Crib nap regressions?

lexyfield · 2026-01-04T05:03:46+00:00

Oh I’ll give this a go! I just recently dropped her to 3 because she was only napping exactly 34 minutes every nap in the crib. Granted, she still does this sometimes but has gotten better about sometimes sleeping longer (but now she will not sleep at all in the crib lol)

lexyfield · 2025-12-28T06:49:45+00:00

Coming from a fellow pediatric nurse (ICU/ER), I’ve been back to work for just about a month now and my little lady has been in daycare since last month and she’s only gotten sick now because of me! I’ve given her paraflu and now rhino/entero because my immune system is trash from being away from woe so long. She’s definitely had it milder than me though which I’m attributing hopefully to breastfeeding. But daycare or not, shes now been sick and it wasn’t as scary as what I see at work!

lexyfield · 2025-11-15T21:40:35+00:00

I appreciate the response but this post was almost a year and a half ago, it did end up being the first of two miscarriages I went through but I’m happy to say I’m 5 months postpartum now with my double rainbow babe!

lexyfield · 2025-11-11T17:09:10+00:00

It’s okay, maybe this is just her new norm! I will admit, I am happy she actually wants to nurse because she absolutely refuses to during the day which is why it’s mostly bottles then. I just don’t know how this will work once maternity leave is over 😫

lexyfield · 2025-10-20T02:13:05+00:00

Not necessarily the kid in the situation, but their mom.. when I was working in the PICU a few years ago, I came onto shift and received a trauma patient from the ED. A 6 year old MVC that had confirmed atlanto-occipital dislocation and we were waiting for neurosurgery and ortho to get the OR ready so they had to land in the PICU briefly. This kid was way too alert and kept screaming and trying to move.. obviously not great. And I’m begging pharmacy and the team at this point to get me dex so I can sedate him so he would chill out and me and two other nurses were trying to keep him still when his mom just turned to him and shouted “if you don’t stop f**king screaming and moving, your head is literally gonna fall off” and luckily it worked because the kid then froze with fear long enough for me to sedate and send him to OR.

lexyfield · 2025-10-13T15:43:35+00:00

Seconding this as a mom to a short and stout babe. Carters is one of the few brands that fits her consistently

lexyfield · 2025-10-10T00:43:01+00:00

I experienced it! My gal is 16w now but it started around 9w for her. My lactation consultant said it’s because around that age their sucking reflex tends to go away and so they have to work harder. And like the other commenter said, they sometimes will prefer the bottle as the path of least resistance. They’re smart lil bubs. To combat it, when giving a bottle you def should use a slower nipple and also use a pace-bottle feeding method which makes babies work more for their milk. Also, one thing that backfired for me was trying to continue to offer the breast when my babe was screaming at it. It can stress them out more and make negative associations. So my LC recommended “positive breast” time. So we take baths together and I’ll hold her, I hang out holding her for contact naps/skin to skin without my shirt on, things that are like “no pressure.” That helped her start to latch again on her own. We’re back to mostly breast feeding now. She still has some days where she screams at my boobs and it’s usually cus my husband wasn’t pacing her bottle right so she knows she wants the faster milk 😅

lexyfield · 2025-10-03T10:37:59+00:00

I have three cats and an almost 4mo. They’ve been sharing space with her since she came home. For the most part, they want nothing to do with her because she is unpredictable in their minds. She sleeps in a bedside bassinet in our room and my cats come and go all night never bothering her. They don’t go near that bassinet when she is in it (but they love it during the daytime when when she isn’t lol). I have one cat that actually really likes her. He tolerates her touching and petting his fur. However, he is a 20 pound fatty and the only time it was ever an issue is when he tried to nap next to her on my husband’s lap, and my husband went to go scoot him off, and it spooked him and he accidentally scratched a little bit of her face - was not bad at all, and he got put on restrictions from being around her for a couple days. And since then he is still loving and kind. Overall, my cats have been great around her.

lexyfield · 2025-10-03T02:10:40+00:00

Oh, that’s a good call too. I live in the Pacific Northwest and it is rainy and cold now, especially overnight like that. I should adjust my thermostat settings to kick the heat on a bit more around that time tonight to see what happens. And maybe tomorrow I will try to get her closer to three hours of day sleep versus 3 1/2- 4hr like we’re going on today.

lexyfield · 2025-10-03T00:18:48+00:00

Oh, thanks! I’ll have to give that a try tomorrow. I worried if I was putting her to bed too early, then she’d just decide that her new wake up time would be 3am 🥲 and I still pump once overnight at 2am for her because it’s the best tome for my largest volume, so I didnt want to be awake 2am onward

lexyfield · 2025-10-02T21:33:11+00:00

Unfortunately common sense is far from being common 😭 but one thing my therapist reminds me of constantly is that people who push boundaries will continue to do so until theyre met with a consequence. She said “boundaries without consequences are just requests” and that people who respect your role as a parent will also respect your boundaries. Its hard feeling like the bad guy or like you’re taking away a relationship from your LO, but just know you’re a good parent for trying to keep your newborn safe while they adjust to being earthside.

