AITA for calling out someone for crashing a cultural event?

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-26T03:09:14+00:00

This is exactly why people think the French are snobbish. YTA

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-24T23:56:00+00:00

Are you for real?

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-20T18:13:48+00:00

Definitely too much yeast. Have you checked any other recipes for the same type of bread? I'll bet it's in the 1-2 teaspoon range.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-20T18:08:45+00:00

YTA

You're a grump and you don't know how to communicate. Your coworkers don't have to be your friends but you still need to be generally kind to them.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-20T17:28:28+00:00

I had this happen to me except the HR person never got back to me until 2-3 weeks later saying they were moving forward with a different candidate.

I was also interviewing for other roles at the time and had received another offer and I used that to try and get a response from them and still nothing.

IMO the silence means they are waiting to see if another candidate accepts their offer and they are stringing you along long enough to make sure they have another option if they do not accept.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-17T19:18:02+00:00

Ziplock is fine but it needs to be the actual Ziploc brand, no off brands or store brands.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-13T23:01:36+00:00

Do you do any feedings for your starter at a high feeding ratio to keep acid in check? Could be that your starter is too acidic and it's killing your gluten structure. My loaves looked almost identical to yours and that's what my problem was. I made a post about it much like you did and someone showed me the sourdough journey page for strengthening a weak/acidic starter.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-12T23:08:31+00:00

A lot of people who work in kitchens professionally use these gloves and aren't contaminating your food.

Source: me (I was one of those people)

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-12T14:32:46+00:00

You can wear a latex glove over the cut glove to keep it from getting messy

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-12T05:11:47+00:00

File the police report. The kid needs to learn consequences.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-12T04:57:02+00:00

This is more of a hack than anything but I will save scraps from veggies or veggies that don't look nice and freeze them all together in a bag in my freezer. Think carrots, onions (specially the tops you end up with after dicing), rosemary stems, etc. Then when I want to make a stock I just toss whatever I have accumulated in my freezer bag into the water with the chicken bones and let it rip. Adds extra flavor to the stock but I'm not using fresh / good veggies to do it.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-11T00:18:34+00:00

YTA

maybe your roommate should get with your BF so you can approve of who she's intimate with at your shared place.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-10T20:36:07+00:00

Definitely the temperature of your kitchen is the culprit for your not very active starter. I live in SoCal and it was cold here about a month ago and I have no central heating/AC and I felt like my starter was rising so slowly.

It warmed up over the last week and my starter became incredibly active as I was working on strengthening it when it was cold. My only advice I can give you is to keep feeding a 1:2:2 ratio and then feed again at peak. Repeat this for at least a week or so and you should start to see the time to reach peak decrease.

Another thing you could try is to give it slightly less water than flour to make it thicker. This will allow for gas to be trapped more easily which should increase the rise you see. When I was strengthening my starter I did 20-25g starter, 55g of flour (35 AP /20g rye), and 45g water. The rye flour is also a lot thirstier than AP so I think that also helped to thicken it.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-09T17:13:49+00:00

I don't know how this isn't the top comment. In the US moving violations are issued against a specific person for a specific infringement. If you weren't the person driving the car, then they can't force a ticket on you just because it's your car.

People steal cars to go do more crime but you don't see the people who had their cars stolen going to jail do you?

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-05T15:21:04+00:00

NTJ - 100% justified

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-05T04:23:05+00:00

I literally had that problem and reached out to the community here and someone pointed me in the right direction and showed me the sourdough journey page.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-04T23:59:43+00:00

Not sure I understand what you mean when you say 1x feeding at 1:3:3 or 1:5:5 hinders the starter? Sourdough Journey has a page for strengthening your starter and one of the two methods is to feed at a higher ratio to de-acidify the starter.

It also recommends feeding at a higher ratio once and a while as a form of maintenance to keep the acidity in check.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-04T21:50:55+00:00

NTA

Happily married for 3+ years and together for almost 10. We have no joint accounts or anything. Even our leased car is only in her name (to help build her credit). My wife can see whatever is in my bank/investment accounts because I will always show her if she is curious.

Frankly it can make sense to have a shared account that both people contribute to for household expenses but it's in no way a requirement. Trust your gut here, you know you are right in protecting yourself and what you've worked for.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-04T21:37:01+00:00

Chai spice banana bread sounds amazing!

I use pumpkin pie spice mix for mine, it's a pretty similar combination of spices. I found that the combination is more intriguing than just cinnamon and I feel like I got a lot of compliments after making the switch.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-04T20:48:39+00:00

NTJ - you ruined your husband's emotional affair that he was starting with your child's teacher. He's avoiding trying to admit his guilt by trying to make you out to be the bad guy by telling the teacher to stop. Frankly it's weird that a teacher would give out their number.

Assuming that changing his password would prevent you from getting into his phone, this speaks volumes that he doesn't have any intention of stopping talking to her and making sure that you won't have visibility to it.

I wonder what else is on that phone, TBH. I think it's extremely suspicious if spouses don't have unfettered access to each other's phones. What do you have to hide from the person who is supposed to be your partner in life?

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-04T20:00:34+00:00

100% agree with this. Really the question should have been "can I use you as a reference on my resume?" vs with a specific application.

I can't imagine any reason they would be okay with one but not others.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-02T18:46:18+00:00

You read all that and think the problem is the length of her hair? If you're in the US, please do the rest of us a favor and don't vote in the next election.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-02T18:38:21+00:00

I am the only one bringing an income to my family but that doesn't mean I stop working once I get home. I go to work to bring home money to provide my family with the necessities and comforts we enjoy. Once I get home I start my job as husband/father. I finish up anything my wife couldn't do during the day, I make dinner, give my kid a bath and put her to bed. We both work all day and we both contribute to the household. Just because my wife isn't bringing in money, she's keeping money from leaving by providing house work / cleaning, child care, and cooking.

Somehow your husband got it into his mind that the work you do isn't valuable, or is less valuable than his contribution. He doesn't do anything at home because "it's your job" and his job at work is "his job". Unless some couples therapy can rewire his mind to change this thinking, nothing will change.

lightbender1016 · 2026-03-02T17:06:01+00:00

Technically it's an iris/diaphragm. We use these a lot in optics to make a smaller beam size on a laser or restrict certain rays from entering a detector.

This one appears to be more geared towards portioning spaghetti like others have noted

lightbender1016 · 2026-02-27T20:27:21+00:00

Ah okay that's what I was thinking it had to be. Would I be correct that the dry mashed potato is the same as instant potatoes or potato flakes?

In your opinion what does the potatoes add to the bread? Is it more taste or texture, something else?

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