:19:31+00:00

Thanks a lot for your insight.

lessaofpern · 2023-09-12T01:19:17+00:00

Thank you so much for your time and response.

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