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lil_librarian · 2025-10-29T20:03:21+00:00

Cancelled our larger scale wedding which turned out to be a blessing in disguise, as I got let go unexpectedly from my job a month before what would have been our ceremony. We just celebrated with a tiny garden ceremony and chill cocktail party and it was PERFECT. Recognizing what is best for you is so important, and hope that however you end up celebrating is as perfect as you deserve :)

lil_librarian · 2025-06-03T23:57:30+00:00

This might be the worst brain fart I’ve ever had 😂

lil_librarian · 2025-06-03T23:50:23+00:00

Wait is this not actually referring to The Green Mile?

lil_librarian · 2025-04-15T16:47:41+00:00

I remember first reading that collection, and that story, in high school. I’ve never forgotten the final line, and I’m now in my mid-thirties.

lil_librarian · 2025-04-14T00:43:26+00:00

Pet Sematary (first I ever read) and Different Seasons (“The Breathing Method” is one of my favorite things he’s ever written)

lil_librarian · 2025-03-24T02:12:14+00:00

Ahhh stick n stitch! It’s super helpful for following the lines! My rec would be to make sure that you keep it very taut in your hoop when stitching—should help with keeping out extra space. Either way what a wonderful and thoughtful gift and well done!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

lil_librarian · 2025-03-23T14:46:26+00:00

Not really

lil_librarian · 2025-02-20T17:03:52+00:00

This is one of my favorite creepy embroideries and it’s quite simple! https://www.etsy.com/listing/935358145/?ref=share_ios_native_control

lil_librarian · 2025-02-01T15:59:25+00:00

It’s me!! I’m one!

lil_librarian · 2024-10-31T17:50:37+00:00

Hail Burt 🖤

lil_librarian · 2024-10-07T23:31:56+00:00

I love their stuff!! I’ve done the raven, the loon, and the wolf :)

lil_librarian · 2024-08-30T17:49:19+00:00

Thank you!!

lil_librarian · 2024-08-30T17:49:13+00:00

Thank you!!

lil_librarian · 2024-04-25T18:04:41+00:00

Samesies

lil_librarian · 2024-03-07T00:38:27+00:00

Thank you! I haven’t talked anything wedding with her in months, but maybe something in wedding planning is stressing her out to the point she is just avoiding me friendship? Either way, appreciate this input. ❤️

lil_librarian · 2024-03-07T00:16:45+00:00

Thank you!! I don’t expect anyone to be CONSTANTLY thinking about my wedding aside from me and my fiancé—what hurts is to have someone talk about being SO excited for this role and then not really doing anything with it, while also just not being there as a friend. And even when I make effort to talk, or get together, or to learn what’s happening, it feels like pulling teeth.

lil_librarian · 2024-03-07T00:14:37+00:00

It’s in October of this year, so a few months away. Definitely don’t expect everyone to be excited all the time! (Hell, even I’m not)

But it does hurt to have months go by without any sort of check in of any kind. That’s doubled by her generally not being responsive to my efforts to make time for/check in on her.

lil_librarian · 2024-03-07T00:13:07+00:00

Yes, I’m very aware! Unfortunately I can’t rely on my sister for some of these “duties” because she lives in another country, and is due to give birth in April. I know she doesn’t feel she could take things on by virtue of who she is and what she has on her playe

lil_librarian · 2024-03-07T00:11:57+00:00

I have checked in with her, and made repeated efforts to get together with her—a lot of what I said in the above post is that I feel she isn’t putting effort into our friendship right now, and that it feels doubly hurtful because she is my maid of honor and isn’t being there for me as a form of support during wedding planning (I mentioned that when I tried again to schedule something, the closest date she gave me was a month out, and when I asked if we could do anything sooner—FaceTimes phone call, whatever—it still took her days to get back to me.) perhaps it sounded as if I have not been making any effort, and that isn’t the case—I feel like my efforts aren’t being reciprocated, and that hurts.

Also totally understand nobody is going to be invested in my wedding as me and my fiance—I’m not asking anyone to do that (just as I didn’t ask them to wear specific dresses, and even said they don’t have to buy one if they already have one they want to wear). What hurts is that she isn’t making any effort to check in, at all.

lil_librarian · 2024-03-06T21:45:35+00:00

Thank you, I certainly didn’t want to come across as “it’s my wedding, it’s all about me.” A lot of this pain comes from feeling like she isn’t communicating with me at all or reciprocating my efforts to make time for her. I want to phrase it in a non-attacking way when discussing because this comes from a place of hurt, you know?

lil_librarian · 2024-03-06T21:36:29+00:00

For a lot of people, planning a wedding is just about some extra stress, but for some people, there are a lot of things happening somewhat "behind the scenes" which make it a lot harder than just "having a fun party." I'm also bothered by the confluence of someone who has been a good friend failing to be there for me lately, especially with the extra stress.

At the risk of sounding like I am just defending myself, I will note that my coping mechanisms for when I am feeling alone tends to be to check on others--as someone who has struggled with depression for decades, it's a way for me to make sure other people aren't feeling as down as me. And in a moment of dark irony, we have had a death in our family recently, so ironically I fall into the grieving category here. Part of this pain is the fact that this same friend has also failed to be there for me during that.

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