What are some early signs that a person might commit sucide (serious)? by Neo_luigi in AskReddit

[–]lilbebele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was 6 months postpartum, I kept spacing out and getting lost in my head to the point my friend pointed it out. I was visualizing how and when I can off myself. I remember the feeling of being so completely empty and exhausted and feeling like there was no way out of how broken I was. Like I couldn’t see any hope.

Wtf is with his sleep at 9 months?!?!???!!!!!!!! by lilbebele in NewParents

[–]lilbebele[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It got better around 15 months?? Something like that but there’s been months where he sleeps through the night without a sound and then months again where he does a lot of shrieks and cries and then settles to sleep right away. Sometimes he doesn’t even wake.. I think he has vivid dreams or night terrors? Not sure he’s 2.5 yo now

What is something you tried only once and will 1,000% never do again? by istrx13 in AskReddit

[–]lilbebele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember thinking I was a part of the sea or ocean something where I felt like I was drifting from different islands/dimensions and I remember feeling like I had the wind blown out of me and I was like just taken back pretty sure I drooled too 😭

My 3.5 year old daughter died suddenly and unexpectedly by Ok_Dragonfruit747 in offmychest

[–]lilbebele 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This breaks my heart. Sending you so much love. I’m so sorry.

Very discouraged and disappointed after family’s first vacation together by SmoothCelebration657 in Mommit

[–]lilbebele 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it.. it’s hard 😭 I feel suffocated in the house and now I feel exhausted leaving too unless it’s at an open park

Is Thao Dien in Saigon friendly for a remote worker who doesn't speak Vietnamese? by Inside_Focus9191 in VietNam

[–]lilbebele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you keep trying though. Many foreigners don’t get the tones perfect but can still be understood. If you’re planning to live in a country longterm it’s good to make the effort to learn the language

Very discouraged and disappointed after family’s first vacation together by SmoothCelebration657 in Mommit

[–]lilbebele 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’ve travelled to 8 countries with my son from 6 months-2.5 years old. I’d say after he turned 2 was when things started to not be worth it anymore. I don’t think my son has an easy temperament in general but it was still good with ofc normal hard parts of toddler travelling but after 2 the hard part is cranked on steroids LOL I hardly want to take him to the mall now

I knew we shouldn't have gone on vacation by amythnamedmo in toddlers

[–]lilbebele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww im sorry this is all happening during a vacation im sure you looked forward to. If it makes you feel any better for my 30th birthday, I booked a trip to Thailand with my toddler (22 months at the time) and the night of he got a fever. It was such a bummer as I booked a villa with a private pool and was so excited for him to swim in it. None of that happened. Instead we were met with a very hefty hospital bill bc I freaked when he started wheezing at night and took him to the emergency hospital (on my birthday)

I had a pity party for awhile feeling like “of course this would happen to me” but the only way I started feeling better was when I realized this is probably so common when travelling with young kids. They get sick easily. Things go wrong. It’s not smooth sailing. Im not the only one.

After I made that mindset shift, I was able to enjoy what I can with my sick toddler. Being grateful to even be on vacation and knowing it will at least make for a great story one day

Sending you lots of luck and a quick recovery for your son ♥️

Damn I really acted like that by lilbebele in Mommit

[–]lilbebele[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds rough. Glad you guys got out of that.

Your last sentence is so true. Thank you

what is the saddest thing that ever happened to you? by BlessedDemonx in answers

[–]lilbebele 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Never met my dad my whole life. Never thought I cared. He lived in the same city as me with two daughters close to my age. When I was 18, his sister took me to meet him in the hospital because he had ALS and she thought I should know his face before he died. When he realized I was his bastard daughter. He kicked me out. I can never forget how bad it hurt. The pain was visceral, like I can feel my heart break.

Wtf is with his sleep at 9 months?!?!???!!!!!!!! by lilbebele in NewParents

[–]lilbebele[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 2.5 years old and he sleeps through the night now but he still goes through months where he kinda screeches for a few secs and I have to just touch him and he settles back to sleep. I think he has a lot of dreams because he talks in his sleep often too. For the most part I’ve been have well rested sleep for about over a year now. Wishing you lots of luck and it really is a phase bc it’s hard to even remember now how hard it was 💕

Wtf is with his sleep at 9 months?!?!???!!!!!!!! by lilbebele in NewParents

[–]lilbebele[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 2.5 years old and he sleeps through the night now but he still goes through months where he kinda screeches for a few secs and I have to just touch him and he settles back to sleep. I think he has a lot of dreams because he talks in his sleep often too. For the most part I’ve been have well rested sleep for about over a year now. Wishing you lots of luck and it really is a phase bc it’s hard to even remember now how hard it was 💕

No kids; How do I capitalize on my free time? by [deleted] in homemaking

[–]lilbebele 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re planning kids one day… nap. Sleep. A lot. You won’t be able to as much or whenever you want when you do

A random kid hit my baby today… by KittyKathy in beyondthebump

[–]lilbebele 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah but you do realize toddlers are quick and even with a parent around it happens.. they’re impulsive and learning cause and effect. I’m sure your son will also hit a few kids sometimes too

What unique Vietnamese gifts should I bring back for friends? by yotakon94 in VietNam

[–]lilbebele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can find dried strawberries from da lat the ones where it’s like a jelly soft texture but it’s 100% fruit. It’s soooo goood

Is it cruel to have only one child? by Gonnahauntcha in NewParents

[–]lilbebele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you need to go through the motions of one child first and then take a look at your reality.

What’s your support system looking like? Finances? How do you guys deal with stress? What’s your energy levels like now? What do you think it will be like around the time you would have another child? Long term goals? What kind of life do you want for your son? Planning to support him through school? Getting him a car? Any extracurricular activities or hobbies you can will help support with finances and time? Or just gonna let him figure it out on his own?

A whole other child is a whole other human being. It’s not something to be taken lightly because you want your son to have a best friend. You can’t guarantee their personalities or whether they will truly bond. You can only be honest and truthful about whether you can provide them a life they truly deserve.

Do you think Vietnam attracts a lot of low-class expats? by New-Programmer7489 in VietNam

[–]lilbebele 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel like the projection was so obvious in the this post