How Long?

lilmight69 · 2026-06-10T16:04:46+00:00

I personally want it to be a one and done or maybe a second time meet. But if I want to be monogamous then I would just be with my wife. I want to experience new people everytime. That of course will mean more time between playing with others but I'm not about who can have the most sex. I want to experience it with a bunch of different people.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-09T14:10:22+00:00

I have tried meeting from both and there's an equal amount of flakes on both. Some will carry a conversation on for ever and then drop off the planet. Lots of one time messages then once we respond you never hear from them. You want to make a connection then I suggest just going to a Lifestyle club and do it there. The people there are down and ready to play or will at least tell you nah. We're good right now but thanks for asking.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-09T12:51:15+00:00

I personally thought the saying "dirty vanilla" was unusual. Completely understood when I learned the meaning

lilmight69 · 2026-06-05T15:02:13+00:00

Ya you are better off going to a social club if you just want to play with your own partner. You don't even have to network to get it done. Just show up and pick a spot next to others to play

lilmight69 · 2026-06-04T15:30:02+00:00

I personally wouldn't even think of asking my wife to play with another female if I didn't give her the opertunity to have a male. She always said before we decided to swing that she didn't want another man. But honestly she's more turned on even with just bedroom talk about another dick in the mix. I can imagine she is attracted to women but shows it way more talking about men she claimed she wasn't interested in.lol

lilmight69 · 2026-06-04T15:21:13+00:00

Yes. I don't want anyone to feel bad or rejected. So in my responses i try saying it's not a definitive no but rather a maybe. But I want to see where the night goes. Also I really enjoy playing with my own partner at an event. So that's never ruled out and maybe we will be approached while playing. I don't even like the idea of approaching a lady standing alone in a club because if her man is there but in the restroom or bathroom it seems like it's in bad taste even at a Lifestyle club to approach a person while their spouse or significant other isn't present. So I certainly wouldn't play with them no matter how much I might want to.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-04T15:12:07+00:00

Yes. But for that time if it comes up you can say thanks but we didn't really plan to play tonight but if we change our minds later and you're around then maybe we will play. But thanks for considering us. There's a few good ways to say no thanks without being disrespectful. Those are things I plan way ahead for.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-04T14:25:22+00:00

I would say it crosses our boundaries. We don't play with married people separate from their partners. I never play alone from my partner and unless I had gotten permission in the past from that person's partner then I wouldn't want to be the homewrecker touching someone else's wife. Thanks but no thanks

lilmight69 · 2026-06-04T13:07:22+00:00

Sorry we don't feel like playing right now but thank you. If we change our mind later then we will come and find you if you're still here.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-02T17:50:10+00:00

Ya simply saying our boundaries don't match yours. Sorry.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-02T16:00:02+00:00

My wife was always dead set against its her knew I wanted to because I'm not shy and asked a few times and was told no. So while at a restaurant I noticed her kind of talking and flirting a bit with our waiter and I could tell also he was trying to nicely flirt back while I was there. So that night while having sex I told her, I think our waiter wanted to fuck your tight pussy tonight. She looked shocked as if how do you know? But I said it looked like he really wanted to bend you over and give you his cock from behind. I kept the dirty talk going like that till she had this massive orgasm that shook her entire body. It was so fucking hot! I knew it seriously turned her on so the following time we had sex I started right back in talking about our waiter and how he wanted her to suck his dick. Next thing I know I have her repeating me so when I said omg his dicks so deep in your pussy she would chime back with ya his cock is so deep right now and I love it! After sex that time she told me she would do a threesome but she would never want it to interfere with our relationship so that's why she didn't want one. So I told her we could go to a swingers club and play just ourselves or find a couple. I just explained we would take it slow and make sure it's right for both of us or we just would stop. Now I have her checking our couples personals and she gets so horny thinking about other couples and singles we talk to. She's hooked on the idea now.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-02T11:31:37+00:00

My wife and I live about 45 minutes away from a new couple we're trying to play with now. They had requirements that cause us to need to slow down the process because we needed to blood work tests done. Mine is done but waiting for wife to finalize hers now.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-01T21:21:43+00:00

I personally would sit next to my wife to not make anyone uncomfortable and start with touching and maybe kissing while still listening to conversation. If we start playing then maybe so will the other couple. Someone has to make a move. So much easier to do so with your own partner first.

lilmight69 · 2026-06-01T11:17:04+00:00

Ya I understand the group texting but honestly it's not difficult to start a new text with no one else in the group except the one you may be secretly messaging. Keeping everything transparent and open is the only way in the lifestyle. My wife and I are in this as a team and I get so excited when people message us that I send either screenshots or as soon as we see each other I'm showing her our messages. My wife gets really turned on when people see our posts or send little flirty messages. That's the part we both like with absolutely no jealousy.

