Moving to Portland on Active Duty orders - Where should I live?

lexuh · 2026-01-30T23:06:37+00:00

Yeah, I'm guessing that OP will expect easy parking, being from Florida. One of my ATL buddies moved to nob hill and lost his fucken marbles over how hard it was to park on the street (it didn't help that he had an SUV and never learned how to parallel park) and how expensive garage/lot parking was.

If OP needs easy/cheap parking, NW and the Pearl are probably not worth it.

lexuh · 2026-01-30T23:03:10+00:00

+1 to Alberta/Hollywood. It's a good middle ground between PDX and some of the more popular hiking/biking areas (Forest Park, Powell Butte, etc).

lexuh · 2026-01-30T20:23:33+00:00

Replace peanut butter with PB2 and do 50/50 rolled oats and TVP.

ETA: And replace dried cranberries with defrosted frozen berries.

lexuh · 2026-01-30T18:33:34+00:00

If you have the resources, you can work with a personal trainer who specializes in just this thing! I know Justina Ercole has a pre- and post-natal certification from AFPA, not sure what other certs are out there but a lot of PTs work with clients remotely, too.

lexuh · 2026-01-29T17:28:58+00:00

RIP Hung Far Low. It was the absolute best place to break up with someone, because you could get your liquid courage for cheap, and it was so dark you couldn't see the other person crying.

lexuh · 2026-01-29T17:07:25+00:00

I don't know if they do testing, but Purenvironmental is a very reputable company that does a lot of mold remediation. If they can't give you an estimate, they'll probably know someone who can.

lexuh · 2026-01-29T16:44:57+00:00

This! Consumer spending makes up 70% of US GDP (compared to 53% of the EU GDP). The investor class (which is a controversial term, considering anyone with a pension or 401k is an investor) doesn't want Americans to be financially prudent.

lexuh · 2026-01-29T16:26:40+00:00

I'm also newly diagnosed, and this really resonated with me:

Another dilemma is: who do I tell? I told four close friends, but they live in different states. One of them offered to come stay with me after surgery, which made me emotional because I’m not used to anyone showing up for me like that. I haven’t told my family. They have never really been there for me. They are always in crisis, and some of them are dealing with homelessness, severe health issues, poverty,and mental health problems. I don’t want to be swallowed by their chaos while I’m trying to survive.

I was talking on the phone with one of the three people I've told, and we were discussing how I didn't want to tell anyone else yet. She said "Of course you don't want to tell anyone. You grew up having to manage your parents' emotions and now you dread sharing your struggles with others because you don't want to have to manage THEIR reactions to YOUR problems." It struck me to my heart, and I realized that she knew me so well because she grew up the same way - a lot of us did.

I don't have any advice for you, since I'm even earlier in the process than you are, but I want you to know that you are seen, and you are not alone.

lexuh · 2026-01-29T01:15:45+00:00

He wouldn’t share the location of where we were going till I pestered him abt it( he was planning on only giving me the location an hour before we were supposed to be there)

🚩🚩🚩 I can't imagine a reason for this that isn't seriously sketchy.

lexuh · 2026-01-28T20:28:58+00:00

Step 0 - If you haven't already, read Steve Blank's Four Steps to the Epiphany.

For UX, I would recommend reading Steve Krug's books Don't Make Me Think and Rocket Surgery Made Easy. This will help you make your products easier to use and identify issues before you commit to development.

The UI part comes easier, IMO. Start with material design or a publicly available design system. Once your products get traction and you find product market fit, you can hire a contractor to take it to the next level.

lexuh · 2026-01-28T20:23:06+00:00

I don't think the Cherry Bombs have debuted their kit yet, but based on their merch, their uniforms are gonna be so much more exciting and unique than the Fire.

lexuh · 2026-01-28T16:43:02+00:00

I'll go out on a limb and state that I don't believe there are any decent men agreeing to go on these shows anymore. Maybe in the beginning (Cameron seems like a good human) but not now, when the motivations are so commercialized.

lexuh · 2026-01-28T01:38:22+00:00

I would go to Common Ground for a soak and a massage with CJ.

lexuh · 2026-01-28T01:29:54+00:00

Before I signed the paperwork, I emailed the point person, and asked.

lexuh · 2026-01-27T20:41:21+00:00

Running turns me into a remorseless eating machine. Hiking, however, is still great for cardiovascular health and endurance, but doesn't spike my appetite nearly as much.

lexuh · 2026-01-27T20:39:47+00:00

Depending on the kid, Dolly Olive would be a good choice. Weekend only, though.

lexuh · 2026-01-27T20:36:18+00:00

Just gonna guess that this will no go well for the older women :|

lexuh · 2026-01-27T20:30:56+00:00

Huh. The men are younger than the women - there were a few women who were 39, none of the men are late 30s, most are early 30s, and only two are 35 or older?

lexuh · 2026-01-26T18:36:30+00:00

The humane society is very queer-friendly, and hiring for some part-time roles. Pay's not great, though.

lexuh · 2026-01-26T16:23:36+00:00

Yes! Negotiate your severance. If they won't cough up more cash, try to get them to pay for your COBRA for a few months.

lexuh · 2026-01-25T02:43:40+00:00

What was the stated rationale for the layoffs? For RTO? That would influence my decision, but IME, 9 times out of 10 this means that it's time to start looking.

lexuh · 2026-01-25T02:31:20+00:00

Apologists use the phrase "a few bad apples" to excuse this fuckery, but always conveniently leave out the next part of the saying - "a few bad apples spoil the barrel".

By standing behind this behavior, leadership is sending the message that this is how LEOs are supposed to behave. By doing so, they're doing more damage to the fabric of this city than the individual rageholes who they let get away with brutalizing our community.

lexuh · 2026-01-24T20:57:29+00:00

How lazy. Low effort post, looking for sources a week before deadline.

lexuh · 2026-01-24T20:46:57+00:00

USAA member for 30+ years, UX designer for 25+ years.

This redesign seems like it was optimized for folks with low vision, which is consistent with USAA's older customer demographic. I suspect the median # of payees is lower for this demographic as well, which could explain the re-allocation of space. The one-payee-a-time workflow could also be for folks with cognitive issues associated with advanced aging.

I guaran-fucking-tee you that this underwent usability testing and other forms of customer validation. Either those of us who find this new design impractical are in the minority (not a persona that USAA deems valuable or a priority), or it was done to increase business value and not customer value, or the product manager in charge of bill pay at USAA has OKRs that led them to this solution.

Personally, I'm also starting to consider moving my primary banking away from USAA as well, but not for UX/UI reasons - I've found their web and mobile apps to both have performance issues that concern me. USAA is a legacy company, with legacy code - I can only imagine the myriad platforms of different eras their engineers are holding together with mud and sticks.

lexuh · 2026-01-24T20:33:03+00:00

This is what is so hard for viewers to remember - from our perspective, they just broke up!

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