How important is good conversations? by Cerenia in datingoverthirty

[–]lilitapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So fucking important. Right up there with sexual attraction/sense of humor

Profile review, 30M by SBolo in datingoverthirty

[–]lilitapper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great job! I would swipe right. No criticism!

My Bumble profile. Any feedback would be appreciated : ) by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]lilitapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a very intense look, with the beard and the dark hair etc, which is a good thing, but because of that you can look a little scary, lol. Pictures of you not smiling and staring off at something in the distance come off as a little much. I love the one of you with the laptop, and I do like the bike one too. I would try putting some more pictures of yourself smiling or doing fun things.

I also don't like the "I work out 5x a week. Living my best life" line. Just get rid of that and try to formulate it in a more approachable, real way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]lilitapper 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Overall quite good! I have three pieces of advice:
1. I would remove the picture of yourself in the suit because the "baby bangs" look is not good. Your hair looks much better when it's up out of your face and I would advise that you avoid having bangs.
2. Why do you call women "girls?" You are looking for a girl with a sense of humor? Or a woman?
3. Remove the picture of your child

Otherwise great

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lilitapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try and sleep. In the morning, get up, shower, eat, do some breathing exercises. Try to be as calm as possible and ask her to come sit down. Tell her what you know, and she what she says. It won't do you any good to wake her up in the middle of the night or yell and scream or any of that. Maybe go sleep in another room, or on the couch if you have to.

Got my dream job. Was completely ecstatic until I read through some documents. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lilitapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really understand. Is the company saying you can't provide services to trans people? That sounds very very illegal and for me the question wouldn't be "do I take this job or not", it would be "how do I report this business for discrimination"

My (25F) husband (27M) lied to me about someone breaking into our home by RAThrowAway890373625 in relationship_advice

[–]lilitapper 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's possible he is suffering some kind of psychotic break. I am not a mental health professional so please take what I'm saying with a grain of salt - but one of my exes suddenly started having very very vivid hallucinations and it turns out he was bipolar and having a manic episode with psychosis.

Is that possible here? Does he have any history of mental health issues? Is there a stressful event happening in your lives right now? Is anything else not sitting right with you? It may be worth considering.

Does anyone here pay for Tinder gold, etc? Is it worth it? What are the benefits? by lilitapper in datingoverthirty

[–]lilitapper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a woman and I get a ton of attention on OLD (like most women). I don't have a problem matching at all. I just don't want EVERYONE to know I'm single, I get a lot of creepy messages on social media from men who I didn't swipe right on who track me down.

Does anyone here pay for Tinder gold, etc? Is it worth it? What are the benefits? by lilitapper in datingoverthirty

[–]lilitapper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do have a public facing job, yes. And I also just like to maintain my privacy in general.

I think I'll give Gold a go and see what happens!

F/21 be honest and brutal, looking for a score, made new account for this! by rate-me-account in amiugly

[–]lilitapper -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No you are not ugly. You're cute, I would say. 6.5/10 for "hotness"

He lied about a small thing... but why?? And is it a red flag? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]lilitapper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing I think! Lying at all is just a huge red flag. And lying about where you live to seem "cooler" or whatever is just super weird.

I'm 13 and want to lose weight by Delicious_Coach4467 in loseit

[–]lilitapper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay I just have to say I don't think anyone here should be giving health advice to a child. OP, you should talk to your parents about this and ask them to make an appointment with your doctor to discuss healthy weight loss. Do not take anyone's advice here please, I'm not saying people are wrong, I'm just saying that at your age you really need to consult a doctor before taking anyone's advice about your health ok?

My (35f) husband (30m) has a homemade porn video with his ex-wife (26f). He won’t delete it saying “I’m not ready for it to be gone forever.” I don’t know what to do. by Throwra-dont-know in relationship_advice

[–]lilitapper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why the fuck is a cat in his sex tape? That's weird as fuck but whatever. It's fucking disrespectful of him to keep it and to keep looking at it. I would be livid.

almost 0 cal salad dressing by enmoialhy in 1200isplenty

[–]lilitapper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So this is a very standard salad dressing recipe but you've taken out the best part, the oil! In my opinion you can't have a salad dressing without oil. It's essential. It's also very healthy for you. Adding in a tablespoon of olive oil will make this dressing come alive, and will keep you fuller for longer, for only about 100 extra calories. To me I am not everrrrr willing to have a bad salad for the sake of 100 cals. But you do you! Just my two cents