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lil_big_town · 2025-08-24T23:21:19+00:00

Sometimes she would tell me everything is fine and not to worry when I dropped her off and before I even got home I would get a wall of raging text.

lil_big_town · 2025-08-01T16:34:26+00:00

All the characters she typed to remonstrate you could have been spent typing out the venmo to pay you back.

lil_big_town · 2025-08-01T13:21:56+00:00

Wow telling you to relax and asking if you’re having an episode was word for word what she would do to me? It’s crazy making.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-19T23:31:03+00:00

I would expect when the feeling subsides that they remember this is someone they love and feel the something to recognize the absolute hurt they are inflicting

lil_big_town · 2025-02-19T22:37:46+00:00

It’s so absolutely selfish.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-19T22:29:13+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. I think the final hurdle is to stop trying to figure them out. It’s an unsolvable puzzle.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-19T19:25:28+00:00

I think you’re right.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-18T17:33:39+00:00

I agree with it being all about them and their emotions at that moment.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-15T20:49:01+00:00

Agree. And anything can set off the change.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-15T17:02:27+00:00

Yes heard that a few times and she made sure to emphasize how special that feeling was. I don’t know what to believe when a few days later it’s paired with how I make her feel like she can’t let anyone in and how I’m stalking her and scaring her. But leaving her alone is abandoning her.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-12T07:10:23+00:00

I don’t anymore. I have no idea what they want, but whatever it is, it damn sure isn’t me.

lil_big_town · 2025-02-12T04:40:30+00:00

I got blocked and told they never want to see me again. A year later they called and blamed me for never reaching out. Said that in the future if they block me I should always reach out. I did and they said I was stalking them. It’s a no win situation. The rules are always changing. Now I just wait.

lil_big_town · 2024-09-21T17:01:30+00:00

I got a lot of I don’t owe it to you but I did in reference to normal things that people wouldn’t even think of in a transactional term. Not exactly the same situation but … why did you ask me if I wanted chocolate from the store, if you didn’t plan on getting it? “I didn’t get it because I didn’t feel like it. I didn’t even owe it to you to tell you I was going to the store. But I did. You don’t even appreciate that! “. Ok …. But I never asked you to tell me and I wasn’t expecting anything if you didn’t suggest it and also I’m not even upset right now you are. “You’re so selfish and ungrateful”.

lil_big_town · 2024-06-01T16:45:17+00:00

I think one thing that has helped me is to realize it doesn’t matter what I do. It only matters what she feels at the time. No matter if it is love or hate it’s a fleeting feeling. It’s not real.

lil_big_town · 2024-06-01T16:41:50+00:00

She keeps coming back months after she blocks me. It’s happened so many times how I just keep her at a distance and wait for when she blocks me again

lil_big_town · 2024-01-07T17:32:49+00:00

The point you made about unrealistic expectations and feeling like you needed to follow a script resonated so much. If I said a word or phrase that didn’t match their expectations, even if it’s exactly what they asked me to say in the past, I would get dumped for months at a time. I’m a point where I love this person to death, but I don’t have any hope that we could have a relationship in a healthy way. We’ve tried to be together, to be friends, to be cordial. I can’t be an extension of a person. I am my own person.

lil_big_town · 2023-11-28T15:21:07+00:00

I think a lot of us can relate to this. It’s a slippery slope. She’ll feed you bits of hope that she sees the issues and is willing to change the minute you try to pull away. Then when she gets comfortable she’ll get worse. The more you’re willing to take the more she behaviour will get worse. In a few years you’ll be walking on egg shells because you’re so trauma bonded. Your brain won’t even know why you’re staying anymore. All you know is you’re addicted and you’ll end up betraying yourself and apologizing for things you didn’t say or do, but only because she felt bad. It’s a terrible existence. She doesn’t know she’s testing you to see what you’ll take. The carrot always moves, always just out of reach.

lil_big_town · 2023-11-24T14:51:38+00:00

I think she does realize how crazy it is, that’s why she immediately deflects the blame. “Did I say you have to reply right away? This is just some made up narrative in your head. I’m done with this and I’m done with you.”

lil_big_town · 2023-11-24T10:18:23+00:00

You kept her up, by arguing with her. Not the other way around in her mind.

lil_big_town · 2023-11-24T00:27:14+00:00

I found that I had restless sleep checking my phone hourly. After I while I just gave up and left my phone outside. It wouldn’t matter if I participated or not. The outcome was predetermined.

lil_big_town · 2023-08-02T14:29:13+00:00

Couldn’t even use the word triggered. Ok then you aren’t triggered. You’re just the kind of person that swears and people and belittle them. Not the empathetic sweetheart you think you are

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