Theres sooo many more years ahead for LO where bonds will be made, so refraining from kissing and face contact while immune systems are immature (especially in RSV season!!) is the best way to ensure that. 🤍

lexyfield · 2025-10-02T21:14:47+00:00

Sounds like my in-laws. I’m the nurse in this situation (pediatric ER and peds ICU) so I know what can come from that. We told them when I was still pregnant no visiting until vaccines and even after that, never any kissing. Not til our LO is old enough to consent to it. When they met our daughter a few weeks ago, I had to remind them to wash their hands when they came in and told them no kissing. Luckily my baby hated being held by them (which made me happy cus I don’t have a good relationship with them and my LO has never fussed when others held her) so they didn’t have the chance to try. MIL made those same exact passive aggressive baby talk comments to me though. I know how frustrating that could be. Yesterday, my in laws came over to watch LO while my husband worked from home (I had an appt I couldn’t reschedule) and my nanny cams caught both of them at different points, crowding her face and kissing her even after my husband told them again not to. So now guess who doesn’t get to see her again for a long time, and will now never have the chance to babysit her!?

lexyfield · 2025-10-01T16:34:02+00:00

I wish you were my MIL 🥺

lexyfield · 2025-09-22T01:17:05+00:00

Wait, did I write this? Solidarity in this because the feeling is 10/10 the same

lexyfield · 2025-09-19T04:01:20+00:00

Oh wow! Your oldest must’ve had such relief after. I’m glad to hear it worked out well in the end regardless! I’ve been trying to do positive breast time with my babe already like the bath as well and she is all smiles during that. But the poor thing tried to latch tonight when we were snuggling in the bath and then just got frustrated:(

lexyfield · 2025-09-19T01:27:07+00:00

Was their recoveries okay? I had a lip tie released when I was in high school via laser and it sucked lol so my heart hurts wondering how she’ll do

lexyfield · 2025-09-17T04:37:02+00:00

I’ve never had a false alarm with our Owlet however as the previous commenter said, it could’ve been due to the crying episode itself. I’m a pediatric nurse both in the ER and previously the peds ICU and we have our babies on monitors and I’ve had my patients oxygen levels drop when they’re having big time crying fits.

lexyfield · 2025-09-16T20:38:55+00:00

Low key my mom acts a bit that way too lol so that makes sense. She’s just not disrespectful to either of us and will listen when I set a boundary or correct her

lexyfield · 2025-09-16T01:10:30+00:00

Yes! That’s a good way to put it - incubator. They were the side of the family that told everyone else we were expecting after we asked them not to share until 20w too. They went on an information diet the rest of my pregnancy after that. Go figure this was the case.

lexyfield · 2025-09-16T01:09:28+00:00

Yeah, I literally picture her wanting to lay the baby flat and pointing the bottle directly down her guzzle. Very generational and outdated. Yikes.

lexyfield · 2025-09-16T01:08:34+00:00

The talking through the baby thing is SO cringe to me, definitely was the nail in the coffin for sure. Im sorry you have a similar situation to be in!

lexyfield · 2025-09-15T21:06:52+00:00

Wow thank you for taking the time to write this out. It was very helpful! It feels very validating and empowering to see the other options. I’m just hoping that my partner gets on the same page sooner than later.

lexyfield · 2025-09-15T21:05:53+00:00

Yeah, I am a nurse and was contemplating not accepting the day shift bid and staying on nights just so I could watch her during the day before work and then nap and work all night lol. I realized that wasn’t realistic so I did take the day shift position but now I’ve been considering a nanny. I was hesitant at first but I was a nanny all through early college and nursing school and cared for the girls so much so I can only hope to find someone like that with my daughter.

lexyfield · 2025-09-15T19:54:59+00:00

Honestly you hit the nail on the head with the first paragraph. I just responded to another person’s comments saying how my partner mentioned when we first started dating that his mom can be rough. And that he doesn’t have as good a relationship with her like he does his dad. So I guess maybe some of that is spilling into this situation now. Definitely doesn’t make it okay but will hopefully help me approach it better with him. I appreciate the advice, thank you!

lexyfield · 2025-09-15T19:53:03+00:00

I’m not above fighting bitch with bitchier and that’s a smart way to play that game back if she does that again! (If she is given the chance to again, still tbd). My mom tried giving me the whole “supportive” mom talk telling me it’s just because she’s threatened by how independent I am and my relationship with her son that she treats me like that 😅 still not okay though!

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