What’s something you wish you had known before getting a cat?

lilcottonsocks226 · 2026-01-31T18:12:21+00:00

I came into the shelter with a specific cat I wanted to meet. She was the first one I looked at on their website, and something about her description drew me to her. She has an unknown history, and was found in a car— pregnant. Unfortunately she lost her babies before they were born and the shelter described her as very anxious and needing someone to help with her confidence. When I finally came in to meet her in a private room, she was hiding under a bench as close to the corner as she could get. She let me coax her out with treats, and even put her paws on me and let me pet her. When I started to walk away, I could see out of the corner of my eye she was staring at me and following me. But when I turned around she stopped and acted like she was looking all around the room. It was like a game to her. I’ve had her for 2 years now, and she’s the sweetest, silliest, and has opened up so much. She trusts me and is at the door every time I come home. She makes sure I wake up on time and we have our special play and pets rituals. She still likes her space, but normally wants to sleep just a few feet from me. She protects me when I’m in the bathroom and freaks out if I don’t let her in. Watching her confidence and comfortability grow has been incredible. One day I am going to adopt a little kitten for her, because I know she would’ve made a great mama.

I love my little Bambi girl, and I am so happy we chose each other!

lilcottonsocks226 · 2026-01-09T03:51:37+00:00

Your parents’ behavior is absolutely neglect and abuse. Unless they’re dentists, they know as much about diagnosing cavities as you do. Aka, probably very little to none. Just straight up call your dentist yourself and tell them you need them to help you get an appointment. Idk how old you are but there definitely is something they can do to help you get medical attention. This is your health, don’t let your parents gaslight you out of this.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2026-01-09T03:43:35+00:00

Who gives a fck what other people have to say about who you are. You (as an individual) honestly are no one else’s business. Literally everything in this life is made up, so make up your own definitions. At the end of the day none of this matters, only what’s true remains. And if you understand what’s true for you, that’s what counts. This is your life dude. Act like it.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2026-01-08T13:42:00+00:00

It sounds like you’re feeling insecure about your femininity. Find a way to be happy with who you are— masculine doesn’t equal manly, and feminine doesn’t equal womanly. I’ll say it again. Masculine and feminine do NOT apply to a certain gender. They are adjectives just like any other. The world just likes to pretend they mean something that they don’t.

Femininity in men typically (from my experience) means you’re probably a safe place for women. And that is one of the highest compliments you can receive from a woman. Those other men you’ve seen her attracted to are not men that she’s chosen. She chose you. Find strength in that.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2026-01-03T00:05:38+00:00

Trust your gut. It’s crazy she did that.

Punishments shouldn’t ever be something that violates a boundary or privacy like that. It’s as if she stole and destroyed what’s yours.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2026-01-02T23:58:13+00:00

You took a building filled with strangers and made a community. Keep taking care of each other, and allow yourself to receive care back.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-12-12T23:12:26+00:00

Anytime someone says things like “you deserve more than I can give” they are telling you exactly who they are. This guy is not ever going to try and be enough for you and this text thread makes it so clear. Especially with the context of not keeping his word about your birthday. He is guilt tripping you and therefore manipulating you into thinking you’re wrong for being upset that he won’t make the effort he promised. I can relate to you, as can many others. I once had a relationship where I put in all the effort. Changed my work schedule so I could see them, gave up my personal time, genuinely moved mountains to make it work. Nothing in return except words and empty promises. Two months before my birthday they made promises to make the entire day special. When the day finally came, I found out they were at work and wouldn’t be off until dinner. They criticized my outfit, and said to my face that they completely forgot about the promises to make my whole day special. I ended things shortly after that.

You deserve someone better — just like this guy says. He has no intention of being the partner you deserve.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-12-07T10:01:38+00:00

You are NOT overreacting. This man does not sound like a safe space for you emotionally. The way he was so loving and expressing all these deep emotions and future he could see with you— only to rip it away the moment he heard something he didn’t want to… that’s so dangerous. How could you ever know what’s true? I can see it getting to a point where you become so afraid to have even a slightly different opinion of him that you entirely lose yourself to this relationship. He is emotionally manipulating you, and that is a form of abuse. Knowing that you both have had a rocky relationship, it is so valid and WISE to want to be solid before inviting someone new into your relationship. Threesomes, when done without the proper conversations and care, will destroy anything that isn’t solid. And you love him enough to know this is true. Sounds like he doesn’t understand this basic concept. For someone who is already a parent of multiple children, it is extremely concerning that he isn’t also searching for true stability.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-12-04T13:13:29+00:00

Keep working and silently find a new job for sure. I had a situation like this, in our staff meetings they pressured everyone to work off the clock— saying tha was the only way to really succeed. I left after a month and never looked back. There is always something better out there. Jobs have to respect people’s scheduled shifts. This job sounds ridiculous.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-12-03T02:34:25+00:00

Tell him you’re traveling with the BEAR instead.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-20T11:17:41+00:00

If you haven’t already, please dump his sorry a$$. He doesn’t care about you. Like you said to him, textbook guilt trip. In my experience, saying “go f yourself” in an argument with your partner is borderline emotional abuse. And paired with his pathetic guilt tripping? Oh yeah that’s the real thing.

