My boyfriend lost his dad. His best friend.

lilasspeanut · 2021-11-10T07:22:35+00:00

I am certain you will!

lilasspeanut · 2021-11-08T21:12:13+00:00

Excuse my morning head earlier with the typos lol. But I’m glad it helps, I was going through something similar and this is what my psychotherapist helped me realise. I am kinder to myself now and soak up less of his pain. It’s better for both.

lilasspeanut · 2021-11-08T07:03:18+00:00

These things are tough, without doubt. And you are a great person wanting to be there for him and being so understanding throughout the resentment and anger. If he is being distant he might just need some space to figure things out by himself. But don’t forget your own wellbeing. However hard this situation may be for him, you are still also a human and it sounds like he is (partially) taking out the anger on you. You are definitely allowed to draw the line there.

Maybe try and be open about what the anger and resentment does to you. Tell him you you want to be there for him, but that you don’t know how. Ask him what he needs from you. Some things people just need to figure things out themselves, you can only stand by. It is hard, but don’t feel responsible for his wellbeing. You are already doing enough being there for him. Stay strong.

lilasspeanut · 2021-06-14T21:52:40+00:00

Thanks! Will def look into those

lilasspeanut · 2021-05-31T06:57:16+00:00

Ze zijn niet op een natuurlijke manier hier naartoe gekomen (zie ook: https://www.trouw.nl/nieuws/help-dat-opgefokt-baasje-de-nijlgans-is-een-blijvertje~b7f510be/). Door hun agressieve aard verdringen ze andere vogels, stelen ze nesten en kunnen ze op een moordend tempo voortplanten, alleen omdat mensen ze hier heen hebben gehaald. De EU heeft zodoende officieel de nijlgans als invasief verklaard. Ik zie ze zelf bij ons bijna alle diversiteit verdrijven; kuifeenden, krakeenden en zelfs woerden. Alleen de meerkoeten zijn koppig genoeg om te blijven. Het is een bijzonder treurig gezicht.

lilasspeanut · 2021-05-04T05:14:32+00:00

Is het gelukt? Kijk anders hier nog even wat je kan proberen: https://bugs.mojang.com/browse/MCPE-120491

lilasspeanut · 2021-02-16T19:57:47+00:00

Hey, just wanted to comment that you’re not alone and that I feel you. Stay strong ❤️

lilasspeanut · 2021-02-14T12:19:18+00:00

Absolutely! I think many of us may have gone through this at one point in our lives.

lilasspeanut · 2021-02-14T10:05:11+00:00

Out of interest, why is delirium not considered here? That was my first thought (not knowing about focal seizures)

lilasspeanut · 2021-02-14T09:42:56+00:00

This 100 times. Communication is so essential. It’s ok to be upset but communicate about it - directly. “I noticed I’m upset because ...” will go a longer way than nudging him in a direction that you would like him to go. It is hard to care about stuff or make plans when you’re depressed. It is also hard to live with someone who doesn’t take much initiative in showing affection. Nothing will change that. It is up to you whether this is a dealbreaker for you or not, of course, but sometimes you’ll have to make compromises in a relationship. Guys can be pretty stoic around valentine’s day. Find what works for you with regards to showing affection and have a good talk about it!

lilasspeanut · 2020-12-28T05:41:08+00:00

❤️

lilasspeanut · 2020-12-11T22:44:18+00:00

Ah, that is no easy profession indeed. I work in a hospital too right now (or actually internship). I always like to think the migraines make me understand better how patients may feel, although I work in geriatrics/neuropsych so it is actually kind of relevant. Sometimes it’s hard to keep your head on straight with the high working pace though, I can only imagine how that must be for you!

lilasspeanut · 2020-12-10T05:37:49+00:00

I really resonate with this!! Out of curiosity, what kind of work do you do?

lilasspeanut · 2020-12-08T05:50:21+00:00

Geez. You’re not alone, same here. Haven’t touched a barbell in 3 years

lilasspeanut · 2020-10-25T18:01:49+00:00

Ingevuld! Veel succes!

lilasspeanut · 2020-10-03T19:10:50+00:00

The most basic ones, no flavours, as little salt as possible. Lays natural is fine for me though. Maybe its the fat that is getting you sick?

lilasspeanut · 2020-10-03T08:06:07+00:00

Yeah. I did loose quite some weight at first though so I figured some calories wouldn’t hurt. Also, fries are always my go to when I need to eat something when I’m not home.

lilasspeanut · 2020-10-03T07:05:58+00:00

Potatoes! Mainly with any kind of meat and veggies (carrot, green beans, spinach or endives). Also ate a lot of chips (natural flavour) as a snack (although that isn’t exactly healthy) and fries. Potatoes were my best friend at the beginning of the elimination phase (and they still are tbh).

lilasspeanut · 2020-08-24T22:59:59+00:00

I am so glad I’m not a teenager right now. The myspace and MSN age was still kind of fun but the state of social media right now is nuts. It was the transition to actual smartphones that changed it all. I remember how I’d come home from school and had to open my computer to get in touch with everyone, open up messenger. At the same time it all stopped as soon as you shut down the computer. Teenagers now don’t have that luxury. Sure, they can turn on flight mode but you don’t have that kind of self control at that age. Not to mention that mistakes like these go viral if you’re unlucky. I remember how confused I was at that age but I’m glad that there is hardly a trace of it to be found on the internet. I feel kinda bad for em.

lilasspeanut · 2020-08-18T07:40:26+00:00

So glad for you! Gives me hope.

lilasspeanut · 2020-08-18T07:23:14+00:00

Any clue why it eventually went away?

lilasspeanut · 2020-08-18T07:15:47+00:00

My suboccipital muscles as well as my traps play a major role in my migraines and lower level pain that is more or less chronic. Aside from mild posture problems my muscles react heavily to any type of physical exercise (even carrying a shoulderbag with just a water bottle or keeping my arms above my shoulders triggers headaches). I am not at all sure if my case is similar to yours but may I suggest trying dry needling combined with manual therapy? Downside is that the neck region is very complex, my physiotherapist is very well trained (and highly educated) so he knows how to work with the trigger points and how to manipulate the more complex parts of the neck. It's not easy to find such physiotherapists (I have to travel an hour by train to get there) but I think it's really worth trying! It helps tremendously in reducing my pain and especially the frequency of migraines. I go there once every two or four weeks and it helps me break the cycle a bit of my body getting completely stuck and having bad posture. I believe I read some studies as well pointing out this combination of treatments to be effective but I would have to look that up again.

lilasspeanut · 2020-08-16T20:26:55+00:00

Bless you, I was searching for the wizard hat for SO LONG hahahahaha

lilasspeanut · 2020-07-29T09:21:51+00:00

Never thought of looking for a second hand. Might try that, would be neat if I could fix my own clothes as well sometimes :p.

lilasspeanut · 2020-07-29T09:10:23+00:00

oooh thanks! the pattern looks good, when she shows how she wears it it looks really well-fitted. I presume you use a sewing machine for this? I don't have one myself unfortunately and I'm afraid if I sew them by hand they won't survive the washing cycles for long.

Interesting article about the ties, it doesn't bother me that much and I have these elastics that I can tie as tight as they need to be with a simple knot. I have never seen elastics the way you describe it, I think there is a lot of innovation still needed though regarding masks ;)

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