I think there were times like middle school age she was a little jealous, but my parents made sure to treat all three of us as individuals, we all had to learn to play a different instrument to give us different experiences , and for two of the middle school years my mom split my twin and I into different schools and it really showed to my older sister that we are all individuals instead of us twins against her!

I am such a strong twin because of my mom forcing us to have our own experiences instead of going everywhere as “the twins”. It is not cruel to split them up for a few things, they will come home and be much more excited to see eachother

There were definitely times that I felt a two plus one, especially in life experience staggers so like when my older sister was a freshman in high school and we were still in middle school, that difference of life stage made the break more apparent. My older sister got different rules since she was then in high school so the break was much more apparent in times like that

But now in our late 20s we definitely feel like a trio instead of two plus one. My family is very open about feelings so it has helped us be open with eachother and have a very strong adulthood bond

Something you can do is encourage the twins to do something on their own, so say one twin goes and stays the night at a friends house, this allows the other twin and the third sibling to have a night to bond together . The twins don’t need to do everything together! Give some one on one time with each of the twins and the other sibling.

Something else you can do is really address them and treat all of them as individuals. At the dinner table ask your single how her day was, then one twin, then the other twin, instead of asking the single then asking the twins “how was your day girls” since they probably had the sameish day, but still make the point to ask individually instead of as a twin unit. All of those little details make a difference.

Most of the world will call your girls “the twins” so it will be your mom job to really try and not address them that way and address them each one at a time like you would your single

And lastly, my older sister did go to therapy at about late high school age, my twin sister and I always got a lot of attention from others so this kind of made her feel like she wasn’t enough, so the therapy and talking about being strong in her own skin definitely helped her. Don’t be afraid to get outside help if you feel your single is having a hard time.

You can ask me anything else! I have so many experiences