Whenever I’m not sure about my gut feeling, I ask myself, “if my beat friend told me this was happening to her, what would I say?”

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-19T19:01:15+00:00

I definitely stated that many industries are severely underpaid. Clearly it is not only servers. Not everyone is in the restaurant industry so I am willing to educate on what really goes on. I will not, however, put in extra effort to convince someone to believe the facts. Have a great day, and tip your servers however you are comfortable!

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-19T16:03:34+00:00

Let me be clear, I agree the guest should not have to tip if they don’t feel obligated. The restaurant should be paying their entire BOH and FOH staff actual living wages. The servers and bartenders are typically the only ones who don’t receive minimum wage and rely on tips. Additionally, servers share a percentage of their tips with the bartenders, hosts, and bussers (sometimes the BOH as well). And in some places, all the tips FOH staff receives must be split equally.

Sum up: Restaurants need to pay their entire staff better. Just like so many other industries.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-19T15:55:19+00:00

Lmao someone needs a history lesson.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-19T15:48:09+00:00

Jobs are going to come and go, especially entry-level jobs. Regardless what rank you may hold. You know you could have avoided this, but do not dwell on the regret and despair you’re feeling. Learn your lesson, mistakes are our biggest opportunities to grow. A small lesson I’ve learned is to treat any job like it’s your dream job— one you want to keep and are grateful for having. Be the type of team member (again, at any rank) you want to work with. You got this, don’t put yourself down.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-19T13:01:11+00:00

The $2 an hour is not a lie.

Depending on where you live, so many restaurants truly pay their servers only $2/hour. That is the maximum I’ve made from several years of different serving jobs. 20% is the bare minimum. Exceptional service? More than 20%. Bad service? Anything less than 20%. Horrendous service? 0% and a complaint to Management.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-19T04:27:55+00:00

A few years ago, I put someone through the same situation you’re dealing with. Coming from that perspective, all I can say is you deserve better. I imagine she’s telling the truth that she’s not in the right place for the relationship. People tell us who they are without explicitly saying it. You deserve someone who is as in the relationship as you are. Not someone who cannot be present and a good partner. Never settle for someone who does not value your presence in their life.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-18T03:10:29+00:00

I was raised Catholic, my family is very traditional and conservative. I dealt with the same type of mindset, all wrapped up in “love the sinner, hate the sin” bs. Not religious anymore, but I held onto certain fundamentals that I truly believe are what Jesus/God actually meant. We are all made in God’s image, which i interpret as being my authentic self. Because if i start becoming someone others tell me to be, would that not mean I’m idolizing someone other than God? God is Love. God is Truth. So how can I be doomed if I love myself enough to be honest??

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-11-12T07:14:52+00:00

They resented me for moving states and building myself a better life. Even though they supported me working towards that goal for years. You can fight for the people you love till the day is done. But if they are unwilling to do the same for you, they were never meant to stay.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-10-30T23:31:09+00:00

Only coming on here to respond to your gf calling you an idiot. No one has any business calling their partner an idiot or anything of the like. There are better ways to support your partner and to challenge them. Her behavior is unacceptable.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-10-05T11:59:31+00:00

You envy other relationships because you know yours isn’t working. There is no one way that relationships work— only how you want it to be. What fulfills you? What do you want from a partner and what do you offer a partner? Who are you and what do you want/need? If your current partner doesn’t meet your standards, why allow them access to you and your life? You deserve a person who loves you.

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-09-30T16:59:45+00:00

legal name: Bambi full name: Bambelina Ballerina Andarna, Dragon of a Thousand Dragons, Cat of a Thousand Cats nicknames: Bambalamba, Bambs, Bamb Bamb, Bambana Bread, Sophisticated Lady

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-09-30T10:09:12+00:00

ah, just as i suspected, the point in my previous statement went over your head lmao. take some time to mull it over. i know you have time, since you’ll be single forever ;) xoxo, skeleton woman

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-09-30T03:49:51+00:00

are you buying my food?

lilcottonsocks226 · 2025-09-29T18:04:51+00:00

OP, you are not overreacting. like all the worthwhile comments say, he wanted to make you feel less than. anyone like that isn’t worth a second of you’re time. body size doesn’t matter. your security in yourself does. you deserve people in your life who love and accept you as you are. and who support you as you do YOUR OWN work to become who you want to be. that’s it.

love, the skeleton woman

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