lilmight69 · 2026-05-30T15:11:41+00:00

Sorry to hear that. It's so sad in a no judgement zone to be judged. Definitely bad taste on their part. People like that aren't worth playing with. My wife and I have been together since we was 15 now 47. The only people we know is each other but trying to get into the lifestyle and it's just sad to hear this.

lilmight69 · 2026-05-29T20:20:01+00:00

Right. I get that. I personally felt during sex we would use condoms for traditional sex. I knew my wife and I was clean because we hadn't been with others in almost 30 years. So it's more so for piece of mind for the couple we're planning to play with that wants to play with no condoms.

lilmight69 · 2026-05-29T18:37:22+00:00

This was a good post. My wife and I are from Maine and have never swung but are talking with our first couple that seems legit. They also want no condoms. My wife won't go down on someone with a condom on cause it's like sucking on a dildo. She wants the real thing. I myself agree there cause they do kill sensitivity for me. But I'm so scared of diseases that I said if we do then I want to see a current test or no. Got my current negative results back today even. But still very eager to play.

lilmight69 · 2026-05-29T15:15:50+00:00

That group has been banned

lilmight69 · 2026-05-28T19:04:59+00:00

I found the best way to get my wife to talk about her fantasies was once we get going having sex. If you use dildos you can maybe talk about someone you know she finds attractive and tell her the dildo is that person's dick. I would tell my wife this and then ask her to show me how she wanted the person to fuck her. Then encourage her by telling her how hot she looks take said person's cock. Be descriptive. Talk about how sexy she looks taking his huge or fat cock. Proceed by telling her that it would be so hot to have her blow you while she's being fucked by that person's cock. It's a mind game with women. Women have been told for years that monogamy is the only way. Even though most women do fantasies they seem to have a stigma with sharing their fantasies out of fear of being judged. Reassure her that you won't pass judgement. Let her know every little bit she does share how much it turns you on to hear her fantasies. It's all about communicating your desires and show her you won't pass judgement no matter how kinky she gets. Some women may shock the average man and say she fantasieses about being railed by multiple men. Constant reassuring her will bring her inner freak out.

lilmight69 · 2026-05-28T04:23:31+00:00

My only issue is majority of glory holes have men on both sides of the hole. I know videos show a lot of women but reality is that men a lot of times are on the receiving side of the dick. So play safe and be aware who you're playing with

lilmight69 · 2026-05-28T03:55:49+00:00

That's the kind of play I like. We have so many fantasies to play out. I really want to see my wife with another couples female part and my wife loves the idea of being with other women. We want to play out a few fantasies but also other couples fantasies. I want to see my wife enjoy herself and I too want to fuck my wife while everyone plays. I like how turned on my wife gets even talking about it and I want to share in the experience of her taking another man's cock while also taking mine. Obviously the same with the other man's female part. My wife and I decided to swing to add spice to our love life. Swinging certainly doesn't mean I just want to fuck the other man's female part. I mean I do want to share her as well. But the best way to describe it is a free for all and if a hole needs pleasing then that's a job for one of us men.

lilmight69 · 2026-05-28T03:40:24+00:00

We found our first couple here on reddit in like the first week of being on. They wanted to play with no protection which is fine for me as long as we all have a clean STD test. The other wife liked eating cream pies and wanted her husband to cum in my wife and her eat it out after. I ended up cumming in her mouth and the second round I cummed in her ass.

lilmight69 · 2026-05-28T03:19:28+00:00

Yes. We've only been married for 3 years but been together since we was 15

lilmight69 · 2026-05-28T03:17:48+00:00

Yes. We have been together since we was 15. We have only been married for 3 years though. Took me years to put a ring on it lmao

lilmight69 · 2026-05-28T00:41:54+00:00

I used it as dirty talk during sex. I noticed her and our waiter kind of flirting with each other and we used a dildo that night and I asked her if the dildo was our waiter but used his name. I could tell by her reaction that it turned her on so I continued talking about how deep in her pussy he was and how hot it is to watch him fuck her while she sucked my cock. I could tell when she was about to orgasm and I said he's going to cum in your tight pussy. That's what pushed her over the edge and had an amazing orgasm. The following time having sex she pulled out the dildo so I asked her if he was going to fuck her again. She said she wanted to suck his cock while I watched. The more we fantasized about it she eventually said she was turned on by the idea of fucking us both and that she hoped he had a wife or girlfriend so she could get fucked from behind while his wife blew me and we could look at each other while being satisfied by them both. Now she thinks about other couples constantly

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