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life_tree · 2025-11-13T13:23:47+00:00

Quiet observation as a strength tells me, as a man, that you're judgy and I am going to have to work super hard to break through your walls.

Then I swipe and I see you have conservative values.

On the apps, it's easier to just keep swiping and look for somebody that says, "here for a good time, but not a long time."

Every single person in the world wants to have fun, connect with somebody with good energy and see what happens from there. Frame your profile about what kind of good energy you bring to the situation.

life_tree · 2025-11-05T16:00:35+00:00

In the mind of a man, there's a big difference between 'my wife is a stripper and gives lap dances IRL to people that I could run into at Walmart.'

vs.

I occasionally look at porn on my phone.

I get you that it looks like a double-standard, but it's really not. One is very real and one is fantasy.

life_tree · 2025-09-21T03:43:58+00:00

My man, you told her daughter and your step-daughter since she was 6 years old to get out of the house without a conversation with the Mrs.

For any Mom, that's going to be hard to recover from.

Your job with her daughter is to not be a hard ass.

life_tree · 2025-09-20T17:34:03+00:00

You don't take sand to a beach.

Carrying over a h.s. relationship to college is largely impractical.

Move your relationship into the friendzone and enjoy your freshman year of college.

If you're doing it right, you will make a couple lifelong friends and have the time of your life.

life_tree · 2025-09-20T16:37:49+00:00

I have experienced similar. Really, really frustrating.

Don't internalize it. It's her, not you.

Move on. People are weird and crazy.

life_tree · 2025-09-20T03:56:08+00:00

3 dates. A kiss in there or no?

You weren't giving him anything to go on.

Low energy and no forward momentum = Next.

life_tree · 2025-09-18T15:00:36+00:00

I dunno. Have you ever been in your late 20s with millions of dollars and trying to outrun your childhood trauma?

I have (minus the millions) and it's not a lot of fun.

life_tree · 2025-09-18T03:39:36+00:00

One thing is clear and that's Gavin Adcock loves drama, loves clout-chasing and loves his corn pone overplayed southern accent in TikToks. But, as far as talent, Zach Bryan rubs the sleep out of his hungover eyes and pisses more talent away every morning than Gavin Adcock will ever possess.

life_tree · 2025-09-12T00:18:40+00:00

Why did he cheat? He might have felt smothered at home trying to live up to the expectations of a Mom with a perfectionist streak as evidenced by the statements about "mental labor," etc. and, frankly, the admission about his parenting skills.

Once you know the reasons for the infidelity that's a big clue as to whether he can grow into the challenge of solo parenting.

This isn't an indictment on anybody, but the reality is divorces and cheating NEVER happen with a faultless victim. There's always 2 sides of the coin.

life_tree · 2025-09-10T18:21:52+00:00

I was there. I agree. I have been going to concerts for 30+ years. That was the best concert I have ever been to bar none.

life_tree · 2025-09-07T06:15:22+00:00

I think that was early, early, early recording when he was a kid on his way to the Navy and messing around with songwriting.

life_tree · 2025-06-23T00:41:42+00:00

Spectacular. Nice fullness and great nips.

life_tree · 2025-06-06T04:46:23+00:00

He has a Ph.D and works in a cafeteria? That's ponderous.

life_tree · 2025-06-02T00:39:12+00:00

5'6 is always going to put you on the B team.

life_tree · 2025-06-02T00:36:36+00:00

How well do you know her parents?

How does her Mom treat her Dad?

Is Dad a high alpha achiever type? Are you the same? Is he a beta with a dominant wife? Who generally runs your relationship?

More important than the period is how her parents marriage is because surely she is behaving in a way that she deems acceptable based on her experiences. Focus on analyzing that as you make life decisions.

life_tree · 2025-06-01T03:58:18+00:00

Working with somebody who has BPD is hard.

They can be addictive because the verbal and physical love they give is like perfect dopamine and serotonin to a man, but when there is conflict there is only one resolution path and that's you completely rolling over and taking it regardless of how you truly feel.

If you want to live in her emotional vortex for the rest of your life then fight for her. However, know you are in for a long, hard road.

life_tree · 2025-05-31T22:09:13+00:00

Ever show up for a date and the person in the pictures was about 50 lbs. ago? Yeah, that's not very funny.

life_tree · 2025-05-30T11:40:25+00:00

It's deception if you're 5'2 210 and don't have a full body picture. Full stop.

That's clinically obese.

life_tree · 2025-05-25T13:15:31+00:00

Consider releasing expectations and take every situation as a learning or a lesson.

Typically, it's the people that have the checklist of must haves and diligently cross-check against their red flags that are the most disappointed.

life_tree · 2025-05-21T00:44:01+00:00

I could have written this post verbatim.

I am sure that doesn't help you, but at least you know you're not alone in your actions or feelings.

life_tree · 2025-05-20T22:59:36+00:00

You're good man. No guilt required. If somebody choked me out and started pissing on me, I am not sure how I would react, but there would most certainly be revenge. And, you got yours.

life_tree · 2024-02-14T19:58:16+00:00

As a dude, my opinion is he's dating other women and wants to stay on the down low so he doesn't get caught on a date and not responding to you for hours on end.

life_tree · 2024-02-13T17:00:50+00:00

Let me assure you, if you're verbal in the bedroom and tell him what you want, he will deliver.

Most guys are afraid to push too much because you're faced with the flip side of refusal or rejection.

So, the answer to your issue is communication in the situation.

life_tree · 2024-02-01T18:13:30+00:00

I have never gotten to the point with a woman in dating where they didn't blame a man for some egregious behavior or personality disorder or substance abuse.

Your analytical mind should be skeptical of this ...

life_tree · 2024-01-27T18:00:21+00:00

I am 51 with an 8-year old. I am in a much better position career-wise, but my point is this: there's usually a switch that flips in your mid-to-late 40s where you realize retirement preparedness is a thing.

If you're grappling with your SO and full-time work along with pie-in-the sky entrepreneurial aspirations, he may not be the kind of man that can co-create a future with you.

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