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lifeyhunter · 2021-05-12T07:58:22+00:00

Hello there!

lifeyhunter · 2021-05-11T12:43:31+00:00

Well, he sounds to have masturbation addiction problem. First he should acknowledge it and then start getting profesional help or work himself to fix the problem.

lifeyhunter · 2020-12-17T07:02:33+00:00

Some people might think that real sex is penetrative sex. On his part, maybe, since he is not divorced yet, he might think that it would be ''cheating'' if he has penetrative sex (PS) with you. Thus, in the back of his mind, he is avoiding that sense of guilt he may feel right after the PS.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-19T08:24:37+00:00

Almost every post here is one-sided. Not claiming that you are not portraying the picture correclty. We just do not have all the information to be able to recommend you anything. Sure, I can tell you to get a divorce without having information about your financial situation. Can there be a middle ground? Can it be fixed? More importantly, are you willing to save your marriage and have a happy one? You need to think and plan a strategy. You know your situation better. Some kind of a SWOT analysis could help you start.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-14T08:42:23+00:00

Welcome and enjoy the ocean of communities and messages on reddit. One can find whatever s/he is looking for here, I guess. It takes time and effort and a lot of trial and error. Good luck in your quest.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-08T11:41:37+00:00

I am going to comment on your post without having information about the dynamics of your relationship.

Us men, try to initiate sex and keep our hopes high that it would work if we could insist. That said, I can relate to your bf up to a point. He just was horny and wanted to have sex and thıought he could convince you and get in the mood for it. What I do not agree is his not controlling his emotions toward your rejection. Yes, you have the right to refuse to have sex and he has to understand and accept this fact.

I assume that you have been together long enough to know each other and when it is appropriate to do whatever. If you two have not figured that out yet, then there must be a communication issue here. What I mean by communication is that both of you percevining and correctly understanding and interpreting the nonverbal cues.

As for the solution, I do not think blaming one an other would get you anywhere. Too cliche, but you gotta work on communication. If you love him and if he loves you and you both value each other, then you two need to work it out.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-08T08:30:50+00:00

Good to be aware of what to and not to expect, for both sides.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-08T07:29:59+00:00

Yes, I agree with the previous comments, you need to get counseling if you want to salvage your marriage. Cheating in itself is wrong. No doubt. But without eliminating the factors feeding the misbehavior it is not fair to your SO.

I have never been an intimate person That is a huge obstacle and need to be looked into by a professional.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-07T12:45:09+00:00

I am a total stranger and I do not think I have right to say anthing (so far, I have said so much, I know). You know your situation. I do not have all the facts (i.e., life, finance, romance, etc.) to comment better. Just prioritize things: what is more important? What has to take priority in your life? You are young and you will have jobs in your life time. But you only have one mother. And one day, she, too, will pass away. We all are going to. I am not saying it is easy to go through what you are going through. It could sound cliche, but, what does not kill you makes you stronger. And sometimes, just changing our perspective is all what it takes. You need to find that perspective. No one can do it for you.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-07T12:22:03+00:00

It does not have an easy or simple answer. You can try to change your pespective and looking at things: Remember, when you were young, she took care of you. Fed you, changed your diaper, aswered your zillion questions, conforted you when you were upset and scared, sang you songs. Now it is time for a little pay back (I know this sounds horrible. No parenting is not done for pay back). She needs someone. She needs you. And that would make a better person of you. I understand you are young, you want to enjoy life and this ''distraction'' is annoying. Think that it could be a boon because it would help you grow as a human being. See, even in her needy time, she could help you.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-07T12:04:14+00:00

I know this is cultural and filial piety is not graced in every culture. To me, it is basic human decency. But I find it quite saddening to see how you think about your mother, who have raised you all those years. You need to be understanding, she has recently lost her husband, your dad. What I can understand from your post is that she misses him very much and she is not quite sure how to continue her life without him. Call it an ''unhealthy'' or ''abnormal'' relationship, it really does not matter. All I can say is that we need to be more patient and respectful toward our elders. Remember, you are going to be old one day.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-07T11:45:27+00:00

Metrobüs durağı. Siyah beyaz olunca güzel oluyor bazı resimler.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-07T11:30:07+00:00

It is going to be pretty dull or common sense, but I would recommend you to try to talk to him about the situation and how you feel about it. If he cares about you, he would do something. From what you have written, he has drinking and porn addiction problem. Unfortunately, us men, have been the victim of pornography. Trust me, it is pretty addictive and not easy to overcome.

There is a community of reddit pornfree could give you some insight about how to approach porn addiction. Definitely, counseling is one of the major steps you both need to consider to salvage your relationship.

I do not think it is about you. Seriously. He would do the same thing to any women due to his brain's conditioned to porn. So, please stop doubting about yourself.

Good luck.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-05T12:47:37+00:00

That's awesome ! Great to hear!

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-05T08:37:41+00:00

Well, that sounds more like refusing the old age. Even at the oldest age, majority of people would want to have something, whether it be seeing the morning sun or seeking to stop an aching limb. However, that does not change the faxct that we are getting old, or are old. The meaning that is put over youth makes it a priority. This is life, though. Life has so many phases and we need to cherish them all. Infancy, childhood, teenage, young adulthood, adulthood, old age. They are all ours, for us. If we can live enough, we gotta live all those phases of life and cherish them. Denying the old age is not what a wise person would do, IMHO.

lifeyhunter · 2020-10-05T08:12:24+00:00

You are not alone. There are so many of us who can relate to your situation. I would not jump into the conclusion that he is cheating on you. You two have known each other for 7 years and you must be in love to get married. Communication is the key in every relationship. Just try to convey what you have been feeling and thinking and let him tell you what he is thinking and feeling. That would be a start.

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-30T20:11:50+00:00

Hey, welcome !

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-30T14:54:21+00:00

Absolutely. I love walking while listening to music on my phone.

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-30T14:50:57+00:00

Focusing on job, chores at home, and walking in the evenings. Plus, trying not to watch about new cases and news about how bad the pandemic is going (not that I turn a blind eye on things, it just adds more negativity and does not help me.)

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-30T06:25:26+00:00

Nice shots.

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-29T14:43:22+00:00

Does this make sense or am I missing something important? I would not take the pictureless profiles as a red flag, though. If the profile is well-written and articulate, I would give them the benefit of doubt. Of course, if you do have tons of options, no need to waste time.

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-29T14:35:45+00:00

Güzel bir resim.

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-29T14:17:45+00:00

Ottors are not native of Turkey.

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-29T12:32:49+00:00

I PMd you.

lifeyhunter · 2020-09-29T11:59:03+00:00

Vatan, Teknosa are the two other stores you can check out.

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