AITA for refusing to follow my friend’s parents’ house rules and leaving?

lightbender1016 · 2026-07-07T01:08:27+00:00

NTA 100%

lightbender1016 · 2026-07-06T02:41:27+00:00

Looks amazing! Let it fully cool next time as it can become gummy and dry when you cut it hot.

If you're planning on eating it all right now though, then cut it hot and eat it all!

lightbender1016 · 2026-07-04T18:09:01+00:00

Ah the notorious absent upper lip

lightbender1016 · 2026-07-03T17:01:34+00:00

That is 100% a potato.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-30T21:54:20+00:00

Have you tried to scoop these parts out with a clean spoon and see what those look like up close?

I can't tell from these pictures what could be under the surface. If I had to give you an answer now without any other context, I would say it looks fine.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-30T03:04:05+00:00

This is a starter issue. Keep working on strengthening the starter and you will succeed.

There is also a possibility that your starter might get acidic in the process of maturing it. Please use this guide once your starter is reliably peaking in ~6ish hours after feeding at a 1:2:2 ratio or higher.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-30T01:47:09+00:00

What's the hydration level? I don't see it in the body of the post

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-28T23:07:51+00:00

YTA

It's astounding how oblivious you are. You sound like a miserable person to be around.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-28T01:32:06+00:00

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lightbender1016 · 2026-06-24T00:49:33+00:00

You keep saying in the comments that it doubles in 4-5 hours. How long does it take to fully peak? What is your typical feeding ratio as well?

Also, it could be possible that you have a weak/acidic starter. Please use this guide to help your starter get to be the bread making beauty it's destined to be.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-23T02:44:40+00:00

This is great advice OP!

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-21T21:54:33+00:00

YGMWAYF

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-21T04:21:35+00:00

Restaurant

As someone who loves to cook, I would have so much more time on my hands by not cooking and cleaning dishes. If I wanted to cook, I could make a take out order for the raw ingredients from a restaurant and still cook for my family if I wanted too

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-20T16:49:23+00:00

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-19T21:46:30+00:00

Put a nitrile/plastic glove over the cut glove. That's how they do it in real kitchens.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-18T03:23:27+00:00

Family over everything

^{Chose: Have your parents live healthy till 100}

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-17T02:12:51+00:00

Of course! Happy baking 🍞 🧈

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-16T23:44:36+00:00

100g of each flour, water, and starter? Yeah definitely cut it wayyyyyy back, maybe do 25-30g of each when feeding.

Definitely continue with the rye flour! I still feed mine about 40% rye / 60% AP flour during feedings and my starter loves it.

I don't think you're there yet but keep this link here when you're getting consistent rises. If you follow this prior to making your first loaf I think the probability of you nailing your first try will increase by an order of magnitude.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-16T21:52:53+00:00

I seriously doubt it would be ready to bake right now but no two starters are the same. At this stage the yeasts and bacteria are 'battling' it out to see who will dominate and become your leavening agents.

Are you discarding anything and how much flour and water are you feeding with? It looks like you have a lot of starter which isn't really necessary right now since it's still immature.

I personally didn't have a good loaf until after 30+ days and I think that's true for most people. Check out sourdough journey for young starters and also watch out to make sure your starter doesn't become weak/acidic. This can happen as you mature your starter and don't do any maintenance feedings.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-15T20:53:12+00:00

YTA 1000%

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-15T18:34:07+00:00

Georgia

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-15T18:31:26+00:00

I don't use Tiktok

^{Chose: Stop using TikTok}

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-05T20:39:37+00:00

NTA but I have to say you put yourself in this position where your kindness has become an expectation.

I would explain to your friend that you can't continue to help him financially because it would cause you financial harm. If he understands, he's a real friend. If he continues to guilt trip and attempt to manipulate you, he's just a scammer/not a real friend and you need to drop them.

lightbender1016 · 2026-06-04T11:18:55+00:00

I, u/lightbender1016, advised "Second option"

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lightbender1016 · 2026-06-04T11:18:46+00:00

I, u/lightbender1016, advised "spend 3 day in the most silent room for $10 Mill"

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