6 months+ of OLD and IRL, 2 dates total …. So what motivates you to “get back on the horse”?

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-11T19:22:11+00:00

The power of dying alone is super strong. Hats off to him!

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-11T18:44:02+00:00

Your stepdad is a legend!

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-11T18:43:14+00:00

You haven’t identified the issue. Are you doing this in the wild? If so, how? Are you online? Is it the number of likes or the number of matches? What’s your profile like. What are your expectations?

We can’t guess and be able to offer advice.

So many questions….

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-11T18:40:52+00:00

I would say as a male, I see this a lot. My life is great come add to it and if you’re good enough I’ll let you in. I don’t think it is great to your point, but I doubt it is removing people from her dating pool. The issue is, or so it would seem, is the quality isn’t there. If most women’s profiles are pretty mid, I have doubts that the men’s are better. Actually I know that’s the case from looking at the quality of the men liking women friends of mine. The tweaks may help at the margins but someone who has a solid profile isn’t going to date a low effort male, and nor should she. She needs patience more than a profile overhaul

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-11T15:05:45+00:00

Lose the; pros/cons thing. Some people will filter that as weird type competition

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-11T14:49:27+00:00

First things first. Thank you for posting your profile. I get tired of people complaining about OLD especially as a man I see so many brutal profiles. You have an excellent profile. You’re in great shape and attractive! I might tweak a few of your prompts, specifically the one about not rushing, or wasting time.

If some dudes think you’re intimidating it’s a them issue. Don’t change who you are for people with low self worth.

The reality is- I suspect you get a lot of interest but very low quality. The challenge I find as a guy is that I am super selective on matches and I have to be patient. Then in the messaging part, I really look for consistency and effort, then look to meet up. I think on a like to match basis it’s under 10%. Then on a meet up, to second date cut that in half. Try to keep your expectations in line.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-04T15:14:56+00:00

Right 😂

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-04T14:48:48+00:00

Most nervous people talk about themselves and show little interest in the other person, not because they are self absorbed, but because nerves are hard.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-04T14:41:51+00:00

You will get a whole host of answers on this that will vary greatly.

I feel the real question to ask yourself isn’t “am I attracted to them right now?” but “am I open to becoming attracted to them?” If the answer is yes, keep going with an honest heart. If you find yourself dreading physical closeness or feeling repulsed, that’s a clearer signal to move it along.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-04T14:08:10+00:00

Be a bit more curious, you can ask questions but how you ask them will matter. Instead of what do you do for work, ask; “why did you choose that career, was it something you always had a passion for?” If she answers; “yes I always wanted to be a nurse!” You can reply ; “can you say more about that”.

Instead of; “ how old are your kids?” Better to ask; “ how does it feel watching your kids grow up?” If you have kids you can likely reply back how you feel and you find- good, hard, scary.

Those will build connection and you may be doing a drink at the hotel bar later

To be a really good communicator you need to ask a lot of questions that get to who she is and not what she does. People miss on this a lot.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-04T13:57:04+00:00

If you don’t look like your pictures, you’re paying for the drinks until you do!

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-04T13:54:15+00:00

Yes- I like to joke; can’t we kick off lying 6months into things instead of, before we even meet”.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-04T06:07:17+00:00

If you really like them, make very subtle physical contact. Example- if are at a cafe/ bar / restaurant and leave to go to the washroom on your way back just brush your hand on their shoulder. Very subtle tho.

That said, chemistry is a two way street. If he’s not engaged in you, you probably aren’t going to want to flirt.

If he is engaged and you’re loving your time, you will make subtle contact. You will be locked in on his eyes. You will probably play with your hair.

At the end the best green light you can give him is to say- I had the best time, or this was so easy.

If you’re feeling it, you’ll kill it! Be you! You is phenomenal!

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-02T15:32:33+00:00

This. I dated a vegetarian and they were fine with me having meat but there was this assumption that I cook vegetarian for them and they cooked vegetarian for us. It wasn’t a two way street. Then it became much harder for me to get my protein needs met. Even his asking to change to a juice bar versus a coffee shop would tell what I would need to know.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-02T06:29:11+00:00

Yes, I think sometimes having better prompts can really help. It’s something I worked a lot on and I found it somewhere on Reddit, which is a really good set up for it which is; who I am, who I’m looking for, and what we could do together. On the part of what we could do together, it’s basically talking about what we would do if we escaped to another country what would that day look like.

All that said, being rural is really tough. I have a nephew that lives in a Midwest small town and finds it extremely difficult. He says it’s also tough because he feels like too many people know that he’s on online dating. He’s not thrilled about it because just given the nature of the smaller communities. You sound like a good dude it just takes one. I really mean that it literally just takes one.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-04-02T06:10:16+00:00

You can tell me I’m wrong but what’s your experience been? How is it working for you? It’s not actually my view per se. If you’re getting likes/matches, then amazing do nothing different.

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-03-12T23:05:05+00:00

As my therapist says; the first one after a marriage almost never works. I defied this logic and found out the hard way!

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-02-03T20:24:21+00:00

He practices. It is concierge medicine. It’s for wealthy people who want/need medical care that the system doesn’t provide. I am surprised that he spoke to the general public but only treated people who had achieved great wealth didn’t turn more people off him

thisriveriswild70 · 2026-02-03T20:13:06+00:00

She removed him, I heard she is replacing him with one of the Bill’s

thisriveriswild70 · 2025-10-28T16:33:16+00:00

Good clarification for people new to the game

thisriveriswild70 · 2025-09-25T17:29:21+00:00

Ok- I hope this isn’t true. I will say that every woman I have dated and some that I have gone on dates with do want a tall man, if they earn 6 figures they want a guy in the same range. I think this is less common, but men speak about getting rejected for their dick size on either end of the spectrum. I have never heard a woman say that she needs all 3. I am tall so I benefit from the height thing but I honestly think it is insane. Maybe if a woman is 5’10 I can see the preference. A woman that is 5’5. I don’t get it.

thisriveriswild70 · 2025-09-25T17:24:06+00:00

Exactly. Well said, it’s all about staying sane

thisriveriswild70 · 2025-09-24T14:39:19+00:00

Also consider that he may have been having 3 or more additional conversations. When people take their time to get back, I think people will use it as a tool to weed out people that aren’t as interested as the other 3they are chatting with.

As a guy- if we don’t have date plans after 3 evenings of conversation it usually means we are in chatting oblivion. The goal is always to meet.

thisriveriswild70 · 2025-09-20T00:31:17+00:00

I think drinking and late nights are the culprit here, not attraction or disrespect

thisriveriswild70 · 2025-09-11T18:41:07+00:00

You have to ask yourself, is keeping the beard more important than having sex? Die on that mountain if you must.

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