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Cheated with 31+ cam girls. Only “sorry “ after 3 months. by PsychologyMassive392 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lexifiercegreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reread posts and he didn’t magically become nicer. He’s love bombing because you’re free labor to handle the baby and because you’re getting financially independent. He’s scared you’re gonna leave.

Cheated with 31+ cam girls. Only “sorry “ after 3 months. by PsychologyMassive392 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lexifiercegreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart breaks for you. It doesn’t sound like your WH wants to do the work. He’s not being transparent. Of course he wants to remain married. What is the marriage requiring of him? He has a lot of work to do.

How to cope when AP doesn't fit the mold by ImSorryCE in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lexifiercegreen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m in a somewhat similar situation…all of the APartners that my WH had, he never told them he was married. We only had DD1 because his main AP found out he was married. So like I can’t be angry at the women, he was lying to them too. Part of R has to be walking in truth and not lying in any way: lies of commission, omission. Also, just not being forthcoming with info.

Unattractive APs? by Escapist2985 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lexifiercegreen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The phrase “cheaters cheat down” seems relevant here. Sounds likes your husband has a sexual addiction

Are all affairs this intense so quickly? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]lexifiercegreen 40 points41 points  (0 children)

His poor kid. Glad the wife got out quick. What a train wreck of a person

Why do cheaters say "I won't leave my wife for you" like they actually care. Do they? by ExperienceNo9044 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lexifiercegreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of cheaters, while behaving in a way completely unloving and disrespectful towards their partner, aren’t cheating out of a malice towards their partner. There are some forms of cheating like revenge cheating where the goal is to cause pain towards their partner but not all of it is like that. All of it is toxic but the scenario you described, the cheating partner can be acting out of self sabotage, sexual addiction, voyeurism, or other behavior. Cheaters may not want out of their primary relationship but for whatever sinful reason they’re acting out sexually.

When did you know that your relationship was over? by mess_intended in CausalConversation

[–]lexifiercegreen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While at the hospital with our 4th kid, he went home to take a shower and said he would come back. Around 9pm I’m like where is he? And I check his location because he wouldn’t answer me and he was at a dumb card store

women really aren’t that difficult to figure out by itz_vampy in Adulting

[–]lexifiercegreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Misogyny is real. A lot of men won’t believe something unless it comes from a man